^^^ Hear, hear.
^^^ Hear, hear.
I have left him... 4 now...Talking didn't work at all he just doesn't get it. I am at my moms house and i turned my cell off.it's hard 4 me not to call him but i'll survive. thanks for the support guys.
Wow, I'm sorry hun. Stay strong!![]()
People are not ruled by their memories.
Hi Star!
I just wanted to offer you a *HUG* and hope that you find the strength to sort out this issue and decide what is best for you. Weigh all of the pros and the cons, and decide whether or not to stay or leave. You are my age, and we are way too young to be staying with men who aren't ready to sacrifice their meanness and harshness for us. We have feelings and those feelings need to be acknowledged. Take care girl. Good luck! Stay up!
Ranika





Star, you joined around the same time I did and I have been reading your posts, off and on, for that period.
I am a 49 year old fella who has seen a lot first hand and watched all manner of people do just about everything else. I couldn't tell you one way or another what to do about your feelings on this. I truly doubt anyone here, with any sense of reality behind it, could either.
We know too little about each other and nothing at all about your BF, other than what you have written.
I would pass along a kind word to you and hope it works out for your best, but other than that I would suggest that you not make any decisions based on anything you might read on a web community like this one.
Peace.
Fiat justitia, pereat mundus.
BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?





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"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."



Hi Star,
We can make these things very complicated in our heads--debate, rationalize, forgive, get angry, make up.
In the end, I think the main question is simple--do the two of you make one another better...do you feel like a better person when you're with this man? It sounds to me like he feels better, because he can exercise his cynicism, but that often you are feeling worse about yourself and life. That is not a healthy balance.
You are young, and you owe it to yourself especially now to listen to your instincts. You will see in time that his cynicism has a deep root in something he needs to work out--but it is a DEEP root, that would take years to unravel, even if you knew how to do it. I'm going to guess that his father made him feel worthless--probably because there were dreams the father wanted to live out and didn't, so he took it out on his kid. Am I right?
Good luck with this, Star. If the cynical stuff is continuing, fly free. You'll be glad you did later.
JK Jim
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