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    Yekhefah
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    What would you say?

    You have a friend who is abusing drugs and alcohol to a self-destructive extent, has a supportive husband who loves her anyway, and is obsessed with another guy (who has told her he doesn't want her) to the extent that she stalks him and says she's willing to throw her whole life away chasing him. She acknowledges that she needs to quit drinking - as she pours another drink. There is no arguing with her; she keeps insisting that this guy is her whole life and she'll piss away everything she has chasing him, because she's convinced that deep down he really loves her.

    What do you tell her?

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    aussiepunkshocker
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    "Hello - reality check!"

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    Tell her nothing and take her husband when she's gone. Sounds like he's a keeper!

    (People in the throes of substance abuse do not care about anything. Don't waste your breath.)

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    I have met people like her that are in a state of denial. Some people like the excitement of the chase better than actually being with the person they desire. Once they feel as though they "have" that person the excitement is over. And of course alcohol probably enhances those feelings quite a bit. A lot of people feel like they can do anything once they get a little alcohol in them, good example is drive drunk. They lose their sense of judgement. The alcohol must stop first, then maybe a little reality will kick in. Hopefully, her husband will have mercy on her and still be there to pull her up when it does.

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    If it were my friend I'd say
    Goodbye. I will not stand around and watch you self destruct. When you are ready to acknowledge your issues and want to seek help, I'll be here for you, but until then, your on your own.

    Said to my own mother. Who 10 years later is still doing the same shit. She will never change, and I refuse to be brought down with her.

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    Two of my best friends (a married couple with two gorgeous sons) are going through this exact situation right now.
    She fell for another guy, who introduced her to shooting up Meth, and has now left her husband to be with this other loser.

    It's awful to have to watch, but in the end you can't run other people's lives for them. Sometimes we have to let the people we love make their own mistakes..

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    I think that she gets a thrill out of the attention she's getting. sure you shouldn't ignore someone you love because they have a problem but you also shouldn't give them the kind of attention that will make them want to keep on with what they are doing...
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