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    i'm friends with a girl that i work with, and we are both serious hustlers.

    i have a problem though.

    she seems to always have a regular when shes at work. i didn't think she did extras because she was like me, always talking trash on the girls that did.

    well well well. i guess desperate times call for desperate measures.

    she confided in me that she let this guy jack off while she danced... and i know who she was talking about, because he had asked me to do it first! I can't tattle on her either... not only bc i care for her, but bc the boss KNEW about it, and let them go into the office.

    and not only that... the more i watch her "hustle", i see that it's nothing more than making out with the custy.

    i'm irritated because i DO feel she's fucking with my $.

    but shes my friend... i'm torn

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    Ouch, that sucks, and it's not an easy thing to deal with. Not that I'm justifying what she's doing, but is she going through some hard times right now? Money, relationships, something that could explain the change in her?

    If she is maybe that's a way for you to talk to her about it.

    If she's not, if she's just following this ever growing trend of dancers turning tricks in the bar, well, there's not much you can do about that. Have it out with her, pray that she stays sensible or turn your cheek and keep busting your ass at work.

    That sucks.




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    well i know shes trying to save $3k for an engine... but still...

    these regs are ppl she's known BEFORE she needed the 3k... i'm starting to think she just makes out as part of her hustle.

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    Blah that is irritating. That kind of "Service" is why women should go into private dancing/escorting.
    I am not sure to say though since she is your friend. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silky View Post
    Blah that is irritating. That kind of "Service" is why women should go into private dancing/escorting.
    I am not sure to say though since she is your friend. Good luck.
    Whoa now, not all private dancers are out there turning tricks or doing extras. I can't speak on escorting because I've never done that.

    Ok, just wanted to add that in there..

    But Corgan, I see why you would fell so let down. Do you think if you talked to her about it, it would do any good. I know if it was me, I would pull my friend asside and let her know that she is to good of a woman to have to stoop so low to make some extra money.







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    How did you react when she told you that... and WHY did she tell you that? Does she think that it's accepted or okay? Letting her know that doing that is wrong (and gross) and giving her a disapproving eye might give her a wake up call... but her reaction to that depends on her personality and the friendship between you two.
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    she admitted it to me on the ride home when i was ranting about the guy trying to make me do it!

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    If I were you, I'd leave it alone. Talking to her about how it upsets you probably won't change anything in her behavior, but it will almost definitely change your friendship. I've had friends confide some pretty scandalous stuff to me, and I just listen. I don't feel it's my place to make those kinds of decisions for them. Plus, if I'm still making money, why do I really care? Her limits/boundaries are her business.

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    Oh i def understand Cin, I do private dancing as well, and it is strictly dance entertainment as i do in the club.

    My personal belief is that if a girl wants to add extreme extras into her entertainment routine, it should be done outside of the club..either through her private business affairs on her own or through an escort service.
    As a private dancer, i am not against another private dancer who wants to do more with the customer, because it does not directly affect anyone else like it does in the club. That is why i made the statement, not assuming it of all private dancers.

    Corgan, if I was in your situation, i would probably respect her honesty with you atleast. She could have stayed silent. Ask her if she plans to keep it a one time thing or not. If she realizes how much her actions in the club disrespect you in the club, she may quit it (if she even plans on doing something like that again.)

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    Also, try pointing out that she could make more doing that if it were OTC full-time instead of ITC sometimes.

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    thats fucking disgusting and low class.. why even associate yourself with a skank like that.... people will do anything for money... thats sad.

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    ^ Woah.




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    If she's really your friend, let it go.

    I think most of us have done things we weren't proud of at some point or another, whether it was this extreme or not.
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    I think you should just let it go. As long as you're still making money what would be the point in worrying about it? If she hadn't told you about it, she still would have been doing it and you simply wouldn't have known. In every club somebody's doing a little something extra whether we know who it is or not. I don't think it should change your actions towards her or anything, unless of course she's trying to influence you to do it too. It's all about bounds anyway.

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    Well, you'll have that sometimes. It doesn't really change anything else about her (these things can co-exist, being a whore and being a good person).

    I would just dissociate yourself from her at work, and step up your game.

    If she asks, tell her you just don't want customers to expect from you what they get from her. I told that to a friend once, and after that she would bring me into her double dances at twice the normal dance price and tell the guy, "now she's different from me and you better respect that and keep your hands off her," and there we'd be with his hand up her skirt and my boobs in his face. It was wierd, but it worked.



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    Quote Originally Posted by KamrynAnne View Post
    thats fucking disgusting and low class.. why even associate yourself with a skank like that.... people will do anything for money... thats sad.
    I could have a field day with this, but I'm just gonna say you are entitled to your ignorant judgement. I don't know what you hoped to accomplish by saying something so crude.
    Corgan came here to get advice about someone she cares about and insulting that person doesn't prove anything other than that your communication skills certainly have "low class" written all over them. Sometimes I take for granted that MOST SWers are not rude and tactless and then I find out that I am wrong on occasion.



    Corgan, I think you are right to be concerned about your money but I don't know if there is much you can do. It's very much a matter of your personal boundaries, so you might have to separate yourself from her at work if you feel she is being insensitive to your financial situation. I don't think what she is doing makes her a "bad" or immoral person, but I might be angry if this person were my friend and her illegal activities were upsetting a balance of fairness in the work field. If this bothers you to a point where you think you might lose the friendship, then you might want to say something to her as non-confrontationally as possible.

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    sorry if my last post was a little harsh... my period is coming....

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    I really don't think you should think too much on it, it's best to keep to yourself in clubs. Strippers don't make good friends, and stripper friends do mess with your money.

    I don't like extras or girls who make clubs dirty, but it's going to happen...just have the power to focus on your money and your custys. It's rough, especially when it's slow, but in the end clean girls make as much if not more than dirty girls and we don't end up on the streets.
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    sorry for having an opinion

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    actually i think im a good communicator... i already said my comment was out of line... but do u honestly think its ok for girls in the biz to make the rest of us look like that??? thats kinda the jist im getting from you A.HEX??

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    Ok you apologized...let it go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    she admitted it to me on the ride home when i was ranting about the guy trying to make me do it!
    Actually, I think this really took a lot of guts for her to be honest with you. It would have been so easy for her to keep her mouth shut, period, but all the more so after you made your feelings known. I'm guessing she felt guilty and conflicted about doing such a thing, otherwise why confess when she knew you were totally opposed?

    I say definitely give her a break (UNLESS she starts to do this regularly of course). She made a mistake - and it seems pretty clear that she knows it. Went too far, and now she knows better.

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    i sincerely hope that she isn't still doing this i'm not there to keep an eye on her anymore either

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    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    she admitted it to me on the ride home when i was ranting about the guy trying to make me do it!
    Well, there ya go. She learned from that how strongly you feel about it. Personally, I'd avoid any potential future confrontation about it in favor of setting an example via my own actions. Like saying, "Wow, I made $500 tonight and I didn't have to suck anything."

    Okay, well, maybe that's not a good example of how to avoid confrontation.

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    ^ but lol, that's SO my style.

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