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    I live in the south where most men are traditional, door holding, pay for dinner, down home kind of boys.

    I find myself worrying when i go out with a traditional guy that they might not be cool with the fact i work at a club...or, i worry that, guys that will date me just think i might be easy, or they think ill eventually quit. I find myself afraid to date guys that know.

    Does anyone have this problem? I can kind of see how a lot of good guys wouldnt date a dancer..not becuase i think we do anything wrong, but because i think its hard for them to think of their girl getting naked for other men.

    I know this is an AGE OLD question, just want to know if it can be done!!!

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    It can be done! Though you're right, MOST guys can't deal with it.

    I think of my job as a weeding-out tool when it comes to dating. I'll tell a guy very early on that I dance, and if I get drama about it, he's gone. I don't have patience for that bullshit, and I don't want to waste another minute or ounce of energy with a guy who won't accept all of who I am, including the fact I have an unconventional job.

    I actually look forward to telling prospective dates/partners what I do...I like to get it out of the way early and find out if it's worth putting any more time and energy into this person.

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    I have problems finding a nice gentleman. Being in this business, guys want to take me out because they think that since I take off my clothes for a living, I'm an automatic easy lay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    It can be done! Though you're right, MOST guys can't deal with it.

    I think of my job as a weeding-out tool when it comes to dating. I'll tell a guy very early on that I dance, and if I get drama about it, he's gone. I don't have patience for that bullshit, and I don't want to waste another minute or ounce of energy with a guy who won't accept all of who I am, including the fact I have an unconventional job.

    I actually look forward to telling prospective dates/partners what I do...I like to get it out of the way early and find out if it's worth putting any more time and energy into this person.

    i agree with this, you can use it to your advantage to "weed" out the bad ones.

    Although it mightbe hard, many women on here are happy with their SO, im sure theres someone


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    I'm having a miserable time dating and being a dancer. I don't know whether it's because of the business I'm in or the baggage I now have from being in it....

    Reasons why I think I'm having a hard time:
    1. My schedule constantly changes and the times I work are not what your average man works.
    2. I meet guys that are almost always drunk.
    3. Guys have dated me for the novelty of having a dancer on thier arm and bed.
    4.They think it's my long term career choice.
    5. They are jealous of the money I make.
    6. I like to be spoiled in every way-materialistically, physically and emotionally!
    7. I'm picky with looks,attitude, behavior, creativity and intelligence.
    8. I may not be ready for the responsibilities of a relationship- I'm so set in my ways it's hard to change them to include someone in my life.

    This is what I can come up with for now. I'm sure if I had more time and thought into it I can come up with more reasons why I'm so single while being a dancer....
    "Where there is love there is life"-Mahatma Gandhi

    "Be The Best, F!ck The Rest"- P.P.


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    8. I may not be ready for the responsibilities of a relationship- I'm so set in my ways it's hard to change them to include someone in my life.
    I think this statement sizes up why some dancers have problems in relationships or in finding compatible mates.

    I don't think it's so much the dancing that is a problem as is the lifestyle many dancers lead. I know plenty of dancers who are stable and have stable relationships. I also know many who are going nowhere fast.

    Look at how many dancers smoke, party excessively, are always going out with their friends instead of coming home to their mate, drink to excess at work, don't live a stable life, have no money to show for dancing, don't treat daning as a regular job, choose boyfriends that are losers and pass over ones who will accept dancing as a line of work, and who are ambitious.

    Look at how many less than beautiful women have husbands and families and if they were to get divorced, find someone again, while the prettier women stay single.

    A decent guy will accept your dancing IF you the dancer are a stable person who just happens to dance for a living. On the other hand, if a dancer is the life of the party person who is accomplishing nothing in life, why would any guy who is ambitious want to be with someone like that?

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    I had already been dating my boyfriend for 3 years BEFORE i started dancing.

    It's always a struggle. He is very supportive but it is never easy for a guy to date a dancer. I work at a clubwhere there is no contact allowed but just the thought of me getting naked for strange men concerns him.

    The only reason he "copes" with it is coz I am in my final year of uni so he knows that dancing is not going to be my career. I dont think we would be together if I choose dancing as a permanent career.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina View Post
    I think this statement sizes up why some dancers have problems in relationships or in finding compatible mates.

    I don't think it's so much the dancing that is a problem as is the lifestyle many dancers lead. I know plenty of dancers who are stable and have stable relationships. I also know many who are going nowhere fast.

    Look at how many dancers smoke, party excessively, are always going out with their friends instead of coming home to their mate, drink to excess at work, don't live a stable life, have no money to show for dancing, don't treat daning as a regular job, choose boyfriends that are losers and pass over ones who will accept dancing as a line of work, and who are ambitious.

    Look at how many less than beautiful women have husbands and families and if they were to get divorced, find someone again, while the prettier women stay single.

    A decent guy will accept your dancing IF you the dancer are a stable person who just happens to dance for a living. On the other hand, if a dancer is the life of the party person who is accomplishing nothing in life, why would any guy who is ambitious want to be with someone like that?
    I agree my life isn't stable to have someone in it who is stable . It's not my partying ways(I'm a social drinker and hate doing the club thing), and it's not me not being ambitious ( I do have my BA in Psy and dancing my way to save money for my masters in counseling). I think it has to do with my attitude. I have very little patience and tolerance for certain things. Call me very picky. I am also not aggressive, so I wont pursue a man that I'm interested in unless they full on show interest in me. And if I do meet someone worth my time, I tend to slack off in making an effort to making it work by letting other resposibilities get in the way. I will need someone with complete patience and understanding to deal with someone like me. I know I need to work on changing my attitude but I feel like anyone who deals with the way I am now must sure be worth being with.
    Now trying to get back with the original question:
    Dancing can have a positive and/or negative effect on the attitude you have towards relationships. I know it's affected me negatively but I know this now and am working on how I can gain a positive attitude again.
    "Where there is love there is life"-Mahatma Gandhi

    "Be The Best, F!ck The Rest"- P.P.


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