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    Default Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    Am I the only one that gets a little depressed by guys who come in that have been married for a long time and complain that they're tired of their wives? Or by ones who are getting married that are like....I have cold feet, I'm just getting married because we've been together for a long time blah blah. Maybe I am insane but if I ever get married I want it to be to someone who's CRAZY in love with me and excited about marrying me. I just hear this kind of thing so often though. My boyfriend says it's because not all guys go to the strip club for their bachelor party so I'm not getting an accurate representation of people who are getting married. but still!

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    i totally know how you feel...it is depressing but you have to remind yourself this is a small aspect of society we deal with.

    Your boyfriend is right. Every time i have some married guy trying to push the limits with me i get totally disgusted...wondering, why doesnt he spend that $500 on his wife, and then he can touch her all he wants??

    But, the real men that are good husbands and good boyfriends usually arent trying that crap. A lot of people are unhappy in their marriages, cheat, divorce, etc....but you will meet someone who is crazy in love with you and wouldn't be bored! they are out there!

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    In a recent study, 80% of men said that, given a choice, they would marry their wives all over again. PLs are not a good representation of all married men. Just keep this in mind.

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    I feel the same way. I think, "I hope this never happens to me!" I make myself feel better by trying to imagine the poor woman married to the greasy guy with bad teeth trying to get his fingers under my top and I'm sure that she's equally unhappy.
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    Yeah, it does sometimes. There are times when I see a married couple in public and the thought that goes through my head is "he's probably cheating on his wife" or "I wonder if he spends his money on some stripper." I know that my experiences with men from the stripclubs is not necessarily an accurate representation of the general population...but I still think really cynically sometimes.

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    It does make me depressed about relationships sometimes. Then again, the people who have good relationships are less likely to ever come to the club. So I just try to think that not all men out there are like that, and heck even if most of them were at least mine isn't. That's good enough for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rozz View Post
    In a recent study, 80% of men said that, given a choice, they would marry their wives all over again. PLs are not a good representation of all married men. Just keep this in mind.
    This is true. Unfortunately it's also the case that guys who are too cheap/prideful/lazy to go to a SC for distraction will try to cheat with the neighbor, the co-worker, or some random woman they meet.

    That's why I tell civilian women not to fear the stripper or even the hooker- fear the woman close by who knows exactly what's going on with your marriage.

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    I'm bitter as fuck now and i'm not even stripping. I can't imagine what it would be like when I go back into a club.

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    It's surprised me how many women I meet who never considered working in the sex industry (it's hard for us to believe, but some women never consider sex work)....say THE SAME things I hear from dancers and escorts.

    I was hanging out with a friend of mine who is a teacher & devout Christian, never a party-er, & she was cracking jokes about how men "only want sex" and "they leave when they get what they want"....The only thing we have in common is that we know eachother....

    OTOH, I've learned a lot about myself that I wouldn't be willing to admit had I not learned the hard way by trying to make relationships work. It's not all a waste of time...

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    Yeah we really only deal with a small part of the population. Think of all the times you have had guys tell you their really not into strip clubs/happily married/only here because there friend/ coworker wanted to.. this happens every so often and you know their being honest when they pay you for the dance but don't actually take it. I still have faith in men! :-)
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    all the time. Some days im the most jaded person in the world, some days(rarely) i TRY to have some faith in men.

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    I actually feel a little bit sorry for most of the men I dance for. I mean...if they were getting what it is they wanted out of their relationships, I honestly think they wouldn't even be at a SC. I was always open with the SC environment even before I started dancing. I would go all the time with my friends and boyfriends. I learned a lot about what drives people to go to one. The guy friends that I went with were just miserable in their relationships, and I couldn't blame them! The women they were with were clingy, possessive, insecure bitches...some were even cheating on them right under their noses, treating them like crap, yada, yada, yada. Oh well...there's always two sides of the story, but this is just what I have observed from my guy friends. Then again, I also spent 4 years of my life in Europe where nudity just isn't that big of a deal like it is here in the U.S., which is probably why I'm a lot more liberal I guess.



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    ^^^^^Keep in mind that men (all people) are different in relationships than they are in friendships. I had a friend who pretty well used and tortured her mates but was a blast for me to hang with. I had a boyfriend who would run to his friends and tell a one-sided version of events to make me look mean. They had no idea how sneaky and manipulative that jerk was. They'd come plead his case and I'd have to share the whole story to 'clear my name'.
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    I think in general relationships are fucked up. Over half of marriages end in divorce. People don't marry for the right reasons and they don't marry the right people. They usually get married too young with little more to go on than a chemical reaction designed to promote procreation that lasts just long enough to gestate a child and see it through infancy. Then after a couple of years it's like, "Where'd the magic go?" Well, duh. Along with the chmicals, the novelty wore off, yo. Now you're left with someone you used to be all hot and bothered for and now can't fucking stand because you were more concerned about superficial bullshit than real compatibility factors.

    Can you tell I don't believe in love?

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    you know what bothers me more than that?
    bucks parties that come in and the guy who is about to get married is looking for extras, asks for your phone number etc.
    it's not like he has been married for 20 years and got bored or fell out of love, this is supposed to be a guy who is in love and about to get married and he is already looking for a fling.

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    Yeah. I think I have become jaded and cynical. I think I put too much emphasis on being sexy, and I wish I would value myself (and be valued) for being a good person. Also, I tend not to tell the guy about stripping soon enough, and this causes guilt.

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    I'll be the dissenting voice and say that every night I feel super lucky to be in a good relationship with a good man, whether it be from meeting married guys who want a date or listening to girls in the dressing room talk about their dickhead boyfriends. And if I was single I would feel lucky not to be in a bad relationship! Good ones exist. Here's an uplifting thread: Happy Endings??

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    Default Re: Does stripping ever make you depressed about relationships?

    Only read the OP:

    Stripping doesn't make me depressed about relationships, because there are plenty of guys that don't go to strip clubs like your bf said. Life in general makes me deprssed about relationships lol. In or out of the club. Society is changing from what it used to be so I don't think there is any real hope as of right now.

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    To an extent, its depressing, but then, it also makes me even more glad to have my boyfriend... everytime a PL does something stupid, it makes me appreciate the respect that I have at home that much more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rozz View Post
    In a recent study, 80% of men said that, given a choice, they would marry their wives all over again. PLs are not a good representation of all married men. Just keep this in mind.

    Soooo true! There are worthy guys out there. I'm married, I'm very happy and so is my husband. Don't lose hope!

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    It makes me depressed about relationships when the only guy I've truly cared for a year and half -- and done so much for -- thinks I'm stripping despite how it makes him feel.

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