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    Default Hanging up the shoes???? When did u know you were done???

    Lately at my club it has been nothing but drama and bickering and just plain stupidity.... I feel as though my club is so small and everyone knows everyones business.. i feel as though i am constantly walking on eggshells and being watched for everything i do or say.... the last few days a few girls at work have pushed me over the edge... sometimes i just don't know if i can handle to work in this industry much longer.... i have worked on and off for two years, maybe a little more, and its gotten to the point where i am mentally, emotionally and physically uncapable of working in this industry.... I used to have thick skin, but its gotten to the point lately where enough is enough!!!! anybody have some advice or insight????

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    it all started a few nights ago, when a fellow dancer and i went to the private room with a customer for a half hour.... We were having fun, goofing around and being silly.. my friend decides it would be funny to throw a glass across the room.. i just kinda sat back and watched... well, yesterday i get called to the office and got accused of making a mess in the room, and am no longer able to consume alcohol...... because of this incident alone.. i don't care about the alcohol part, but when management treats me like a fifth grader and makes a rule like that, im not going to be kosher with that.... secondly, a girl last night starts harping on me, telling me i have mental problems, that i pill pop my prescription antidepressants, starts raising her voice for all to hear in the dressing room, that i am always on some kind of pill.... I fucking lost it.. that was the last straw with that.... You don't go on and on about someone's mental health like that... Now i feel as though the entire club knows all my business, knows i am on antidepressants, and its frankly gotten to the point where I'm just simply finished.... Its just getting too close for comfort, the fact that everyone talks and gossips and watches, etc.... Anyone whos ever worked in a small club can probably sympthasize with me...

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    I'd try a new club before quitting all together. Do you think you'd be happier with a change of scenery, or is it really just the whole industry that you can't do anymore?

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    If you are around people that make your work enviornment shitty then you are going to hate your job. Change clubs and don't socialize with dancers, be nice but don't get close. Don't let them know you take pills or any buisness of yours.

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    I second that. If it's the industry altogether then it's probably better to quit, but if it's just the club you either need to quit at that club or alternatively, spend a month or two working elsewhere before going back to your usual club.
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    I know how you feel. I quit about 2 years ago. I got a regular job and danced on and off in Vegas (once every three months). I would say try a new club. Sometimes that is all you need. DAncing takes a toll on you emotionally and physicaly. Take a vacation, it's the perfect time of year. I had the same drama at my old club that I worked at for 3 years and I just tried another club for a month to get away from the drama. It helps to take a break=)

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    Default Re: Hanging up the shoes???? When did u know you were done???

    if i were you, i would quit, but i don't know enough about the job market in your area to be able to fairly suggest quitting dancing as a viable economic option.

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    Well... for a few months before I quit, I pretty much only went to work for the purpose of making enough money to keep myself out of work for the next few days. I also could not accomplish this without drinking a LOT. It had been something of a borderline bad scene for me for awhile at this point.

    My last night was actually a great one. I had one of those magical stripping nights where everyone wanted to go to VIP with me just based on momentum alone and ended up making enough money to keep me out of work for the next month if I budgeted in a smart way. Over the course of that month, I realized I didn't want to go back, at all, ever.

    I just kinda knew. I was in denial about it for awhile and told myself that I'd go back eventually, but it's been about 8 months at this point and I haven't wanted to dance again badly enough to actually go through with it.

    It helps if you have your money straight, hopefully much straighter than I did... life without the potential to make a grand in a few hours is definitely nothing like life WITH that potential...
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    I can't believe theres not any more posts!!! maybe im not popular enough!!! just kidding...

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    eh, i can get the same grand keeping my clothes on, in a few hours. so i'm not feeling the loss. and to a lesser extent, it is possible to get perfectly decent money without having to get naked and fight off ungrateful men for it.

    when the customers became annoying assholes i had to just somehow get money out of, when all the fun was out of it, when i just found none of it entertaining to actually be in the middle of (and when the money dropped in the area i worked), i quit.

    i still do pole dancing at home, and may expand the hobby into something more. ironically, i do better polework at home than i ever did in the club because i didn't want to ever be that girl who does stuff strictly 'for the custys' or 'to make more money dancing'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalligirl View Post
    If you are around people that make your work enviornment shitty then you are going to hate your job. Change clubs and don't socialize with dancers, be nice but don't get close. Don't let them know you take pills or any buisness of yours.
    second this

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    eh, i can get the same grand keeping my clothes on, in a few hours. so i'm not feeling the loss. and to a lesser extent, it is possible to get perfectly decent money without having to get naked and fight off ungrateful men for '.
    really? do tell

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    Default Re: Hanging up the shoes???? When did u know you were done???

    shrug, people have posted about other work off and on again. there is always bartending/waitressing, which are more labor intensive in some ways than stripping and much less so in others.

    there's specialty work in niche markets, ranging from computer-based work (the most known option, though few seem to know about the range within that option-- quite a fearsome and lucrative one) to more obscure or less known markets/niches.

    there's one market in particular in which the cost of entry is quite low, it is sorta but not all that computers-based (anyone able to get onto SW could swing, really), and the hourly rate is minimum three figures, sometimes approaching what lawyers charge (and for at most babysitting a server!). no degrees or fancy certs required, although they certainly don't hurt and are attainable in a few weeks.

    however, much like stripping, the clients are nutty as all get out and the field is full of lazy nonhustlers who coast by making 'better than a dayjob', so to speak. although it is certainly not work for people who love to work nights and weekends, since there is no night or weekend work involved about 99 percent of the time.

    and then there are all sorts of random niche markets i've known people to bank in, ranging from professional clotheshorse (you tell rich people what to wear a few hours a month and make champagne room rates per hour and get to keep it all) to a guy i knew who designed custom dentures of all things.

    i mean, strippers are supposed to be out there, crazy, ready to think on the edge and allathat, and yet they have such a narrow view of where money can be found in the non-naked world.

    a part of me wants to get specific and ultra-detailed, and a part of me feels like that girl guarding the sekrit of the club where you can make 2k in 3 hours, no extras and no pressure.

    that was another thing that kept me from coming back to the clubs when i decided to quit-- realising that the same guys who will give you 500 or 2k or whatever in the club will often give you so much more in a 'straight' business context. i'd take 50k for a monthlong contract even if i had to pay 2-3 other people to help me fulfill it, and you know, stripping doesn't ever provide that kind of opportunity. although it is one of the best ways to walk with cash in hand nightly that there is. the question of whether that is a good thing when most people have crappy impulse control is an open one, though.

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    Default Re: Hanging up the shoes???? When did u know you were done???

    I second changing clubs and guarding your info. I dread the thought of anyone I work with knowing my personal life. Most people know I'm divorced and I have a bf, but I tell 95% of customers that info anyway. I try not to say anything in the dressing room that I wouldn't tell a customer.

    It only takes one dumbass girl whom you've told all your secrets opening her mouth to make your life a living hell. If I wanted to, I could destroy a lot of girls I work with. I know about their brother being in prison, their health problems, their abusive parents, multiple bouncers they've dated, etc. I'm too nice to use it, which is good for them.

    On the other hand, if your regular is giving you money again, you should probably try to stick it out. Try faking an illness that only allows you to work 2x a week and find a new club in the meantime.

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