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    I don't know what to do. I found out after having x-rays on my knee that I now need an expensive MRI to find out what is wrong with my very swollen bruised and liquid filled knee ( I can barely walk on that knee and it periodically gives out on me). I also found out from a sonogram they did that I have unexplained fluid leaking onto my gallbladder and kidneys which gives me constant pains under my rib cage. They also found with the sonogram that I have a hernia in my groin (which they said is rare in females and usually only found in males) and that I also have alot of cysts. I also had a bladder infection and a pelvic infection possibly caused from the fluid leaking on to my gallbladder and possibly infecting it. Those are all the major problems that they found. I have been having alot of pain since November but was not able to afford to go to the doctor until now, and since then I have been going to the doctor at least once a week ( and I have to travel an hour and a half away to get to the doctor) so needless to say the bills are adding up. I am going to work every single day to be able to barely afford all of this, and now in a few days I have to go talk to a surgeon about all kinds of sugeries...yikes! Even customers are starting to notice my slight limp because I cannot cover it up.. I wear tall boots and put a knee brace underneath the boots and it still isn't doing the trick.

    Ughgh...sorry this is going on and on but I have absolutely nobody in my life to talk to...

    Another very very big problem (the biggest one) is that since November I have been physically unable to work out at all. I used to work out on the ellipticle 30 min.-1 1/2 hours per day plus weight training on all the major parts of my body. Since I have not been able to work out I am now getting a double butt!! (there is a second line underneath my butt line) and more cellulite is appearing on my bum and thighs. My lower stomache is getting all fat too. I am going crazy. It is starting to affect my money and my managers are starting to tell me that I have to lose weight. They have fired girls in the past for being overweight and now my job is at risk ( even though I am not technically overweight at 143lbs and 5'7"...I used to be 120 and even though I told them I cannot work out for medical reasons), but if I lose this job I will not be able to afford anything let alone all of these doctor bills. I have tried a couple times against doctors orders to work out but it failed miserably in terrible pains. Lately I have been thinking of taking diet pills even though I have never tried them before because I am desparate to lose this weight. I have heard that they don't work unless you exercise though. I eat very healthy and rarely have any bad fatty foods so I am all in the clear there. I just...I don't know what to do I am getting so depressed...I am only 22 years old for goodness sakes!! How do I lose this weight if I can't exercise?! and how can I pay my bills if I don't lose the weight before getting fired?!
    Please please please I need help
    I don't know what to do...
    MARYJANEKNIGHTLY

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    There's no other way around it. Take the bills and get fixed before you perm hurt yourself.

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    I am paying the bills already, but if I lose my job (which I will if i don't lose weight) I can not pay the bills for myself and all the people I support with money from dancing
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    Is there any way you can get a parent to cosign a loan? I'm usually against loans unless it is extreme, and this seems extreme. Cut costs, get a small loan until you get the surgery and lose some weight and then go back to work. Don't fuck your body up even more.

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    Well, don't work out, and don't take diet pills..you have enough health issues already.

    I don't know where you are from, but is there no government assistance/insurance that you may qualify for? Or perhaps you qualify for "charity care" from a hospital.

    Lastly, have you considered finding a different job that didn't depend on your weight AND that gives you health insurance? Mostly all full time jobs offer health benefits and surgery is extremely costly. I think that is a better option that killing yourself working. At some places you begin to have health benefits only 30 days after beginning work! Other places may be 3 months, but some of your surgeries *may* be able to be postponed until you are covered. Lastly, have you tried talking to your doctors? Some are reasonable when you let them know that you are not able to pay..or can set you up on a payment plan at least. Best wishes. *HUGS*

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    Lady, you are in some serious health trouble! Right now isn't the time to strain your muscles or starve yourself of needed nutrients. You MUST rest and heel. I think you should stop dancing, as your health problems are going to get worse with the physical excertion on your knee and groin.

    Not to make an example out of you honey, but ladies, this is a PERFECT example of why strippers NEED health insurance and LOTS of savings!

    Good luck, perhaps you can work in the club as a doorgirl?

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    thanx hor ze hugs i need them now...
    Let's see here
    I can not get a loan because I have no credit, not bad credit, just no credit at all. My parents will be unable to support me because I support them and their finances are...not good. I have no other options for other jobs with health insurance (ihave searched for 2 years now) because all of those jobs require you to be bilingual, which I am not. I also have trouble getting other jobs because I have no solid resume. I have been a stripper since legal age and before that I did under the table work all through schooling age. The job market is very very limited for me. Stripping is the only job currently that can support me and all of the other people that rely on me. I am currently working on payment plans with the doctor.. but i have payments for many many other things too..and all together it is barely affordable
    oi!
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    ps...
    i can not work as a door girl, waitress, or bartender unless i fuck the manager and I absolutely refuse to do that, even in my condition. I cannot rest and heal..I HAVE to work or alot of people will not have food on their plate.
    MARYJANEKNIGHTLY

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    Damn girl....I wish I had some great advice for you, but Viviana and Katrine covered my ideas.. good luck hon, good vibes are coming your way. All I can say at this point is that I'm sorry your going through this, but you'll be in my thoughts, best of luck!

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    I'm sorry I'm out of ideas for now.

    In regards to your weight.. are you watching your diet?

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    I have always had a very healthy diet with plenty of vegetables and good fruits. I eat only fish and chicken and nuts for protien. The only fats I usually have are the occasional olive oil. The only bread I have is wheat on the occasions when I visit subway. I have very good eating habits.
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    is there any way to disguise the weight if i can't lose it?
    MARYJANEKNIGHTLY

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    Ugh, this is all horrible.

    The BEST thing you can do is 1) Explain to your dependents that they need to take care of themselves...Your health problems all together are SO bad that you can either be permanently disabled or DEAD if you don't fix them NOW. And 2) is find a way to get everything fixed at the same time.

    You can apply for Medicaid if the doctor is willing to vouch your poor health is life-threatening.

    Sometimes weight gain is from physical stress- your body is holding onto weight as a hedge against catastrophic illness (so you can live off of the fat in case you are unable to eat or move for a period of time. I have lost weight during illnesses so I know this to be true.) Don't try to "melt" it off because it won't go anywhere.

    Please....Don't be afraid to ask people within reach for assistance of any kind..."Sometimes when God shuts a door, He opens a window."

    PS Look into "medical bankruptcy"...It is an option for someone in your (dire!) case. can help you further.

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    thank you so so much madmaxine, that site was most helpful as far as getting credit goes and so on. thank you for some positive feedback.
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