Some of you may or may not know that I live with my grandmother. I love her to death and she means a lot to me. I also live in a small town. My grandma raised me and I use to not mind her knowing all my business because there wasn't really that much to know when I was a teenager and I really didn't care then. But now since I am older I don't care to discuss things as much as I use to because I like some privacy and I like to "claim" my life as my own. My family discusses a lot of their "business" to one another and if tell someone one thing than you mind as well get on the news and annouce it because they don't have much to do but discuss everyone else's life. Some people in my family will show concern not because they really give a rat's ass but they want something to talk about. I don't really talk much anymore and I have become quite silent. I like to listen but what I hear usually goes through one ear and out the other. I just don't really give a shit what Betsy Mae was doing in her yard yesterday.
Examples of feeling like my private life is being invaded
"Why'd you lock your door"?
"I wasn't trying to read your mail but I noticed ____, who is that"?
"Why don't you want to talk to _____ on the phone"?
"Why don't you talk to me anymore"?
"Did you get your period yet"?
"You need to put on some weight", everyone in the family is obese
"Why are you so cold all the time"?
"Why can't you just get a job around here like I did"?
The problem is she doesn't have a lot going on anymore and she wants me to share my life with her, I don't mind sharing certain things but I have to have some things for myself. I tryed explain this but she got really defensive. Can anyone relate to me or give me advice?



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My dad is over at my house constantly, doing yardwork, working on other projects around the place---and sometimes it drives me nuts. He is retired now, and obviously a bit bored, and sees my place as a way to keep himself busy and to make things nice for me at the same time. He doesn't understand the whole privacy thing, because we are, as he puts it, family! I suspect your grandma has the same outlook---I think it comes from being part of a generation where the nuclear family was just closer. They don't really understand that grown women might like to have their privacy. 
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