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    Default Issue with very new regular... how to handle?

    Ok, so since I've started, I've had this one guy come in a few times solely to see me (he likes legs/feet), but now he wants to date me.

    I created a "dancer email" and gave it to him, and this is what he says:

    "First off, reply to this soon as you read it so I know you got it!

    Second, thanks for a lovely time; but as I'm sure you've guessed by now, I like ya a little too much to just see you at the club! What I'd like to do, as soon as you feel like it and have an available day, is take you to the restaurant of your choice...and then wherever else you might like to go. Believe me, Kira: I'm quite serious about this. Clearly we're comfortable with each other, and we like each other...even though, true, I don't know all that much about you, or you me. That, of course, is what getting together somewhere else is for!

    You seem like a dynamite girl, in every respect. I like to think I'm at least close to that myself (except, of course, for the 'girl' part!). Let's find out: what do you say?"




    Of course I don't want to go OTC, but what's the best way to say no?

    ...now I see why you girls think regs are a PITA...

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    I smell a www.voltakira.info coming on.

    Ok girl, you need to put an end to this NOW!! Tell him like it is, don't pull any punches. If the money stops, there is money to be made elsewhere, I promise you. Tell him you aren't interested in dating, and don't even say "maybe". This fuckoe reeks of stalker...

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    I have this happen all the time. He will either come in to see you or he won't, that's just it. I either don't answer emails like this or I say that I only work at the club and have personal rules that I always stick by. like I said, they either take the hint and come back to spend money in the club or understand that them whining about wanting to see me outside the club just isn't going to change my mind.
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    I would advise either not answering it, or answering something to the effect of "the club doesn't permit us to see customers outside the club-it makes them look bad with prostitution laws... do you want me to lose my job?"

    I've pulled this on a few guys... It doesn't break the fantasy as much as saying "no way.... this lovely time with you is ONLY work, and nothing more" and it also implies that you are communicating on a REALLY personal level-who HASN'T talked about their jobs with someone else? I'm sure all of us have a universal fear of not having job security... mainly though, its pretty neutral... its not saying you ARE interested in them and leading them on, but its not breaking their idea that you like spending time with them.

    If they're spending, this works for drawing it out a LITTTLE longer, though it may not appease(i had one guy swear "but if you go out with me, i PROMISE i'll never come to this club again so you WON'T be seeing a customer!" followed by him not showing up again, and not emailing or anything. THAT broke the fantasy, that I wasn't swayed by his argument)

    If they're not spending, or not spending enough to make up for the headache of tiptoeing the interest line, then its better to be harsh, remind them that this IS your living, NOT a night on the town, or the search for the perfect lover.

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    yeah sadly once they start pushing for OTC..you can pretty much kiss then goodbye. You may be able to drag it out a bit more...but he does sounds kinda of stalkerish and it may be better to cut the cord now.
    Tell him you arent allowed to date customers and that you are so busy right now you dont have even a spare minute to date anyway. That the club is your only social outlet(tell him you are in school, have a sick mom to take care of...whatever...something that takes up huge amounts of time). This might get you a few more times of him coming in...but you'll notice the amount he spends getting less and less as you keep saying no to OTC. If its worth it to you...try to get what you can out of him. If you dont want to deal with the pressure and whining and bitching and a million emails a day...tell him now that you will never date him.

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    say you have a bf

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    This guy is going to have an unusually short self life. Put him off as long as you can. You might want to say that you've been having problems with that email account and you're not sure what's going on... but that you'll email him as soon as you can figure it out or they fix the problem (aka, play dumb).
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    That ones a little too pushy, I'd cut him off.



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    He is stalker-ish. I would tell him straight up that you don't want to date him. If you just tell him "I'm not allowed to" he will just keep begging, promising it's okay, you won't get caught, etc. It's best to just basically say, "I don't want to give you the wrong idea. I have a lot of fun with you at work, but I am not interested in dating you."

    And as a PS- Katrine, am I the only one who thinks it's a little disturbing that in the search for a missing girl, that guy has all those images of her getting fucked up on the page? AAAA!!!! LOL.
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    We should write to that guy and tell him we know where Bianca is, she's working at our club in Indiana or whatever and make him send us thousands for info on her location.

    I think that this guy will teach you a small lesson, to not give out your phone # or email to anyone until they've proven their reliability. I learned my lesson a couple months after I started dancing. Gave my number to a guy who gave me a good amount of money over the course of a month or so. Not long enough. He text messaged one day later to ask me out and I never talked to him again. I would suggest simply not responding. Pretend you never got the email. He'll have to come to the club at least one more time to see you. When he asks you out, act shocked, like you really didn't expect it, and tell him that you can't because you just broke up with a long term bf and are not ready to see anyone yet. No, you do not want to go out "as friends" either. It feels the same as dating. It might work. If he keeps asking, scrap him and send one of your friends his way.

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    K, so he'd sent me another message with his cell number, but my response was along the lines of...

    "Thanks for inviting me out, that's very thoughtful, but I have no intention of dating anyone at this time.... we have fun at work and you're really cool, but I'd like to keep it at that... blah blah"

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    let us know what he responds with. Also, you could also tell him you're a lesbian and though you enjoy the company of men, you really prefer women. then he can have his little girl on girl fantasy w/o being threatened by other men. Unless you think he might be jealous about anyone who might take your attention; in which case I would cut him off because that can be annoying/dangerous.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyndi08 View Post
    ^^^ What the is he serious?

    Quote Originally Posted by carolina6 View Post
    We should write to that guy and tell him we know where Bianca is, she's working at our club in Indiana or whatever and make him send us thousands for info on her location.
    ^^^ Why is that the first thing that popped into my mind *hustler* haha

    He seems like the type that would taxidermy a human and sit it on the couch next to his favorite spot.

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