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    Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    I'm pretty new to the whole SC scene and pretty much just a lurker here, but I wanted to get some advice on something that happened to me the other night.

    The dancer sat down at my table, I bought her a drink. We chatted some and I asked for a private dance. Two songs and then I went back out. Later she came by again. We chatted some and she mentioned her boyfriend. Later we went back into the PDR. Things got pretty heavy and we ended up making out. She was pretty drunk. She gave me her contact information later.

    So far, you're thinking, yeah this is just an aggressive hustle. Here's the thing. I think she went a little bit further than she meant to. I like this dancer and I don't want her to think, "Oh God. Now this guy is going to ask me out on dates all the time." She's a sweetheart and I'd be happy to be her regular, but I don't want to play any games.

    What's the best way to let her know that I'm just interested in being a customer and not in head games?

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    Default Re: Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    Yeh she prob just got a bit caught up in the moment and made a mistake. It happens.

    To indicate that u just want to be her customer just keep coming back and paying her for her time. Don't ask her for OTC. Then Im sure she will get it.

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    Default Re: Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    ...for all you know she goes that far every night. She may not be thinking anything about it to begin with.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    Default Re: Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    Quote Originally Posted by viccafan
    What's the best way to let her know that I'm just interested in being a customer and not in head games?
    By just being a customer and not playing head games.

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    Quote Originally Posted by viccafan View Post
    Things got pretty heavy and we ended up making out. She was pretty drunk. She gave me her contact information later.
    This happens a lot with some dancers. You really have to assume this part of her hustle, and here you are, bought into it, thinking maybe she did more for you then for other customers. That of course is the key to a good hustle, so what's more likely here? You are special or you got the standard hustle from her?

    Anyway, she wants your money. Don't ask her out on dates. Spend money on her when you are in the club. As for her contact info... assume it's just like someone handing you a business card with contact info. It's for arranging times to see her in the club for business, nothing more and you'll have no problems. I do suggest though you think twice about giving her your info, or you may receive an excessive amount of calls. You're better off calling her when you want to come to the club, not having her call you when she wants you to come spend money on her. You really should keep your personal life well separated from that, and for the same reason, I don't give sales people my phone # in general.

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    She probably does that every night, told you she had a boyfriend so you wouldn't ask her out, and gave you the number to a prepaid phone. By the way, you can get herpes simplex virus 1 and 2 from kissing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    She probably does that every night, told you she had a boyfriend so you wouldn't ask her out, and gave you the number to a prepaid phone. By the way, you can get herpes simplex virus 1 and 2 from kissing.
    I guess I'm just assuming she went farther than she wanted based on how intoxicated she was. Anyway, I am glad I can contact her because it is nice to go to the club knowing a favorite dancer is there.

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    Default Re: Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    ^^ unless she drinks like that every night

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    Default Re: Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyndi08 View Post
    ^^ unless she drinks like that every night
    ^^^ like Cyndi suggests, that is possible (and I'd add, even likely).

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    How about, she may even like you and want to go farther.

    But if you don't, don't call her unless you just want to make sure she's working when you go in. Simple.

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    Quote Originally Posted by viccafan View Post
    Things got pretty heavy and we ended up making out. She was pretty drunk.
    Talk to her about her drinking. She might need a stable friend to encourage her in responsible behaviors. Then maybe she'll make out with just you when she's sober. Another win-win outcome in pubic health.

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    Default Re: Things got a little out of hand in the PDR... What now?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyndi08 View Post
    ^^ unless she drinks like that every night
    At the club I frequent, there are 2-3 dancers who often are hammered by midnight . However, it's a large SC with a nucleus of staff and local regulars--picture "Cheers" with tits--who become fairly protective of these merry maidens when they get "on one." Because there are no truly "private" areas in the club (there's a large, open area that I fondly refer to as the "Lap Corral"), it's not easy for even the drunkest dancers to massage a customer's tonsils with their tongues. Then again, a truly great hustle should, by definition, be mistaken for "a mistake"...
    Last edited by Budai; 06-24-2007 at 12:50 PM. Reason: Lingering doubts...

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