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    I feel like such a loser. I can't get over my fear of learning to drive. I think it goes back to growing up in the NYC area and never really needing a car. But now I feel as though I should get off my ass and practice but I find myself terrified of crashing. My family never had a car and when ever I am in a car I flinch when ever I see another car getting a wee bit too close. I just can't get over the fear of controlling such a big piece of equipment and being weirdly offset to the left side. There are mirrors, fucking mirrors! I don't know how to use mirrors and don't get me started on parallel parking. Argh!!!
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    Sophia,

    The good news is this: Once you learn to drive in NYC, you can confidently drive in any city in the United States.

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    I was the same way, i didnt even get my license until i was 19. Im in FL, and you HAVE to drive to get around. Your fear will probably go away after you drive a couple times. It did for me atleast..

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    i grew up in a city myself, but my parents insisted i learn to drive, esp since i decided it would be much easier maintenance if i had a pony instead. no repairs, payments, insurance or gas. what a deal!

    as far as learning, start with an automatic transmission. i'm short and learned to drive in an old jeep and an old volvo. both cars sit higher and it's easier to see around you. i dont like many cars cause they sit too low for me to see what i'm doing. or i cant reach the gas pedals. just coast around an empty parking lot once you get your permit.

    the trick with being to the left while driving: at the edge of the hood (where hood ornaments usually are) imagine a dot there. that dot should line up close to the edge of the road or the line of paint that borders it. that's how you'll know you're in the lane properly.

    if you need more help let me know...

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    oh yeah, and go out to the middle of nowhere to start. that's what my parents did. then i drove in the burbs and then the city.

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    I got my permit a year ago and I practiced maybe 4 times.... I just can't handle it. Now my permit has expired and I'm hoping that refreshing my memory on the theory behind driving will give me a boost of confidence. I just feel that I may be too old to learn new tricks.
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    Do you have a place that is out in the boonies away from the city where you can practice ? I feel bad for you but you can do it just practice and work into the city part later .

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousJ View Post
    Do you have a place that is out in the boonies away from the city where you can practice ? I feel bad for you but you can do it just practice and work into the city part later .
    I agree, get out of town to get started and work your way into the city. I didn't go near the Parkway or the Turnpike until I was confident around town. And when it came time for me to venture into the City, I found the oldest and biggest Caddie I could get my hands on, I swear it was as big as the QE fucking 2 and in I went and I came out unscathed. Driving in NJ is just like driving in NY, but with more attitude.

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    Okie doke, Lady Jade. I think the wilderness will make me more zen. Ommmmmmm...
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    It's always scary to learn something new, but if they average 16 year old can learn to do it and not kill themselves, I am sure you will be just fine! Good luck doll face!
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    Well, if you drive slowly you will be subjected to curses from drivers who just gotta get there right now. I feel for you because of your struggles. Learning to ride a bicycle is about the same experience as learning to drive in that after a while you dont even think about it. I just made myself laugh. Damn, I don't even think about driving since all sorts of other shit is going thru my head while I drive. Anyway, Good Luck.

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    im shit scared of driving too. at 23 i still havent bothered getting my licence, and i dont see it happening anytime soon. another female off the road,the better

    besides, im cutting carbon tax!!

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    Maybe try a driving school?

    I was terrified too, and at 19, I finally called a driving school. He had a special car that had pedals and controls on both sides of the car...so if I screwed up, he could take control of the car...yes, when I started he was breaking and steering a lot. But as I continued and gained more confidence, he was taking over less and less, and eventually, the entire hour he wouldn't do a thing.

    An instructor is really helpful for the actual test too...they usually know the routes the examiner will take you through, tricks for parallel parking, etc.

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    *laughs* don't feel too bad - i'll be 29 soon, and i still can't drive...

    if you do go with a driving school, be picky about your instructor - i did the whole young drivers thing when i was 16, and my instructor was such a stressed out ass the whole time that to this day i can't make myself sit in the drivers seat of a parked car with the engine off...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    I feel like such a loser. I can't get over my fear of learning to drive.
    Don't worry, I'm 24 and STILL don't have my license. I'm terrified of driving as well, but I know that I can't keep catching buses, bumming rides, or catching cabs forever. Especially not when I get into the career field.

    Anyway, after getting all my friends to "offer" to take me out for a lesson, and then flake on me, I decided to just pay for driving lessons. Yes they can be expensive, BUT I learned alot and my instructor was very patient with me.







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    Driving in the City is harder because the roads are at least a few inches narrower than any road in NJ or Upstate NY. Take Lady Jade up on her offer and maybe try some of those surface streets (not Route 22) near where she lives too. I thought my driving instructor was a joke, but he took us up in this winding road up by me called Lake Street the 2nd time out, and that forced me to learn to deal with a difficult situation right away. Learned how to drive manual in a parking lot a year or so after I got my license. Don't give up, you still have a lot of time to learn.

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    The good news is this: Once you learn to drive in NYC, you can confidently drive in any city in the United States.
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    Sophia, I really think you should take some lessons. You can practice with some friends anytime you want, but lessons are definitely in order here if you're that scared.

    Oh, and Brad was great with my daughter. I made her take lessons, but Brad took her out every night.

    Holler and I'll send him down!!!

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    You sound like me when it was time to learn to drive. I was almost 17 when I started learning, and I was terrified. I dreaded practicing and was scared to death. Eventually I loosened up once I did it for a while, and now you just can't get me away from a car I love driving so much it's basically my job, and cars will forever be a great hobby. Sometimes you just gotta push through the fear, not let it win.

    Good luck girl!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicagoeditor View Post
    Once you learn to drive in NYC, you can confidently drive in any city in the United States.
    Amen! Same thing if you replace NYC with TJ... That's where I got my skillz.

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    My family, my boyfriend, co-workers, and even my best friend of 8 years teased me for years about not having my drivers license.
    It wasnt until everyone got off my case and I got really sick of feeling trapped (when you have no where to go because you have know one to take you) I finally started practicing. I failed the test twice!
    However, finally at 22, I got my drivers license.
    You can do it to. I know you can. If I can do it... then YOU definitley can. Good Luck!

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    Oh, and I STILL can't parallel park to save my life. Other people always do it for me... it wasn't on my test, so I never had to do it.

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    Oh, and I STILL can't parallel park to save my life. Other people always do it for me... it wasn't on my test, so I never had to do it.
    I can't either. The place in GA that gave me my driving test didn't make us know how to park at all. I will drive around the block a hundred times instead of trying to parallel park in between two cars. I need 2 open spots to be able to even attempt it.

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    I'm 27 and I still haven't learned how to drive. I'm planning on taking a course this summer though. I need to do it, but I still don't want to. I'm scared.

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    Little metaphor: When another girl was teaching me pole tricks she said "If you're afraid & you think you're gonna fall, you will. Don't be scared. You can do this."

    The first time I ever drove in traffic was my first "traffic" for driver's ed (my mom refused to teach me). I was terrible, but thank God for the extra foot pedals on the instructor's side.

    I learned how to drive by stealing my parent's car so my pothead friends & I could smoke blunts while cruising around during lunch in high school. Since I was driving a stolen car with no license or insurance I wasn't allowed to make any mistakes; and I didn't.

    Driving tips:
    Look in your rear-view mirror every 3-5 seconds. (This will alert you to crazy people so you can get out of their way.)
    Drive 4-6 mph under the speed limit. Most traffic lights are timed. This way you'll catch every green light.
    While you're learning, stay in the far right or far left lane. That way you only need to worry about one driver beside you (less stressful).
    Listen to mellow music while you're learning (and when you're stuck in traffic) like Radiohead. But have the radio off when you take the test at the DMV.

    Hope that helps. I've taught 2 people how to drive. Just keep your eyes moving & try not to be so nervous.

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