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    Quote Originally Posted by PaigeDWinter View Post
    I wanna marry my wife. Now. This minute.
    *hires a wedding planner*

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    Wait a minute. So, a divorced woman can't wear white? What about a widow? I've also heard that only virgins wear white, but my mom got married again and she wore white, and she is obviously not a virgin because she had me.

    I think the whole virgin thing is way out of date. Back in the day most women that were married were virgins because they got married at about 15 years old because that was more cheap for their poor parents. It's different now and I don't think we should really have the same standards because things are WAY different than a long time ago.

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    Anyone who wants to can wear white. Who gives a fuck what anyone else says. You can wear pink with purple polkadots if u want

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    ew. marriage.

    *pukes*


    so glad we called off our wedding last year. we can still be together and in love without having a gay party and signing papers to prove it

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Anyone who wants to can wear white. Who gives a fuck what anyone else says. You can wear pink with purple polkadots if u want




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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz View Post
    ew. marriage.

    *pukes*


    so glad we called off our wedding last year. we can still be together and in love without having a gay party and signing papers to prove it
    Dude, when I get married I totally wanna have a gay party. I mean, with homosexuals and everything.


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    ^ oops. theres me using those words again in everyday sentances. we actually were planning on have the maid of honour my partners best mate, but hes not a flamboyant gay alass

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Anyone who wants to can wear white. Who gives a fuck what anyone else says. You can wear pink with purple polkadots if u want
    Hell yes! I'm tired of hearing about all of these "traditions" and what one "can and can't" do. Its your wedding for fuck sake, do what the fuck you want to.

    Said by the guy wearing a white with black pinstripe zoot suit with a black flower accessory for his own wedding.
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    I never really cared much about getting married when i was younger. Now that i have a baby on the way i can not wait to be married. I think maybe i feel like it will bring a sense of security. ( I have a slightly irrational fear of abandonment from childhood issues)



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    True, white only became traditional for virgin brides during the reign of Queen Victoria. Prior to that you just wore something nice, although there was a warning against black - "Married in black, you'll wish yourself back." Actually if you go back far enough, blue was the color signifying virginity, which is why the Virgin Mary is always portrayed in blue robes. Ironically a lot of second-time brides nowadays wear blue. My mom did.

    If I do marry again, I'll probably wear blue just because I look best in it. Or fire-engine red, hot-cha-cha!

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    Quote Originally Posted by phillyvixen View Post
    Now that i have a baby on the way i can not wait to be married. I think maybe i feel like it will bring a sense of security. ( I have a slightly irrational fear of abandonment from childhood issues)
    My take on it is that in theory marriage is a commitment that is harder to walk away from then simply agreeing to stay together. A lot of people leave relationships even when married, but in theory the extra legal commitments make it harder, and so people are somewhat less likely to make a decision to leave based over a short-term disagreement. A little experience with relationships tells us that this is the way people are, they tend to be impulsive, and so societies solve their own problems with human nature by inventing institutions like marriage. When men and women have children, it is a big job, and while you can do it alone, it's probably several times harder doing it alone then doing it with the help of the parental partner. Lets face it, few of us want to be responsible for raising other people's kids. We reasonably expect that if two people have sex, and end up having a kid, we want them to take responsibility for the 16-18 years (or more if you help them with college) to raise them. There are some societies that deal with children by raising them communally or in extended families, but these have their own disadvantages as well.

    In the event that a couple does break up, particularly in the case where they have children, and one stays home to raise the children for many years, I also think it's reasonable that if one partner stays home to raise any children, that they have some assurances of an equal distribution of the couples funds that were made during the time that the couple was together. That only seems fair to me since it's not fair that whoever ends up staying home with the children should bare the entire risk of losing all of the joint resources just because they end up raising the kids vs raising money for the couple and kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    expensive weddings are not beautiful, though-- the wedding industry are jackals feasting on the unsuspecting corpses of women.
    Crapbuckets. I want to be married but I really, really don't want a wedding. I don't need $500 centerpieces to cement my new bond. A couple of drinks for celebration is fine! But, nooooooooo, my grandmother has made it abundantly clear that if there is no ceremony she will make my life into something that closely resembles Hell, even if she has to live another 20 years to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    I rode that ride already and puked at the end.


    I want to get married... I mean, there's no REASON for it unless you're going to have kids (I just think it keeps everything organized and stable for the future kiddo)... But I still WANT it, damnit! I guess I'd feel sort of like a failure if I never got married... I've just been socialized that way.

    I'd like to buy my own house, first. It's not a requirement, though... My requirement was having my own place before I got married and I've accomplished that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rozz View Post
    I don't need $500 centerpieces to cement my new bond. A couple of drinks for celebration is fine!
    Wow, you don't hear that everyday (again rozz amazes me!). Usually it's the guy that says things like that. I have to say, when I did it I just wanted to get it over with, but we ended up having a small wedding where we paid for everything ourselves (we didn't have much money at the time and made due with basics). In retrospect I'm happy we did do the ceremony thing. It wasn't overly expensive or grandiose, but it was memorable and I think validated it for everyone in the family that it was real.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kryssy View Post
    I did marry my best friend and we have been married for 11 years now!
    That's key right there.

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    Hey..marriage isnt for everyone. I love being married....but only because ,y husband too is my best friend.

    ANd you wear damn thing you want if you do. I wore a traditional dress..but we got married at Ripleys Believe it or NOT and people came in everything from dressy casual to bikinis and flip flops. We loved it!

    Maybe a commitment ceremony type of thing will get out this sudden desire without actually getting married?

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    I won't get married or make any kind of personal commitment until I'm out of debt. I simply don't feel like my life is my own to give, as long as I owe this much. K (or whoever) should marry ME when the time comes, not my creditors.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    I won't get married or make any kind of personal commitment until I'm out of debt. I simply don't feel like my life is my own to give, as long as I owe this much. K (or whoever) should marry ME when the time comes, not my creditors.
    i felt that way pre-marriage and wanted to delay the marriage (extend the engagement) partly because of it. i didn't want to be that jerk with a mountain of debt who wrecks the spouse's credit. but it doesn't quite work that way, and i got married with a debt burden. between the two of us, it will be paid off in a year or less, mainly because getting married helped us both stop being financially flaky and pay bills on time. there's also a sense that money is getting spent towards helping us share a very long life together, and for many people, they don't get that sense of 'my entire life for the next 60 years will be with this person' living together without a ceremony.

    but then, we both married knowing we cannot divorce or annull and are (happily) 'stuck' with each other for life. and modern marriage doesn't tend to be entered into in that spirit, definitely.

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    ^^^ Well, to be fair, I think a lot of couples enter into marriage with that mindset and then when irreconcilable differences pop up they change their minds. I know that's what happened with us. My ex and I both made a big deal out of this being a one-time thing only, that our parents were all divorced and we weren't going to do that, it was permanent, etc. We didn't even make it five years before we both agreed, fuck that.

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    DON'T DO IT
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    60% of marriages in the USA nowadays end in divorce. You ladies make alot of money, and if you make more than your hubby, if you two get a divorce, he can talk you for half of your shit. It's the same way for men though if they make more. So, if you make more than him, more than likely you will lose half of what you have worked for. Don't do it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by KentuckyMysteryMan View Post
    60% of marriages in the USA nowadays end in divorce. You ladies make alot of money, and if you make more than your hubby, if you two get a divorce, he can talk you for half of your shit. It's the same way for men though if they make more. So, if you make more than him, more than likely you will lose half of what you have worked for. Don't do it!

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    Ok. I was not aware of that.

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    There are times I get heavy hearted longing to get married myself.

    My relationship is one I compare to Gene Simmons/Shannon Tweed.

    I want to be/get married but my "hubby" like Gene does not believe in marriage.

    We've been together 6 years now, have a son and a baby on the way.

    I did want the traditional wedding with family friends etc etc.... but not anymore. I now think IF he does change his mind maybe a beach wedding and a small celebration somewhere like a pub or going to Niagara Falls and getting one of the package deals they have there.

    It actually makes me laugh that my "hubby" is so much like Gene...since I'm a KISS fan....no wonder my mother doesn't like him one bit!!!!

    I guess the cerimony doesn't make the commitment just as much as the licence doesn't lock in the love.

    If Gene and Shannon can be happy even though she wants to marry him and he doesn't want to hear of it...I guess we can be that happy too.

    (I just call him hubby to save on confusion and explanations)
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    Yekhefah, will you marry me? I don't eat much, and i sleep well on couches.

    Fuck it. Lets get down to the nitty gritty...

    I have a penis the size of a rhino's, I moonlight as an Astronaut, and once i was Brad Pitt's stunt double. Will you at least come to my room? What's your real name? Do you... you know... (nudge, nudge) date? By the way, how much money do you make in a week? Oh, damn, i left my wallet in my car... Lemme go get it...

    Come on now, how can you possibly resist lil ol' me.


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