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    so i'll sit with a guy and he's seemingly enjoying my company. a dance special is coming up and i tell him about it. he agrees to it and says, "come get me" after i parade across the stage with the other dancers. so i do and as soon as i come out onstage he gets up and leaves.

    what the fuck?!!!! did i do something wrong? why can't guys just say "no"? why do they do this?

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    just wants a free show basically..I really dont get pissed because i expect it if i dont get a dance right then

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    Default Re: why do guys do this?

    we're being nice.

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    ^^Well, quit being "nice." It's not nice. It's wasting our itme and preventing us from earning a living. If you want to be actually nice tell us "No, thank you". THAT is being nice.

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    ^ right!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jose3030 View Post
    we're being nice.
    WTF? Man, I wish guys like you could somehow be marked when you entered the club so dancers wouldn't waste their time on you. How about a sticker that says "DOUCHEBAG" across the forehead?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    ^^Well, quit being "nice." It's not nice. It's wasting our itme and preventing us from earning a living. If you want to be actually nice tell us "No, thank you". THAT is being nice.
    exactly.

    i had a guy somehow sneak out a freaking bathroom window to avoid getting a dance from me. all he had to do was say no thanks. instead he actually ASKED ME for a dance and then disappeared while i waited like an idiot for him to come back. i even turned down other customers' requests for dances because i was waiting for this loser. heh. that was a mistake i only made once.

    anyway, it's not about being nice. it's about not having the balls to turn a girl down. maybe they think we're mentally unstable and potenially violent. you know how guys are always calling us crazy...meanwhile they're the ones squeezing their beer belly guts out tiny restroom windows

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    I've never done this.

    I just meant in general, when guys say yes to something then back out, it's cuz they weren't man enough or didnt want the drama associated w/ saying no.

    Sometimes its just easier to say yes.

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    i hate it when guys do this. it's definitely not being nice! a polite "no thank you" is nice. i feel like a loser who should have known all along. i guess it's a combination of being fooled and rejected at the same time.

    no, it's definitely not a nice thing to do.

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    Maybe I used the wrong word...

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    Quote Originally Posted by jose3030 View Post
    I've never done this.

    I just meant in general, when guys say yes to something then back out, it's cuz they weren't man enough or didnt want the drama associated w/ saying no.

    Sometimes its just easier to say yes.
    Ok, this is a very plausible explanation. But by no means does "not man enough" or "didn't want the drama" equate to "nice." Two entirely different things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    Ok, this is a very plausible explanation. But by no means does "not man enough" or "didn't want the drama" equate to "nice." Two entirely different things.
    I just realized I aint really supposed to be posting in this forum.



    I'll keep my posts to a minimum in here from now on.

    Sorry.

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    and yet another reason why guys shouldn't be allowed in this section!
    Think about it at work, you worked for the raise and received a yes and then your boss either changes his mind or walks away when you bring it up again. The boss just being nice when the yes was said.
    Please don't lick me, it tickles..



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    Quote Originally Posted by mina loy View Post
    so i'll sit with a guy and he's seemingly enjoying my company. a dance special is coming up and i tell him about it. he agrees to it and says, "come get me" after i parade across the stage with the other dancers. so i do and as soon as i come out onstage he gets up and leaves.

    what the fuck?!!!! did i do something wrong? why can't guys just say "no"? why do they do this?
    He does this because he puts his convenience ahead of your dignity; somehow, he convinces himself you won't care. Hard to understand how people operate like this, but they do--it is a cowardly way to do things. Here's hoping for better customers!
    JK Jim

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    1. Some guys just don't care about you ladies and enjoy playing such games.

    2. Other guys may not feel comfortable telling you "no, thanks".
    a. Because they've had bad experiences with other dancers making a scene.

    b. Believe it or not, some men in strip clubs may have certain social problems and truly don't feel able to simply say "no". This may be especially true if you've been doing more of a hard hustle toward him. Its easier to just escape the situation than deal with it.

    3. Some guys are asses.

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    I think some guys who can't afford dances do this.

    It happened to me the other night, I was on stage and two young guys asked me the price of a private dance, I told them, they asked if I could do it when I got off stage, then as I am walking off the stage they make a quick dash for the exit.

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    I agree that for a guy to do such a thing is veery impolite.

    However, this does work both ways. I've asked a dancer at the stage to see me for a lap dance when she got off, had her say yes, and then have her never come by. I'm just as offended by this as you ladies are by the guy sneaking off.

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    ^oh, i agree with you completely.

    i just hate it when guys do this. i truly do not understand the pleasure of playing games with the dancers.

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