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    My "best" friend who I have made some posts about in the past - regarding how she has changed since getting married and having kids just called me and got all judgmental about me dancing.

    FUCK YOU BITCH.

    She is asking me WHY I am still dancing. I said coz I enjoy it and it's a means to an end. Her answer "well it's not a means to an end you could get any other normal job". Then she said "Im not saying you dont have a good body or good face but you could be doing other things with it".

    Yeah well once again
    FUCK YOU BITCH.

    She has fucking done her dash this time, Im done with her.
    I have put up with some much bullshit from her of late and I dont need it.
    I don't need her judgmental ass ringing me like that. The bitch used to dance herself many years ago and just coz it wasn't for her I don't giva fuck.

    This has all come about because it was her son's baptism on sunday and I had worked friday night 7pm-6am, then sat 8pm-7am and then had to get up and go to the baptism barely awake at 12:30pm on the sunday. So yeah I was sitting there struggling to stay awake but at least I made the effort to come there and it was an hours drive away.

    Dam I am so angry Im sorry that this is ranty but ahhhhh I just got off the phone and im so pissed off.

    Oh yeh she asked twice in the same phonecall if my parents knew about my dancing when she knows that they don't.

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    Default Re: I am effin furious - best friend drama

    toxic people like that are so not worth it. its a shame the way people look down on others for something that they used to not even think twice about.

    you deserve better friends than that!

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    Sorry about that. It hurts when friends become un-friends all at once, it's the shock that is most unsettling...I've noticed that people get this way when their children are somehow involved, even when you've done nothing wrong.

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    It's hard for people not in this industry to understand what you go through. Even though she's experienced it before, becoming a wife and mother changes the way people think. Tell her how you feel about being judged, a real friend would care about how you feel. If not, it's time to find yourself some positive people in your life.

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    Sorry to hear about your disappointment, jaizaine!

    You have your own unique presence in these forums. At different times, I've found your posts tough, funny, biting, kind...you get my drift. IMHO, you're a straight shooter and you kept your commitment to attend the baptism, which would piss me off all the more if I were in your shoes (heels?) because of the effort involved.

    In my experience, the people who believe they know me best often believe they know what's best for me. They seem to arrive at their verdicts with little deliberation and even less concern for another's feelings--and then play the "honesty" card so righteously that if hypocrisy was a hand, I would like to slap the fuck out of them with it! Still, I wonder if there isn't a little nostalgia and envy behind your friend's judgmental words...

    I like this quote for the baptized baby's mother:
    "A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down."
    --Arnold H. Glasow

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    I think she is very unhappy with her life right now. She drinks 2 bottles of wine a day and has even left her 2 kids at home to go out and get more wine. On one occasion her 2 and a half year old was standing in the middle of the road when she arrived back home.

    But did I judge her? No I was supportive and tried to talk her through getting help. Shame she cannot be that sort of friend too.

    I honestly find her draining and she adds nothing positive to my life. I have felt like this for quite a while and this has just sealed it for me.

    Esp since she has done a lot wrong lately and I have still been supportive.

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    Aw, what a bitch. She sounds unhappy and bored.
    Time to distance yourself, sadly bitter alcaholics do not make good friends.
    I hope shes not scheming to tell your parents though!

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    Maybe she's right. Why don't you hear her out? Dancing as a career is stagnation to a lot of people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker View Post
    Aw, what a bitch. She sounds unhappy and bored.
    Time to distance yourself, sadly bitter alcaholics do not make good friends.
    I hope shes not scheming to tell your parents though!
    EEEEk I hope not.

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    cut ties, move on. newer betetr friends just around the corner

    sucks to have to go thru, i was always lucky that not a single friend once threw anything negative in my face about dancing. i guess if she has a drinking problem she has other issues shes hiding by drinking...easier to shif her nager towards you. jelousy and all that

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic View Post
    Maybe she's right. Why don't you hear her out? Dancing as a career is stagnation to a lot of people.
    Is this a joke?
    I'm not hearing her out at all. If she was going places with her life I might listen to her but Im not taking advise from someone so fucked up - Im not going into details but her life is falling apart in many ways.
    I have tried to be a supportive friend and she sadly cannot do the same for me.

    A true friend might express concern for a friend but that's not the tone that she took with me. It was a horrible conversation.

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    She just wants someone to rag on to make her feel like she's a better person for the life she ruined for herself. She got married, had kids, is miserable with no way out and you're the only person she can mock because you're 'below' her according to her own skewed moral scale so she can feel better about herself.


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    Don't worry...I ranted about this, too, when one of my "friends" rejected me for dancing. Fuck em! I told him I was finished with his ass! Yeah...it hurts and it sucks...but I saw him for what he truly was...a judgemental hypocrite! We don't need that shit in our lives. I've come to realize that we live opposite lives than these people...and people tend to grow apart and take different paths in life. Sometimes all you can do is just let them go and move on...



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    ^^^
    yeh your right girls. She purposely got pregnant to a guy who she knew for 6 weeks and TRAPPED HIM but that's ok coz I DANCE, she is drunk everyday and lets her kids wander out onto the road when she leaves them alone to go buy more wine but thats ok coz I DANCE.

    You know what hurts the most is that I never once made a judgmental comment to her. When she cried on the phone that she was a terrible mother for being drunk everyday and leaving the kids at home all I said in response was that we all make mistakes and if there was anything I could do she should let me know. I also tried to convince her that she needed to get professional help for her drinking.

    Well she has pushed me so much in the last few months and after this phone call - which i am just remembering mre nasty things she said now she can get fucked 4 good

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic View Post
    Maybe she's right. Why don't you hear her out? Dancing as a career is stagnation to a lot of people.

    Are you even a dancer? Every post I have ever read from you has been nothing but negative. Why are you even a member of this forum if you don't have anything but negative comments to post?



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    Quote Originally Posted by Mileia777 View Post
    Are you even a dancer? Every post I have ever read from you has been nothing but negative. Why are you even a member of this forum if you don't have anything but negative comments to post?
    I ws just reading her posts. Dude she's more bitter than I am... and I wrote the post on bitter!


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    She just wr0te an0ther p0st 0n the thread ab0ut ex's and it was really negative t00.

    st0p taking y0ur bad m00ds 0ut here i already have a "friend" taking 0ut her miserable life 0n me.

    0h yeah if any0ne is w0ndering why i am using this key "0" its c0z the letter 0 key fell 0ff my keyb0ard.

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    ^^^LOL!!! Jaizaine...I thought you were just trying something new and "superc00l!" That's hilarious!!!



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    its taking me ages t0 type AHHHHH.

    The clip has br0ken 0ff s0 i cant put the key back 0n

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mileia777 View Post
    Are you even a dancer? Every post I have ever read from you has been nothing but negative. Why are you even a member of this forum if you don't have anything but negative comments to post?
    I danced for several years.

    You are perceiving my posts to be negative, but where exactly is the negativity? They are only thoughts, to be perceived as you wish. I would think that "FUCK YOU" would be a lot more negative than anything I've said. If anyone thinks anything other than dancing is the greatest thing since Wonder Bread, suddenly it is "negative", yet there are complaints about the job all over the board. Why isn't anyone calling them out for being "negative"?

    If you guys want to be liberal and allow all people to think and do what they want within the limits of the law, then you have to allow for those who don't think exactly as you do.

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    ^^
    y0u have c0mpletely missed the p0int 0f the thread.

    I d0nt want t0 argue the m0ral status 0f dancing. I simply d0nt want judgmental assh0les in my life.

    Whether 0r n0t dancing is g00d is n0t an issue.

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    That's really shitty of her. If I were you I'd want to call her back and bitch her out, much more harshly.

    If I remember correctly, aren't you in law school or something? She's probably just really jealous that you have a good future ahead of you AND you're making money. She sits at home and drinks and probably never has fun.

    It is true that dancing can cause "stagnation" for a lot of people, but I consider most dancers on this board to be more in the onward and upward catagory, where dancing really is in their best interest. I've told people on this board that maybe they should get out of dancing before, but this isn't one of those cases.

    This is a thread where we bash shitty "friends"!

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    Thanks hun. Yeh i am in my final year 0f lawsch00l. i agree she is just pissed 0ff at her 0wn situati0n and is trying t0 make me feel bad t0 make herself feel better.

    She thinks I sh0uld get an0ther j0b but dancing is the best j0b f0r me right n0w, im enj0ying it, n0t hurting any0ne by d0ing it s0 why n0t?

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    Quote Originally Posted by carolina6 View Post
    This is a thread where we bash shitty "friends"!

    yeh

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    I just so hate it when people assume that we are dancing because we don't have a choice or we are in some kind of shitty situation. This is what ticks me off the most! I dance because I WANT TO DANCE and I ENJOY IT! If I wanted to find another job I COULD...but I don't because there are so many benefits to being a dancer. I mean..yeah...you have to put up with a lot of BS and we all rant about it on here...but that's how it is with ALL jobs in general, yanno?



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