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    Admittantly, I have a short temper and a low tolerence for being mistreated. In the past I have slapped countless faces, thrown a few punched and have kicked at least a dozen sets of testicles.

    My question is, what is the worst or most painful thing that you've done to a custy, or guy in general who has stepped over the line?.

    My worst was a very drunk older guy who touched my most private of private areas and got 2 slaps to the face a very hard heel to the balls and another knee to the balls while the doorman were escorting him out.

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    I slapped a guy in the face as a knee-jerk reaction when he tried to kiss me on the mouth.

    He was shocked and so was i i th0ught id get in troouble for hitting him but I didnt.

    I accidentally kneed my regular square in the nuts, we joke abut it now coz that was the first night he came in and 6 months later he is still coming to see me so it coouldnt have been all bad.

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    Um, I don't do things like that. I've worked in some places with pretty inadequate security; I tend to take a more "problem solving" approach - like if you go around punching guys, sooner or later one is going to punch you back. Your security may (or may not) step in and throw him out or kick the hell out of him or whatever, but you still get punched in the face - and probably (not necessarily, but probably) harder and more effectively than you hit him. Not always a good thing - I can think of one time in the past couple of months that I really SHOULD have had a guy thrown out, but it didn't occur to me until I got home. I do find that the vast majority of the time I can handle "disputes" myself, and make it come out in my favour.
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    Um, I don't do things like that. I've worked in some places with pretty inadequate security; I tend to take a more "problem solving" approach - like if you go around punching guys, sooner or later one is going to punch you back. Your security may (or may not) step in and throw him out or kick the hell out of him or whatever, but you still get punched in the face - and probably (not necessarily, but probably) harder and more effectively than you hit him. Not always a good thing - I can think of one time in the past couple of months that I really SHOULD have had a guy thrown out, but it didn't occur to me until I got home. I do find that the vast majority of the time I can handle "disputes" myself, and make it come out in my favour.
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    and you're not going to make much money with a broken jaw and missing teeth, I'd assume.

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    I worked in some very rough places and I slapped when appropriate.

    It's a personal standard. No one touches me inapproriately & gets away with it. In fact, I like to think I'm helping to teach a valuable lesson.

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    i haven't ever hit or kicked a customer. or anyone actually...i even had a customer offer to Pay me to do it and i just couldn't.

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    When I was 19 I was very moody and I had a short fuse to boot. I was on stage on a packed Saturday night, and a guy sitting at the stage called me a crazy cunt. Before I even had a thought go through my mind, I went after him with a beer bottle.

    I will admit that I am embarrassed to know I did that, but I have calmed down a lot since then. I would not react that way anymore.

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    my worst experience has to be when a guy tryed to kiss me on the lips and tryed putting his hand on my most private part i just headbutted and slapped him i thought id get in trouble but i didnt

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    That's just not my style. I'd be scared the guy would attack me, like Jenny said. That's what muscle-y bouncers are for. The worst I've done is "accidentally" spilled their drink.

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    Most of the time i try to avoid confrontations. However, one time as a reflex i elbowed the guy in the face as he tried to grab me and hold me down as i was facing away from him. It gave him a black eye, i'm sure. He was extremely grabby and agressive so i must say it gave me a lot of satisfaction that it practically made him cry. i did not get in troble but i did not get all the money he owed me either.

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    Back when I first started I was a real hothead and used to smack and beat customers all of the time. I even broke a beer bottle over one's head, got fired for a week for that one, lol.

    But I stopped that a long time ago. I have backhanded one guy in the last year, and it was one of those instinctual reactions that I didn't have control over. It was weird, because he seemed shocked, but then threw some money on the stage. Weirdo.
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    Sat down on a old dude's lap to put my top back on (last time i ever did that) and he put his mouth around my entire boob. Caught me by surprise. I jumped up, told him he was a sick motherfucker, and then hit him in the back of the head so hard his head snapped forward. I forfeited my bonus points for that one because it still wasnt hard enough to make his dentures fly out. Later on he came shlepping back to hand me four fucking dollars and say he was sorry. I threw it back at him.

    Got paid to kick a guy in the balls while i was dancing for him. Actually sold him a special ball-smashing SECOND song because apparently one song will never do for those things.

    Other than that I've pushed a few guys, which in hindsight was fucking stupid because they could have retaliated.
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    Once during the very last song a young guy from india came up and asked me for the dance. The music already started and as it was the last song, I quickly lead him to a chair and began dancing, as soon as I took my skirt off, this guy rams his finger up my ass! That has never happened to me before , and I sure as hell wasnt expecting it, I hit him in the face really hard as a reaction and started crying. I almost got fired for hitting him! I told my manager i didn't mean to hit him, but what would his reaction be if that happened to him? and he said I should have asked for more $$. I quit that club and never went bk, I did not feel protected at all, and for him to make jokes like that totally pissed me off. I felt invaded and assaulted buy the incident and they blew it off, like it was an every day occurence.


    Oh, yes and a funny one. Just the other day ( this never happens at my club either) , this guy (who was really nice all but for this incident) made a lil fist and hit my boob and said " Are they real?", I made a lil fist and hit him in the nuts and asked the same thing while smiling just like he did. Poor guy almost cried, while apologising profusly (sp).

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    I have never had to physically harm a customer.. Once a guy tried sticking his fingers on my teeth because he loved my teeth it was creepy..I told him I had to end the dance got my money and went back on the floor then told a few dancers about it they told me he tried it with a few other girls that work there..EW!

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    I once broke a guy's nose- but it was on accident. See, I was bending over, with my ass in his face, and I guess he decided he wanted to take a chunk on home with him- cuz he bit my ass- HARD! It was a knee-jerk reaction for me to whale back with my elbow, but goddammit, it hurt! I apologized profusely, but he seemed pretty understanding about the whole being in pain thing, considering.
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    I find that my fuse is significantly shorter with inappropriate customers when I'm PMSing. On one particular occasion (which I am not proud of), I dumped a pitcher of beer on a group of guys at my rack. These guys were behaving like royal tools, and after sitting through a full song at my rack,(no money in front of any of them) they had the odacity to suggest that I wasn't worth a dollar. It didn't help that my boyfriend had stopped in my club for some lunch and to say hi. Normally, I don't go for that sort of thing. Boyfriends, in my opinion, do not belong in the club. But it was a random and rare occasion and wouldn't you know it, some idiots had to disrespect me in front of my man. No doubt that my boyfriend being there fueled my embarassment. He was also sitting at my rack and observing firsthand, these morons bullying me. There is nothing I hate morethan dancing for a group of guys that are not tipping, and are fully aware of the fact. I find that I physically, cannot perform. As I mechanically went though the motions of dancing, I felt my heart beating in my ears. My rack was full, and these idiots were ruining it for everyone, myself included. I'm talking about 40 year old men going on twelve. I keep looking for help from the bartender the bouncer anyone. My boyfriend is watching me carefully, trying to judge my reaction to all of this. Before I knew what was happening I grabbed one of thier pitchers and proceeded to pour it on thier heads. Profanity escapes from me like a gurggling waterfall of emotion. Suddenly, I am flying into a full on rage. I want to destroy these worthless excuses for men. I grab two glasses and fling them across the room into the wall above them, smashed glass raining down. Suddenly all was silent. Everyone was staring at me in disbelief. One of the poor customers at my rack, completely unassociated with these guys was crouched behind his chair, fearful of more flying glass. I am the most mellow person you would ordinarily ever meet. and in the three years that I worked at this club, I had never even remotely had an outburst, let alone a bad attitude. I guess the point is, everyone can snap. And boy, I sure did. It was at that moment, after the customers were bounced, that I bee lined it to the dressing room and left with my boyfriend, not to return until after a much needed vacation. Lucky for me, the club owners were cool and let me return to work. Most dancers I know have had one experience or another flipping out on customers. We deal with a lot of shit. Most derragatory comments roll off my back like water, but some really sting. I think that women in our profession really need to stress the importance taking time off and not allowing ourselves to get burnt out. For our sanilty's sake. I was one of those girls that rarely, if ever, toojk time off. I would work ridiculous number of shifts with a seemingly endless amount of vigor and stamina. I liked the money so much that I became totally out of touch with how fragile my mental state was becoming. That was a few years ago, and I have since learned two valuable lessons regarding stripping. Number one:Take time off!!! And second: Do not, ever for a moment, let an ignorant man's comment set you off. By doing so we are only letting him exhibit power over us. Instead, use you wit to outsmart and embarass him. Especially if he is among buddies. Guys hate to look like losers in front of thier friends.

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    I find that my fuse is significantly shorter with inappropriate customers when I'm PMSing. On one particular occasion (which I am not proud of), I dumped a pitcher of beer on a group of guys at my rack. These guys were behaving like royal tools, and after sitting through a full song at my rack,(no money in front of any of them) they had the odacity to suggest that I wasn't worth a dollar. It didn't help that my boyfriend had stopped in my club for some lunch and to say hi. Normally, I don't go for that sort of thing. Boyfriends, in my opinion, do not belong in the club. But it was a random and rare occasion and wouldn't you know it, some idiots had to disrespect me in front of my man. No doubt that my boyfriend being there fueled my embarassment. He was also sitting at my rack and observing firsthand, these morons bullying me. There is nothing I hate morethan dancing for a group of guys that are not tipping, and are fully aware of the fact. I find that I physically, cannot perform. As I mechanically went though the motions of dancing, I felt my heart beating in my ears. My rack was full, and these idiots were ruining it for everyone, myself included. I'm talking about 40 year old men going on twelve. I keep looking for help from the bartender the bouncer anyone. My boyfriend is watching me carefully, trying to judge my reaction to all of this. Before I knew what was happening I grabbed one of thier pitchers and proceeded to pour it on thier heads. Profanity escapes from me like a gurggling waterfall of emotion. Suddenly, I am flying into a full on rage. I want to destroy these worthless excuses for men. I grab two glasses and fling them across the room into the wall above them, smashed glass raining down. Suddenly all was silent. Everyone was staring at me in disbelief. One of the poor customers at my rack, completely unassociated with these guys was crouched behind his chair, fearful of more flying glass. I am the most mellow person you would ordinarily ever meet. and in the three years that I worked at this club, I had never even remotely had an outburst, let alone a bad attitude. I guess the point is, everyone can snap. And boy, I sure did. It was at that moment, after the customers were bounced, that I bee lined it to the dressing room and left with my boyfriend, not to return until after a much needed vacation. Lucky for me, the club owners were cool and let me return to work. Most dancers I know have had one experience or another flipping out on customers. We deal with a lot of shit. Most derragatory comments roll off my back like water, but some really sting. I think that women in our profession really need to stress the importance taking time off and not allowing ourselves to get burnt out. For our sanilty's sake. I was one of those girls that rarely, if ever, toojk time off. I would work ridiculous number of shifts with a seemingly endless amount of vigor and stamina. I liked the money so much that I became totally out of touch with how fragile my mental state was becoming. That was a few years ago, and I have since learned two valuable lessons regarding stripping. Number one:Take time off!!! And second: Do not, ever for a moment, let an ignorant man's comment set you off. By doing so we are only letting him exhibit power over us. Instead, use you wit to outsmart and embarass him. Especially if he is among buddies. Guys hate to look like losers in front of thier friends.

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    I'm similiar to Jenny - I try to get out of the situation without any physical violence as usually the majority of clubs that I have worked within frown upon it (they have the motto, leave it for the bouncers to deal with as such). So the one time I did actually slap a guy for saying something.. I surprised myself! It takes ALOT for me to become physically violent.

    I'm crafting in how to punish the guys without being violent due to having to do so.

    This is where private parties are great. If someone has misbehaved, usually the rest of the party is behind me punishing the guy (and sometimes they get in on the action as well!).


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    I don't do stuff like that. Once, some guy was being a creepy octopus while I was giving him a dance and I shoved him back against the seat.... hard... but I think he thought I was joking or something.
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    My number one rule for custies is, your mouth does NOT touch my body. I'll give you a warning the first time...and maybe if I'm feeling nice that night I'll remind you the second time that it's not ok. Try it a third time, and I WILL give you a hard knee in the balls. And it will be your fault not mine.

    The way I see it, it's really easy to avoid geting me angry enough to kneeball you. ALL you have to do to make sure that my knee never crushes your balls, is keep your mouth off of me. Easy, right? Not for some of these douchebags.

    Sometimes I knock drinks into customers' laps for not tipping or giving me attitude at the tiprail. I've never gotten in trouble for it; it's really easy to make those things look like an accident. oh oops, did i just knock over your drink with my shoe? awww... Oh, did I just slip and knee you really hard in the crotch? Oh, i'm sooo clumsy. Maybe if you hadn't licked me I wouldn't have accdentally tripped and hurt you like that.

    Only once I pushed a customer against the bar and hit him in the face, when he tried to kiss me on the mouth, right out on the floor, AND right after he just refused to buy a dance! That guy's reaction was the funniest thing ever...he started tripping over himself and stammering "ok, sorry sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm really sorry I won't do it again!" and then ran away. Yeah that's what I thought, douchebag.

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    I broke a guys finger once. He got 2 warnings that i would if he continued to try to jam it in my crotch and he did it again anywy. So I grabbed it and bent it back until I heard it snap.

    I've slapped and punched custies too. They always get many warnings first and if i am physically violent..they EXTREMELY deserved it. But I've worked in some rough places where if you found a guy who DIDNT try to rape you, you were extremely lucky. Oddly enough, I've never been scared of retaliation. I've never gotten in trouble for it. I suppose its a matter of either being too pissed off to care or being able to read the situation very well. Or maybe a combination of both.

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    I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one like this Cameron and Picaresque. I am not a violent person and would of course rather not be in these situations. I always give a lot of warnings and let them know exactly what I'm going to do to them if they don't stop. Most do, a few don't at that point I feel it's on them.

    I too don't worry about retaliation or getting in trouble, I am never the instigator, and I only really do anything when it's totally warranted and I feel better about myself for standing up to them. I don't like doing that stuff at all, but I do feel a sense of empowerment after I've done it. It may boomerang on me in the future, but to me that's a fair trade-off.

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    I've slapped and punched custies too. They always get many warnings first and if i am physically violent..they EXTREMELY deserved it. But I've worked in some rough places where if you found a guy who DIDNT try to rape you, you were extremely lucky. Oddly enough, I've never been scared of retaliation. I've never gotten in trouble for it. I suppose its a matter of either being too pissed off to care or being able to read the situation very well. Or maybe a combination of both.
    That's interesting - I have too. Well, not really - I never felt lucky that I wasn't raped, but rough and rowdy customers and low security equals (for me) diffuse the conflict because if you escalate it, a) god only knows what is going to actually happen and b) if the security is inadequate it means they might not be able to protect you. Seriously - if you break a guy's finger are you actually going to be surprised if he hits you? And what if he is not there alone? So he has say 2 friends who are (let's pretend) equally drunk and obnoxious. What happens now? Other customers intervene, etc., etc. Perhaps a more efficient way of dealing with the problem is to just walk away after the first warning? I mean, if you break the guy's finger it's not like you are expecting to sell another dance anyway.

    If the point is to solve the problem - think, like, you want to make them do what you want. And hopefully, enjoy doing it. On the other hand, I've had customers do things that were clearly outside the whole "problem solving" realm (once I had a customer hold my arms while his friend burned me with a cigarette. Yay for anti-smoking regulations!) However, I would, had it even occurred to me, been really scared to start a fricking fist fight with two big guys who are clearly psychotic, and don't mind hurting me. I opted to instead i) scream, ii) cry (yes, I cried. I'm not proud of it) and iii) squirm loose and run away and let the people who handle that kind of thing handle it. But I would be crazy to turn around at that point and backhand him - the fact that he deserved doesn't even come into play.

    Just - really ladies. Men hit women all the time. The fact that they've done something to make you so mad should probably tell you that they don't really respect you. Just please, please keep in mind that these guys can hurt you, and they won't all be scared to hit a girl.
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    Jenny, you are so rational, and I admire that. However, if you are a reactionary type of person you get yourself into situations like that kind of instinctually. Like when I backhanded the guy, thoughts didn't go through my head, my hand just flew out and hit him. It was like a reflex or something.

    I think we all have moments where we don't care about the consequences because retaliating against assholes feels so good. Thankfully my fuse is much longer than it used to be, and my tongue is sharper than my sword.
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