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    Default Re: Do you know any kids left back in school because of maturity??

    Talking a lot CAN be a sign of a gifted child, but it not always. It can also be a sign of insecurity--I don't get it, so I talk and everybody thinks I don't get it because I talk, not because I don't get it. And, of course, sometimes it mens nothing. Some people talk because they like to talk.

    If you think your child is gifted, take her to a licensed psychologist who gives intelligence tests designed for the very young. Your daughter will have a great time playing with the psychologist, and when you are done, you will know for sure.

    Of course, this will cost money. Your school district might offer the service for free.
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    Default Re: Do you know any kids left back in school because of maturity??

    One of our daughters was just not ready and we held her back in kindergarten. She is now in the 5th grade and a straight A student.

    The extra year gave her time to grow up a little bit more and made school a much happier time for her. None of her friends ever think of her as "The girl that was held back" because frankly they were/are too young to make that connection.

    Don't be embarrassed she is just a little girl who needs an extra year to grow. Listen to the teacher. She may end up skipping the grade later on anyway

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    i was a teacher for about 4 years. i worked with kids of most ages at various times through that period.

    i -strongly- advise against drugs like ritalin for children, ESP. those that young. it's over prescribed and i'd say that 90% of the children on it, don't -need- to be.

    it sounds to me like your daughter has behavioral problems. i wouldn't completely rule out a learning disability, but that really isn't what it seems like. for a year and 1/2 i taught the severe and profound mentally and physically handicapped. i worked in a center (for the public school district) which had classes of varying degrees of disabilities and learning problems. i also worked at the boys and girls clubs of america for a couple years before that while also working for the school district in conjunction. i have seen many young children with the exact problems your daughter has and quite a few of them are held back a grade. it's because her social/behavioral and attention skills are not up-to-par with her age level. he probably has little to do with her ability to actually absorb classroom material. she just isn't interested in doing so because she would rather talk to her friends in class.

    does she have any friends who can come over after school? if not, have you thought about enrolling her in girlscouts or some other such program where she can be around other children?

    maybe (and i'm just guessing, since i don't know your daughter) she needs social interaction and attention from her peers, and "class time" is the only time she thinks she can get it... even if it means getting in trouble. if she had a "play time" with other kids to look foward to, that might help. it would also give you something more solid to "take away" from her. IOW "if you get in trouble in school, your friend can't come over and play today" or "you can't go to girlscouts"

    maybe interacting with her friends at school is more important to her than the possible punishment of you taking away the TV.

    i also agree with what utah mike said about your daughter being younger than most of the other kids. even a 1/2 a year can make a big diff. in the attention span of children that age.

    her being held back a year isn't all that big a deal. it's better for it to happen now than further down the road anyway, which is likely what will happen if she moves foward at this point. she'll be better off in the long run by staying behind for now and improving her attention and social skills.

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    Default Re: Do you know any kids left back in school because of maturity??

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    and on the "gifted" thing...

    when i was in k-2nd grades i would actually get up and leave my classes out of boredom. i had good grades, but really bad marks when it came to "behavior". i was tested for gifted a couple years later and was entered into the gifted program.

    (yes, i'm fairly smart, i just can't spell and i don't use capitals on the internet. )

    they also discovered around age 10 that part of my "attention" problem was caused by an overactive metabolism (which i still have). i would get so hungry i couldn't concentrate or i would become irritable and not want to do anything but walk around. that, coupled with my boredom, caused most of my early behavior problems in school.

    i guess what i'm saying is, there are many possible factors that can contribute to that particular situation. you just need to take things slow and be carefull of jumping to conclusions.

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    Default Re: Do you know any kids left back in school because of maturity??

    You know Penny, you really hit home with your post.

    The children in this new apartment complex we live in are not the kind of kids I want her to associate with, they are destructive and I have I heard them cursing on more than one occassion. Yeah, I know it's not the end of the world but I didn't want her around that. Her dad has mentioned she needs to play with kids her age. She is an only child and could certainly use some more interaction with children.

    I kept putting off getting her enrolled in either swimming or gymnastics, but I will definitely take care of that this week.


    I won't put her on any drugs and I'll let her repeat the year....Thanks again everyone- your reponses were all helpful.
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    Default Re: Do you know any kids left back in school because of maturity??

    i agree that she's very young. it's SO much easier to hold them back in K than wait 2 more years and have them held back in 2nd or later grade.

    honestly, it she sounds like she's just not behaviorally ready. not her fault, it's just her age. summer school won't help her maturity. time will. most of the kids in her class are probably at least 6 months, and many a year ahead of her...that makes a big difference.

    don't fret, it's just kindergarten. it's not gonna hurt her to repeat it, if anything it will give her a better foundation.

    and on the ritalin thing, she's WAY too young to even consider a diagnosis of ADHD! That shouldn't even be a thought in anyones head till she's at least 7 or 8!!





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    Default Re: Do you know any kids left back in school because of maturity??

    My cousin was held back a year in kindergarten. Well, sort of, he did a program that was mentioned earlier called 'transitional 1st grade'. It was in between the two grades. It was good for him, he really needed the extra time. He had started kindergarten very young as well. I personally don't have kids, so I can't really comment, but I don't see the harm in holding her back, she IS really young anyway. Good luck!
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