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How old were you...
When you knew the word/idea of "sex" was a "taboo" subject, so to speak...?
I was at my sisters the other day and they were watching family guy and my brother in law changed it when it started making a dirty joke or something because their daughter had walked in the room. (she's 4).
Well, my neice came up to me a bit after that and was whispering something to me, and I didn't hear exactly what she said but something about how my sister sometimes watches "sex in the city" or something like that.
And I was just thinking its weird that she said the word sex and knew it was something a four year old should whisper.
Is it too early for my sister to start talking to her about sex? In the biological aspect of it, that is. Is she already hearing about it in ways that could be harmful when she hasn't been taught in a respectful way - - - at school? At PRE-school????
ETA: this isn't the first time she's made a strange reference to things she shouldn't be making references too, and my sister and her husband are very careful about what they say, and my sister would never leave sex in the city on the tv while she was in the room. She doesn't even like that show.
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Re: How old were you...
Gosh...I dont know what age I was, but I do remeber around 5th or 6th grade, I heard my parents doing it one night, and I went to school the next day and told my friends. Well..they told their parents, who called my mom and told my mom she should have a talk with me.
And that was when I got the sex talk. But honestly...all I knew was they were "doin it" I didnt know what "it" was, or what that meant....
I dont think any age is to young to start talkign abotu sex. You just gotta do it according to their age. At 4 years old, kinds need to know about good touch and bad touch, and maybe need to know that sex is somethign grown ups do to show their love for each other.
a 4 year old leanrs to whisper the word sex becaue she has heard adults whisper it, and thinks it is a bad word that needs to be whispered. Same with spellign words out around kids. They knwo thoes words are bad, and as soon as they learn hwo to spell or put words together, they learn what thoes words are.
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Oh really young like 5 or 6. Kids learn by imitation. They see the way that adults act and respond to it. She sees that when something like that is said on tv the adults quickly turn off the tv and she learns therefore that it's naughty.
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It was probably about that age. My mom started talking to me about it when my Dad first got hush about it. I knew some things about sex, but I lived with my Dad from the time I was eight or nine. I had fooled around with girls then, but I didn't even know the mechanics of sex until I was thirteen or so. Hell, I didn't know there was a hole in my genitalia!! I had a book, but that's about it.
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I knew by 4-5 that something was up. Possibly before that but thats as early as I can remember. I still had no idea what physically happened during sex until age 11, but even as a kid I knew there was something about boys and girls kissing that was a big deal. I also knew that it was 'private' and was supposed to be done in secret, which is why I pulled the little boys in the closet before I pulled thier pants down. LOL, all the more reason that a healthy sex talk at a early age is better than hush hushing the subject while your kid experiments in secret.
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I was like...5? This neighbour kid that was my age and I would get naked together when she slept over and talk about sexual things (I later found out she was being sexually abused at home...) but she'd always try to hide it when she heard anyone coming so I figured it must be something shameful or done in private.
Kids do pick up all kinds of things via osmosis, but if a child seems to know way more than they should about sexual things it is often an indicator of sexual abuse.
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When I was 7 or 8, one of my friends and I would play with our dolls and make them have sex with each other, so obviously I knew how it physically happened and that adults did it, I don't remember thinking about it before that age really.
I remember when I was about that same age, I was listening to "Let's Talk about Sex" on the radio and my mom came in and turned it off and said I wasn't allowed to listen to it, haha. I chuckled to myself because I already knew what sex was.
My parents really tried to shelter me, some of that Catholic guilt about sexuality I think. My mom tried to talk to me about sex when I was like 14 or something. I told her point blank that it was too late for that talk and walked off.
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I was masturbating and humping my stuffed animals by the time I was 4, so I quickly figured out what it was.
"We all must suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. In order to achieve what others don't, you have to do what others won't."
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Re: How old were you...
Hahaha. ^^^^
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