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    Default Denial when loved one does drugs

    Is this normal? As i posted before I am going through this situation. I think i may need to find a support group.

    Sometimes she is great for a week and around and we have fun. Next, she leaves and goes on party binges. I know it happens, but for some reason i ALWAYS doubt myself into thinking i am over reacting.

    I always lead myself to question and think "well maybe i am wrong/over reacting/she is not doing anything....the strange people in her house is nothing....blah blah.

    Infact, even while typing this post, i have to post "more and more" details about her situation in order to get responses from you guys that "assure" me she has a problem.

    Another example, i know the other night her eyes were huge...and then my sister mentioned(without hearing me) that her eyes looked like marbles, them my neighbor the next day (who i am close with and knows) mentioned this too without hearing me or my sister. Now, i have trouble and doubt that i noticed her eyes were big like that.

    It is just frustrating, i mean i am doing fine...going about my life. I let her know i love her but need to see her clean. I have done the whole "i am here for you." I think i am going to go over tonight and tell her that i love her, will be there for her, but will not see her until she trys a rehab. She had been going to a mental health clinic for a little bit(dont think she does now)....but you need more than that for a crack habit right?
    I have done all of the above before except cutting off contact....do you guys and girls that the "cutting off contact" while letting her know i am here is the best? Letting her know and still being "around" is not doing much.

    Also, anyone that can relate to these denial types of feelings...please post similar feelings...or feelings that were kind of different.

    Thank you

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    Default Re: Denial when loved one does drugs

    K, here it goes.... My ex had/has a huge drug problem. I was with him for a very long time, he was the first man I was with actually. I had no clue he had a drug problem until halfway through the relationship. I tried to talk to him about it. He lied. I tried to go with him to get him help. He lied. I told him take drug tests or I leave. He lied and faked the tests.

    I eventually left him. I still cared for him, but you CANNOT live your life in denial.
    Watching someone you care about kill theselves slowly is too painful, tell her to get help, tell her you will be there as friend if she decides she needs one, but get out of the situation now. You are too close to it to see what's wrong and to see hwo bad thigns are. once you step away for a bit you will see what your friends and family see.

    You can't make her quit by the way, she wont quit until she's wants to. That is a simple and true fact.

    Good luck.




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    Default Re: Denial when loved one does drugs

    Run, don't walk, away from this woman. Hard to do, but you will be MUCH better off. Crack is like concentrated evil, once it gets hold to a person it's hard to pry them away from it (if not impossible). I have known several people who fell to that shit. Not a one of them ever made it out. One chick i knew had her WHOLE LIFE grind to a halt over that rotten stuff.

    Get out while you can.

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