Is this normal? As i posted before I am going through this situation. I think i may need to find a support group.
Sometimes she is great for a week and around and we have fun. Next, she leaves and goes on party binges. I know it happens, but for some reason i ALWAYS doubt myself into thinking i am over reacting.
I always lead myself to question and think "well maybe i am wrong/over reacting/she is not doing anything....the strange people in her house is nothing....blah blah.
Infact, even while typing this post, i have to post "more and more" details about her situation in order to get responses from you guys that "assure" me she has a problem.
Another example, i know the other night her eyes were huge...and then my sister mentioned(without hearing me) that her eyes looked like marbles, them my neighbor the next day (who i am close with and knows) mentioned this too without hearing me or my sister. Now, i have trouble and doubt that i noticed her eyes were big like that.
It is just frustrating, i mean i am doing fine...going about my life. I let her know i love her but need to see her clean. I have done the whole "i am here for you." I think i am going to go over tonight and tell her that i love her, will be there for her, but will not see her until she trys a rehab. She had been going to a mental health clinic for a little bit(dont think she does now)....but you need more than that for a crack habit right?
I have done all of the above before except cutting off contact....do you guys and girls that the "cutting off contact" while letting her know i am here is the best? Letting her know and still being "around" is not doing much.
Also, anyone that can relate to these denial types of feelings...please post similar feelings...or feelings that were kind of different.
Thank you



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