I need advice. So, basically I lent someone I considered to be a friend over $6000. I was supposed to make more money off of the money I lent him, and although I wasn't counting on it he assured me, and I'm reading from a text "you have my word I'll personally hand it to you if it's not ready by then." I gave him the money on May 5th. Stupid, naive me for trusting him![]()
In the past two months I've heard every excuse possible. He blamed his child's mother for making him late to do some transaction. Then supposedly drove on a suspended licence to get the money that he owed me from his bank account, and on his way there got pulled over by the police! So, I didn't hear from him for a couple days(I'm freaking out) and get a call from someone I don't know saying he's in jail. When he get's out a day later he lets me know he has all intention of paying me back and that he couldn't believe I would think for a second that he wouldn't pay me back, but he doesn't have the money because he paid his bail and lawyer with the money he owed me.
I've been led on to believe that I would be paid back on specific days, as in"Hey we're good for Tues," which turns into... "I don't have it til Friday that's when it's ready," just for example. I had been trying my best to have faith that he had good intentions and believe that he was honestly trying to pay me back, but then he would go missing and not return my calls/texts for days at a time, then when I do hear from him it's either some silly excuse, or defensive reply followed by an excuse like "I'm just frustrated and I feel I disappointed You. I'm embarassed." At one point, after not hearing from him from days, I threatened to involve "other people" then I got a response. I asked him if he would sign a promissory note, he said yes, but then went missing, with another excuse.
I realize this is a really long post, from someone who doesn't post often, but thanks to anyone reading.
... Today, after sending him texts/calling since Friday with no response as to what's happening. I sent him a text that said "you are an asshole"... "You or someone close to you will pay for you being such an asshole, if not now, at some point." I meant it more in a karmic way, but he responded back, as I thought he would...
He threatened me, in a non direct way. ("To survive, lose my number", brought up my parents and called me a rat.) I told him, in a text that I would call the cops, and I did, because I didn't know what to do. After waiting for over 6 hours for them to come and take a report I called and said I couldn't wait anymore tonight. So, to sum this up, I am a bit afraid that he will will do something to me. I still don't know how to get my money back(he's not accesible). I don't think I will ever be able to trust anyone again, and I feel hurt, ridiculously stupid, alone and depressed to top it off.
Please, if anyone has any advice, or can relate...I don't know, send some good enery my way even, it would be greatly appreciated.



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