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    So I am very, very, very, very intimidated after working my first night shift at the new club. Every single one of the girls is absolutely gorgeous, they all have amazing, very toned bodies, and they all are really good dancers- I spent pretty much the entire time in the DJ booth just watching their stage sets and trying to understand how all those tricks work. A really nice dancer showed me how to do a couch dance, so I understand better now, it's a lot more contact than I was envisioning... more bodyslides and closeness than dancing. I made $145 after tipping out the DJ, bouncer ( who I didn't even and house fee, and paying the cab home. So I really probably made around 200, which is pretty good, but I still feel really inadequate compared to the other girls in terms of aesthetics and talent.

    Partially because I just got on a plane and moved 3,000 miles across the country by myself- so I am feeling very out of my element and out of my comfort zone, and also because there was no pole, floorwork, couch dances or even leg-spreading at my old club- so this is like starting new all over again...

    agh. I didn't even feel this intimidated when I first started dancing, what is wrong with me!!!!

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    I think you're getting to ahead of yourself. Take it easy on yourself. You're still just a beginner, so don't overpressure yourself.

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    maybe you should try another club where you feel more comfortable... sometimes it just about where you work.

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    It sounds like the club has high standards in hiring if all the girls are as you described. And since they hired you, they feel that customers would like you too -- right? So I'm sure you look great too! Just give yourself a certain amount of time to adjust. You could come in and do a mid-shift just to have those couple of hours before things get really busy to become more comfortable.

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    I agree...you should feel great that a club with such high standards obviously thought you met those standards! I bet at least a few of those girls thought "hey...who's the new hottie?".

    Give yourself a break...you just changed about EVERYTHING in your life in one swoop..it'll take some time to adjust.

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    I think all of us have felt that way when we were new. The first time I walked into a strip club, this gorgeous blonde girl was dancing and I could not imagine ever being as hot as her. Well, turns out I was and am, and you probably are too.

    There's enough hotness for everyone. Them being gorgeous doesn't mean that you aren't. After a little more time you will gain confidence and realize that. I always say you should walk into the room like you are the hottest thing in there, whether you are or not is irrelevant. Confidence is sexy, and if you don't have it, fake it until you make it.
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    I have had this problem and i struggle with it but i make more money when i just stop looking at the other girls and focous on myself it works. Its easier said then done i understand. I am sure beatiful just make your money

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    Man...the first time I walked into my club, there were so many "barbie" look-alikes with big boobs, and I'm a dark-haired b-cup. I felt so intimidated. But pretty soon, you'll fit right in and the new girls will be intimidated by you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gypsy74 View Post

    Partially because I just got on a plane and moved 3,000 miles across the country by myself- so I am feeling very out of my element and out of my comfort zone, and also because there was no pole, floorwork, couch dances or even leg-spreading at my old club- so this is like starting new all over again...

    agh. I didn't even feel this intimidated when I first started dancing, what is wrong with me!!!!
    Not a goddamned thing is wrong with you. And I suspect you'll get over the intimidation pretty quickly. You just made a dramatic, serious, overnight change--it's going to take a while to adjust. No average woman could even begin to do what you just did.

    And having worked with somewhere near 2000 dancers by now, I can tell you that being a Barbie clone isn't what makes you sexy. It's the power that resides within you, it's your heart and soul as you express yourself in motion. It's your voice and the things you say to the man you wish to enchant.

    Granted a certain level of physical appeal--which you obviously have if you were hired instantly at a club filled with beautiful women--it's in your mind. Waiting for you to discover it and let it loose...
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    aww DJoser You're right. It's getting a little better, last night was a lot better than my first night, I made 237 after tip out and taxi- which is what I made on a "bad" night at my old club, so I'm getting there.

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    yeah dont take it too seriously , it takes time for confidence to grow in this job x x x

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