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    So I'm taking a summer sociology course on deviance. It's a cool course, and the prof is awsome. A very open minded environment.

    So at the beginning of every class the prof encourages us to share stories of deviance with the class. Today no one was really being forthcoming, so I raised my hand.

    The prof, who knows my name from all my question-answering, asked me what deviant thing I did on Canada Day, and I said "it was really Canada Day, but last weekend I realized that I wasn't going to have enough money to pay my bills this week so I went back to work as a dancer for the weekend...so, deviance."

    And the prof said "good, thanks for sharing that."

    And that was it. No one snapped their head back and looked at me. No one said anything. Most people probably didn't even hear what I said. It was so relieving. The prof was sincere and didn't dwell and didn't ask any questions. It was like nothing happened at all.

    Then later on as we were all leaving the class a girl who sits near me and often gives well-spoken, intelligent contribution in class (she's mentioned that she works as a counsellor at a support netword for sex workers) turned to me and said "thanks for saying that today...that was good". Or something like that. I stammered something in reply. She seemed just as genuine and sincere as the prof. Maybe a very little bit condescending, but not even I don't think. I have a pretty good BS radar for that kind of thing.

    So I don't know why exactly I said it...probably to disprove that whole "we're all illiterate, sad-sack, strung-out, crackwhores" (read a post from my friend pr317 from a while back about being harrassed by students who thought she needed to be saved or pitied or gossiped about or something). Some theory of visibilty decreases...I dunno. But I am glad I said it.

    Have any of you done anything similar? All that notwithstanding, I could never confess that stuff to my family, or even in a class within my department where the profs and students all 'know me', if that makes sense.

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    Good for you! I came "out" in my college classes too. Well, it was pretty hard not to actually, considering I went to a very small school and both of my roommates were dancers as well. But it's still nice to be open about it.

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    Wow that was brave of you to do. I loved taking sociology for the first time. It was very eye opening. You doing something like that seemed like a good environment to do it in and not like in math class or anything.

    I've only said I was a dancer to people I didn't know very well because I knew they were already opened minded. I've never shared it with people of whom I didn't think were open enough to be cool about it before.
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    i did that a couple times. even at other jobs. i had other people asking me questions what it was like coy they had been wanting to try it. hehe.




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    Hee hee, I came out in a sociology class too. The class was called something like "Work Organizations and Their (insert highbrow sociological term that I cannot remember)." We had just watched "Live Nude Girls" (the documentary about the unionization at the Lusty Lady), and all these kids started talking about how stripping was so exploitative/ unionization was so great/ dancing naked was so sleazy/ at least unionization was saving these poor, poor girls from some of the evils of the adult industry, etc. Oy vey.

    Don't get me wrong: I'm all about the unionization that went down in SF, and I'm actually super glad that they turned the whole process into a documentary, because it was by far the most interesting documentary (and therefore educational) I've ever seen about anything like that. But I wouldn't work as a stripper if it were union, because I'm too concerned with keeping it on the DL like that. I am happy that there are few rules and no paper trail, and I would NOT trade discretion for protection. But that's just me.

    Anyway, I came out and said that, because SOMEONE needed to play devil's advocate and break up the hegemony. Also, someone needed to put that dumb vegan/ punk/ anarchist/ leftist kid in his place when he said dancers were exploited and needed a union to save them. I was like... Remember last semester when I worked at the campus coffee shop for $5/ hour? And people like you came in and demanded soy half-caf lattes with organic raw sugar steamed with the soy milk, NO FOAM PLEASE and didn't tip? Yeah... now I make $20 for 3 minutes... think about exploitation, thanks.

    No wonder why I had so many enemies at that school. I was going through a real bratty mouthing-off phase. It was pretty fun being That Mouthy Stripper, though.

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    I came out in a Psych class. I did my senior project about the mentality of strip club regulars in Chicago, why the kept coming back (Chicago is air dance only, at least where I worked, so they wern't getting anything "physical" out of it.), etc.

    I sadly, didn't have the same good experience. They teachers aide (who was gross fat pig) tried to get me to present my paper to her privately instead of in front of the class. I guess she thought I was scandelous!

    Anyway, as for the Sex Worker lady coming up to you.... I get really offended being labeled that. A sex worker. What the fuck? I dance around naked, I'm not fucking people. Ya know? I feel sex worker is a polite way to say whore.
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    ^^^ i think it's generally accepted that strippers are sex workers, because we sell nudity and mental sexual stimulation, just like the cam worker who masturbates by herself on the internet and the phone sex operator who just talks dirty. All are sex workers, imo.

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    Wow!! Good for you! That's awesome that you got such a good response from them.. I didn't know you were taking summer school, maybe you told me but I am too blonde to remember
    Well, I suppose "sociology students" are somewhat more open-minded than say, teacher's college students!!
    Ru still working over in Gatineau? Man, you should have worked last weekend, it was nuts!! Ok, I guess this is what they call "thread-jacking" so I'll stop!

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    it's cool to hear similar stories, so thanks everyone!

    and pr- I'm not working at -- anymore because, ehhh, I don't like to work schedules and couldn't stick to them, especially when I've got school. I'm in Ottawa, where the business is probably not as good, but the contact is a little lower these days.

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    I did the same thing in my Sociology class this Spring. My female teacher was just awesome and yeah, so open minded.
    The only bad thing is that some of the students got on the subject of the nastiest strip club in town......my strip club:p

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    Quote Originally Posted by teeth_of_the_hydra View Post
    I was like... Remember last semester when I worked at the campus coffee shop for $5/ hour? And people like you came in and demanded soy half-caf lattes with organic raw sugar steamed with the soy milk, NO FOAM PLEASE and didn't tip? Yeah... now I make $20 for 3 minutes... think about exploitation, thanks.
    ^^Heh, that's friggin awesome!

    And good for you, Molly. I didn't strip when I was in college, but if I had, I probably would have been too chicken to out myself. But oh, I sure found a good use for my Psych degree!
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    You are so brave. I have always been too much of a chicken to do that.

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    when i took this class about writing academic essays I wrote one of my essays about being a dancer. The teacher and three other students read it (we had to do group proofreading in that class) and I had a positive experience and it was very relieving too. Sometimes it's hard to keep it kind of a secret!

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    Hmmm, so update:

    We had our midterm today and the prof came up to me as I was leaving, asked me how the exam went and everything. Then he followed me into the hall and was all "so thanks for bringing that up in class last time...etc etc...there's a prof at this school who used to do that, you know, her name is dr. xyz if you ever need to talk...or you can talk to counsellors, if you ever need to".

    I was rambling some stuff to reply in between his rambling...but what the hell? Counselling? For all the things I need counselling over, I don't think 'living with the fact that I've been a dancer' is one of them.

    I'm still glad I said it, and I still get the feeling he's being nice and supportive. But do you ever feel that you tell someone, and they get way too fascinated by it? I hate that THIS is the thing that makes me so damned interesting to people, but at least I have all this sociological theory that tells me why.

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    well im proud of you for coming out and being honest about what you do, and im sure it was liberating. what a douche for thinking that you need counseling for being a dancer lol.

    when i was in college i came out as a stripper to my sophomore video (art) class. and it was apparent through some of my work, but the class seemed to think nothing of it. my prof was the coolest woman ever, a woman named Pam who was in a 3-way relationship so she was not judging anything. but, i foudn out much later that some idiots in the class were talking smack on me for the job. i just laughed at that, because really, any publicity is good publicity imo. and that talking smack on me did bring some ppl from my college out to the club and they actually bought dances from me.

    Love it!

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