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Last edited by magnificentchacha; 07-10-2007 at 10:15 AM. Reason: gathered enough info
I think its a problem because the only plus you mentioned is that it would help with the bills.
Moving in can be really tough in a relationship. It's dealing with each other's quirks and faults all day, everyday, if you dont have a lot of love, and a strong foundation, moving in together would be chaos. You'll hate it, have to break up and find separate places, then starts the absolute chaos of trying to decide who gets what, and how much money is owed, etc.
Basically, I think it's far too much risk and trouble for someone you are not in love with, or someone you KNOW you dont have a real future with.
Don't do it, it will be more problems than good.
I thought it was a bad idea before I even got to the part where you say you don't love him. Finances are a terrible reason to move in with a SO. Move into a 2 bdrm and get a roomie if you have to... or pick up an extra shift... or work longer hours... Trust me, you don't want to deal with dividing all the stuff back up when things don't work out.
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It would've not been bad had you not mentioned the finances. If you're doing it solely for the finances (you don't really need love or forever to live with someone) then it wouldn't be so bad. But the fact you had to make a point it would be easier on your finances and made no point of anything else made it a bad idea.
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success
I agree, don't do it. Get a roommate.




Even if you have to work more......nothing beats your own place!!





screaming bad idea! i bet if you did he would start to annoy the piss out of you in a week, and then you would have the whole rest of your lease to be in a bad mood about it.
I'm sure it would cause a breakup or worse.




Advice that I learned the hard way:
1) Do it for love and love only. Too many people do it for convenience or necessity rather than love, which leads to fights, obligations, trust issues, and overall feelings of "being trapped."
2) Don't collaborate on purchases. If you move out, it'll be easier to divide up the stuff. Make sure that it's either yours or his/hers.
3) Keep an emergency stash of a few months' living expenses on hand in case something happens so you're not labeled as a deadbeat.
4) Don't borrow money from your significant other, because if something happens, he or she will want that money back right away.
5) Divide up household chores.
6) Keep in mind that when not cohabitating, going home means "me time." When cohabitating, going home means "us time," so "me time" = "us time." Keep up a life independent from your significant each other, but make sure to spend quality time with each other as well.
7) Have backup plans in case something happens.
Some famous last words are, "But we spend so much time together that we might as well live together." Believe me, it's different.
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