Results 1 to 21 of 21

Thread: Getting my shit together

  1. #1
    sun child
    Guest

    Default Getting my shit together

    In a few days, I'm going to embark on a long solo camping trip. No alcohol, no weed, no other drugs...just me, a tent, bodies of water that I intend to swim in, fruit, nuts, journals, books and myself. No stripping, no cell phone, no internet...just nature.

    I'm 23, I drink a lot, I have very little savings, I have no degrees, and I've been stripping for two years. Goddamn, I'm smarter than this. All this is for another thread, though. Right now I need to focus on the future, instead of internally whining about how I feel so old and unaccomplished for my age.

    When I get back from my adventure, I need to go talk to a financial advisor or an accountant. I wonder if an accountant could serve the role as a financial advisor, or what I should do. I am just so confused, and wish someone could just swoop down and tell me what to do.

    Where should I look? Portland girls, are there any good accountants that you use? Good financial advisors? I'm not ready to quit stripping yet, and I need to accept that.

    I know I need to have weekly goals, monthly goals, investment goals, the goal to buy a house here (I'm gonna stick around for a while), and educational goals. I also need to accept that at some point, I need to have some sort of exit strategy for this business, although I think I can do it for a lot longer, being that I'm 23 now and during every shift guys tell me I look like a teen.

    I've searched the threads incessantly, but is there any advice as to what a good, simple place to start would be? Should I go see a financial advisor or an accountant first? Are there services that offer both?

  2. #2
    ajbaer
    Guest

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Best of luck with your trip. I spent 5 weeks in a tent in Alaska when I was 16. It was life changing. Let me know how it goes.

  3. #3
    God/dess ViolaStrings's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2004
    Posts
    4,219
    Thanks
    84
    Thanked 236 Times in 120 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    I'm on the same page as you. Can I come? I'll bring stuff for smores.

    PS: Where are the stripper life coaches?

  4. #4
    God/dess holiday's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2005
    Posts
    2,691
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 61 Times in 23 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Wow I can commiserate. Except I'm almost 5 years older than you . Don't get down on yourself. But definitely take the time you need to refocus and recharge. I really want to talk to a financial advisor/accountant as well, but I don't have a clue as to a reputable one.

    Let us know how you feel after you trip. I wish you the best.
    I'm confused, but the Chewbacca Truffle Shuffle cleared it up. - Emily

  5. #5
    Picaresque
    Guest

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Good for you; your trip sounds like a great idea. I hope you come back refreshed, relaxed and all sorted out.

    And yeah, I can totally relate to where you are and how you're feeling right now. But it's definitely not too late to turn things around at 23! We're still young. Start now and you'll be amazed at how far you've come even a year from now.

  6. #6
    God/dess Dottie Rebel's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Indianapolis
    Posts
    3,174
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 54 Times in 19 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    I can offer nothing but commmiseration. I am in your exact same spot and having been planning to take a sort of 21st century vision quest, travelling the country and sleeping on folks couches.

    I wish I knew what to do, too. Maybe a life coach?

  7. #7
    God/dess Lena's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2002
    Location
    On a sweet muddy river.
    Posts
    6,399
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 78 Times in 43 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    I think the camping trip is a great idea. I hope it brings you everything you're looking for.

    Stripper life coaches are a great idea. Someone could really capitalize on that one...



  8. #8
    sun child
    Guest

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Yes, exactly. I need a life coach. Someone to say, "OK sun child, you need to work five nights a week. You need to save at least half your money, and it would help to put it in these stocks. You need to save this much for taxes. You need to work out. You need to get some highlights. You need to go see an advisor at the university, and get back in classes. You need to focus on one thing, not study a bunch of random shit. You need to stop calling that guy that delivers you bags of really, really good weed..." ad nauseum. I suppose I already know what to do; I'm just not taking the steps. Day by day, I should go. When I do get back from my trip, I'm going to at least talk to someone about this. And I know I shouldn't beat myself up as much as I do.

  9. #9
    Veteran Member XoticaDoll's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Posts
    214
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 7 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    I am in a very similar situation and I just wanted you to know you are not alone.
    This board is an excellent resource for inspiration and knowledge.
    When I read through the threads, I notice ladies who have succeeded and are doing the things they have always wanted and it gives me motivation.

    I really wish you well and hope you figure out your way

  10. #10
    God/dess PleasureVictim's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    nowhere I want to be
    Posts
    3,684
    Thanks
    803
    Thanked 767 Times in 394 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Good luck SunChild.

    Anyone wanna be my life coach??
    Women of color:
    Shake your ass and preserve your heritage.
    Bang those fucking drums.
    Do it for the present and future generations.
    Have fun and stick it to the man at the same time.
    (bad-dominicana)

  11. #11
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    575
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 176 Times in 70 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    I think for most people, their mother tells them those kinds of things, haha. "Your roots are showing, when are you going back to school, your job doesn't pay you enough, etc." Except when you dance you usually don't want to tell your mom all the details or tell her at all.

    I don't presume to be good enough at dancing or life to tell another woman on this board what choices she should make with her life. Sometimes I wish the girls I work with would let me run their lives though. At least they wouldn't have such a-hole boyfriends and coke problems.

    We had a financial planning thread in the dollar den maybe a month ago. A couple people said they had used Ameriprise financial advisors. An accountant is great to help you with your taxes, but for investing and goal setting, a financial planner is the way to go.

  12. #12
    Veteran Member hearts's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Location
    PDX, OR
    Posts
    447
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 22 Times in 8 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    You can dooooo it!!!
    Hey girl, a few years ago I was living on ramen noodles and whiskey.

    I just bought a new car and am saving to open my own business.
    I swear, you have to hit that point when you REALLY want to make it happen. It sounds like you are there, just doing some soul searching, needing to get away from all the noise to just THINK about what you truly want.
    I am searching for a financial advisor--if I find one I will let ya know!

  13. #13
    Senior Member pr317's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2004
    Posts
    199
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 4 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Good for you!! Seriously.. Wow, that sounds like a great idea.. Best of luck with all the soul-searching, sounds like you already know sort of what you need to do!

  14. #14
    Banned LatinaRose's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2005
    Location
    Toronto 4 now...
    Posts
    4,876
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    Stripper life coaches are a great idea. Someone could really capitalize on that one...
    That's what I was thinking...where's B? Emily?

  15. #15
    sun child
    Guest

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Yeah, if anyone wants to offer me their services as a stripper life coach, I'd pay accordingly!

  16. #16
    God/dess Lysondra's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2005
    Location
    Another Country
    Posts
    18,664
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 148 Times in 100 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Ah THIS is the thread that inspired me to get my life coach! Found it!!


    Look like a woman
    Think like a man
    Act like a lady
    Work like a dog

    - My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success

  17. #17
    sun child
    Guest

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    I haven't gone on the camping trip yet. I decided to go to the Oregon Country Fair instead (I had a three-day pass!) which is basically a pagan hippie festival in Oregon. I thought it would be more like a pie-eating kind of fair, but this was cool, too. I saw a topless woman breastfeeding while she walked. She had five other kids following her around like the sweetest ducklings. I also saw a lot of other naked painted boobs. Instead of taking off this week, I decided to stick around and milk my regular, since he promised to come in every night I worked. Guaranteed money beats out tranquility...pour le moment. I've been scoping out places to go next week, though.

  18. #18
    God/dess VegasPrincess's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    MKE
    Posts
    4,660
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 182 Times in 40 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Sounds awesome. Do bring your cell in case of emergencies though!
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

  19. #19
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jan 2005
    Posts
    214
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Sun child, have you thought about going to Burning man? It can be very life changing and theraputic. burningman.com, if you want any more info. I am going this year and I know other girls on here go every year as well.

  20. #20
    God/dess anomar's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2005
    Posts
    2,373
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    You should go! It's definitely affordable, and it takes you out of your normal comfort zone and into an amazing new way of living and thinking about yourself and your life for a whole week. I'm camping with some great people and I believe we still have space. It was sure nice to randomly run into Stevie06 for five minutes last year, and 3+ other girls from DI went last year too.

    (Also, I mentioned a similar, smaller gathering this weekend about an hour from PDX, if you want we should go )

  21. #21
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Sep 2004
    Location
    Texas
    Posts
    362
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 7 Times in 6 Posts

    Default Re: Getting my shit together

    Somebody mentioned Burningman. I've wanted to go to that for years, but don't know if I can take the desert temps.

    Sun Child, once you figure out how to increase your motivation and change your habits, everything will start to fall into place. One step at a time as you said. I've been where you are and periodically fall back into my hole. When I'm home, I'm comfortable, there's always tomorrow to do what I didn't do today and I tend to procrastinate.

    The solution for myself is to travel and get out of my comfort zone for a while. I don't have a life coach, but I have expenses over my head and a schedule that I've promised to work. Since I'm in towns where I don't know anyone and have nothing to keep me occupied, I work out during the day, read whatever I can about financial investing or markets I'm interested in, and can think about where I am in my life. Once I have about 3 weeks under my belt of being productive, I feel more confident and weird if I don't work or get lazy. Sometimes we just don't have confidence in ourselves. Once you see that you are keeping your promises to yourself, it will come naturally.

Similar Threads

  1. I cant believe this shit !!!
    By MzStar in forum Camming Connection
    Replies: 17
    Last Post: 10-15-2011, 04:19 PM
  2. Oh shit, not again!
    By Deogol in forum Dollar Den
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 03-05-2010, 02:24 PM
  3. I Cannot Believe This Shit!!!!!!!
    By AlluringAva in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 04-10-2006, 10:14 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •