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    i feel like things are just getting worse and worse lately and i don't know how to fix it.

    part of it is my own fault. i sabotage myself when it comes to things that might make me happy, whether i do it consciously or not.

    i just keep thinking that things can't get any worse and they do. i don't even know how things ended up such a mess like they are. i'm never happy with anything for long, and i know that i attract people/things that are bad for me. and i KNOW this and fully recognize when i'm doing it but i do it anyway.

    blah. i just dont know how to get things to improve again. i don't even know where to start.

    i'm good at hiding it, at least, though i was talking to someone and saying that i complain way too much these days and they were like you always seem pretty happy to me! i guess it's good that i at least fake it. fake it til its not faking anymore, right?

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    Britt, forgive me if my message looks strange--having trouble with my "m" key for some reason and sometimes my messages come out like secret code. I'll do the best I can here.

    I get from your message that you feel somehow you are sabotaging yourself--almost like you make decisions that mess you up so much that sometimes you feel like you can't get out of your own way. I'm pretty determined in my own field, but I notice that during those times when I'm not sure where to turn next I get like this, too, and it is frustrating. I find during such times that it is a good idea to (1) simplify your goals to just two or three major things--even if one of those goals is to simply collect more positive people around you and (2) to concentrate on, and celebrate, one thing at a time. In other words, actively keep yourself from being overwhelmed, and congratulate yourself when you do make progress--be grateful for each step.

    It's easy, when things start to unravel, (wrong friends, diet, whatever) to tell yourself you'll REALLY get back on track soon, and this almost gives you permission to really mess around for a while, since you've already started on that path tonight and you'll fix it tomorrow. But the sooner you start to correct the slide the better. I saw an old girlfriend today: still in love with her, but I don't think we'll be getting back together. By tonight I wanted to slide into messing myself up, but I'm pulling out of it, getting myself ready for the work tomorrow--I know I'll feel better about it then, even if I don't now.

    I don't know if this speaks to you at all. It seemed that what I was going through tonight is similar to what you're experiencing. I hope that is some help, anyway. When in doubt, try to go with "the better angels of your nature." Good luck.
    JK Jim

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