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    Last night from 5-2 I tried out the Dolphin I. I made more money there than I have made since I started dancing 2 months ago, even more than my highest night at the Cheetah. It was all off one extremely depressed, unhappy, rich, inebriated man. I was sitting in the dressing room kind of upset because it was 11 and I had only made 45 dollars off stage tips, but I decided to walk back out there anyways, as soon as I leave the dressing room, he stumbles in to me and asks me for a dance. I was about to go on stage so I told him to come watch my stage set and then we can do the dance after. On stage, before I even took anything off... he threw a FIFTY at me. I take off my bra, he throws me a 20, I take off my panties, he throws me another 20, and then does a dollar shower. By this point, I was pretty determined to keep him hooked and get him into the VIP room/dance area as quickly as possible. I ask him his name, tell him mine and tell him to meet me in VIP in 5 minutes. I ran back into the DR, got changed and met him there.

    As soon as I sit down next to him he tells me he's in the middle of a divorce, and starts crying about how his wife doesn't care that he can give her louis vuittons and a nice house, and how the money doesn't matter, and how he'd do anything to have her back, and how he just sold his 900,000 dollar house, his wife got to keep his 1 year old daughter and 4 year old son and how he has nothing, all while pulling wads of 50's and 20's out of his pockets, almost crying and saying the money doesn't matter and giving it to me. I tried my best to cheer him up, take his mind off the situation, it worked a little bit, but then he diverted his attention off the divorce and trying to get me to go home with him. He asked me how much and I told him he can't buy that. Then jokingly I said 3 million, and he stopped asking. It was really sad, I spent about a half hour with him in VIP, and left the club with $684, mostly from him, except for 3 other couch dances and minimal stage tips.

    Before I left for work I wrote down my goals $-wise for the week, and I put 500 for the night.. so I guess it worked. It was still really sad. After listening to him and seeing him with all the money in the world and still being so unhappy, it's making me feel like the money doesn't matter too. I've been really really depressed today, even though I have enough $$ to pay my rent, buy groceries, buy whatever I need, not be stressed out about school costs, and a savings account that keeps growing so I'm closer to being able to travel in the future.. I'm really unhappy. I don't understand why I always get these types of customers- they pay well but they're so broken.

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    Well... such is the emotional toll of your relationship with him. Just be grateful that you were able to brighten his day.

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    Life can humble you at strange times. You have just encountered one of those times.

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    I want to say...congrats on your best night ever...but I know that you can't feel good about it right now. You should NOT feel sad about the world because of this mofo. A grown man should be able to handle his shit, or go pay money to see a professional therapist, without unloading his emotional instability on a nice minor stripper who's new in town.

    Oh yeah...and he tried to proposition you for sex? What a fucking asshole! Dude, this guy is not your problem. Obviously if he's in the strip club trying to buy some ass, he probably caused his marriage to go up in flames himself. That kind of behavior just doesn't come out of nowhere.

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    no he really wasnt an asshole they almost all try.
    part of our job sometimes is to be a threapist. he needed you and you got paid. sad as it may be you both got what you needed out of it.
    and yea money doesnt always equal happiness

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    I can't deal with the super depressing customers. Usually they are too depressed to give you their money. This guy was an exception obviously.

    A guy I ignore because he is too depressing came up and tipped me while I was on stage tonight and gave me this look like, "I am upset that you don't come to talk to me." Dude, you make me want to cry. At 7pm. It ruins my night, so no, I'm not coming over.

    Just be glad you hit your goal, that is great! Go in and do it again tomorrow.

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    Meh, you only heard his drunken side of the story. For all you know, she found out that he was going to strip clubs and paying girls to fuck him (oh, the irony) and thus left him.

    The therapist side of this job can really get to me, too. It freaks me out when they cry!
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    I think we've all had nights where we've made a lot of money but left feeling like shit because making it was such a stressful process. Don't take that guy's depression on yourself; he let it out in your presence but it doesn't have to become yours. You were there for a diversion and did what you could. And Bella21 makes an excellent point as always.

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    I second bella. And I also look at it this way: Lets say something very sad/horrible/depressing happened to you....would your first instinct be to run out, pay a naked man, and then offer to pay for sex?

    Negative.

    However, I know exactly how you feel. I got paid to sit with a man once, and then he got dances. In the first few seconds of the dance he started crying about how his wife died five years ago and how he's never seen another woman since and how he feels like she would be angry about what he's doing...blah blah blah. Very sad. I talked to a girl @ work about it that night, and her response was " sweetie you are at work. Don't let this get you down and keep you from making your money; you have to separate things sometimes...."
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    I've had customers like that before, and it is sad. You're human and you have a heart, so seeing anyone go through family troubles will touch you somehow.

    But you did what you are supposed to do, nothing more nothing less. LIke to other girls said, DO NO let this make you feel guilty. Look at it like this.... He got in his car, he came to the strip club, he put the money in his wallet and he took it out and gave it to you....Trust me, he knew well in advance that this was his choice of therapy for the night.

    But yah, when they cry, it's totally creepy.




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    And to think-the therapy aspect of the job is one of my favorite parts... I love talking to people about their problems and trying to find a little moment of distraction... Wish I'd gotten that guy...

    But yeah, ENJOY the money. It was worth it for the little comfort you wereable to give him.

    (btw I'm chalking up that night of working as a "learning experience" to watch the pole competition. After paying the cab, i had ONE WHOLE DOLLAR to show for the night. TOo many assholes PROMISING to meet me in dances and VIP and then no showing, and too many more skipping straight to the "i don't buy dances.... but SEX...." eww. So consider yourself VERY lucky.)

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    oh believe me... I am extremely grateful that I made that much, especially after having 2 nights in the last week where I went home with way under 100, and especially after getting so worked up about how PDX clubs are different... it was very reassuring making the most $ I've ever made.

    Normally I would have been able to deal with a custy like that without getting so down myself, but since I'm already feeling a little bit lonely and vulnerable being in this new place, he really affected me. I do like the therapist part of this job when I can cheer them up and make their day brighter.

    needtodance-- When they promise to meet you in VIP or the dance area, say alright let's go, take their hand, lead them there, make sure they're sitting down, sit down with them if you want and talk for half a song, and then say you have to go get ready for them, quickly put on your dress (I saw some girls that left their dress in the couch area and just slid it on right in front of them). It's all about finding the one guy who makes your night.

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    I can't haul a grown man on my own, when I take their hand and pull, and they don't get up, there's not much I can do... Just be like "Oh are you changing your mind? I was looking forward to our time?" and they've already ignored me and turned to the next girl on stage.

    Its weird though, last night was the first time a guy has EVER done that, had me pulling on his hand to go, and refused to get up and come. ANd last night EVERY guy who said he wanted a dance did that after I was done with my set.

    And yes, I keep my dress in teh couch area so that I can keep talking while I slip it on(and usually make a bit of a show about zipping it up-for some reason the guys i've danced for LOVE this-i think it makes it look more intimate, like watching your date get ready. Who knows.).

    Last night was VERY much an anomaly for me, i think it really WAS just too many girls...

    Normally I'm OK at finding SOMEONE to take care of me, when they're within earshot distance so i can talk them into it... And normally once I get my hooks in, they're not getting away... it was just last night that ALL of these guys kept promising to come with me, and then not moving when i actaully tried to follow THROUGH with it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by needtodance View Post
    I can't haul a grown man on my own, when I take their hand and pull, and they don't get up, there's not much I can do... Just be like "Oh are you changing your mind? I was looking forward to our time?" and they've already ignored me and turned to the next girl on stage.
    Are you really asking with the elevated inflection in your voice? (like 'are you changing your mind?') That TOTALLY gives them an out. If you're allowed to, just walk him over to the dance area naked (I forget if it's forbidden or just looked down upon @ DI, heh). Just take their hand and chirp "Let's go!" Don't ask 'em if they're changing their mind because it sounds like a) it's an option and b) guys do that a lot if you have to ask.

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    I only ask that after I've already said "lets go" and grabbed my purse and clothes(i keep my dress by the couches) and they still weren't attempting to get up. Usually thats my "I do need to back away, I can't stay out here because the bar girl is giving me the hairy eye for still being here and the girl onstage is starting her set and this guy is already turning his attention to her, and not the little naked girl tugging on his hand".

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