Results 1 to 6 of 6

Thread: What do you do?

  1. #1
    God/dess greenidlady1's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    4,183
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 14 Times in 12 Posts

    Default What do you do?

    What do you do when a neighbor or someone like an uncle, aunt, cousin or old friend passes away? The reason I ask is that my great uncle which happens to be our neighbor passed away yesterday and we took food over to his wife and family. Other family members and neighbors took over items as well. I talked to a friend of mine on the phone today and he thought this behavior was odd. I just thought it was something you did to show your support. And of course if they don't live close by send a sympathy card. What do you do when someone you know passes?

  2. #2
    God/dess
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Temporary Lurkmode...
    Posts
    12,609
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 79 Times in 35 Posts

    Default Re: What do you do?

    I would bring food too and offer and open ear even if they wanted to just spill out what was bothering them at anytime. Bringing food isn't weird at all. Its actually a tradition in some places. I've never dealt with death firsthand (and never want to except hamsters dying) so offering a shoulder would be my best advice. Or offer to do things for them run errands and such for a bit.
    you live like an ivy vine
    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
    -Kenpachi



  3. #3
    cameron_keys
    Guest

    Default Re: What do you do?

    Why would this be odd? It was a neighbor and a relative. Were you supposed ot ignore it?? What you did was caring and lovely.

  4. #4
    Member Raven_Reno's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2007
    Posts
    23
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: What do you do?

    I think the point of bringing food is so that the family suffering the loss doesn't have to be bothered by cooking and such things as much while they deal with their grief.

  5. #5
    Kaylinn
    Guest

    Default Re: What do you do?

    Yeah, I thought bringing food was normal. When my cousin died, it wasn't uncommon at all to see the neighbors cutting my aunt's grass, or weeding her garden for weeks afterward.

    When family is dealing with grief, they don't have time, or care to do normal upkeep things liek cook dinner,( a lot of times, they don't even remember to cook, grief can be all consuming) or cut the grass, every day normal things are just to trivial when you just lost someone you love.

  6. #6
    God/dess UtahMike's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2007
    Location
    Utah
    Posts
    2,998
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 64 Times in 43 Posts
    My Mood
    Amused

    Default Re: What do you do?

    I usually write a letter telling them what that person meant to me and enclose it in a sympathy card. As for giving food, I think your friend who thinks it is odd is the one who is odd. There is nothing odd about helping someone who has lost a loved one.

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •