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    I have been done stripping for a very long time now. Probably more than a year. I haven't worked for shit in the past year. After I got over my slump and depression, I worked a few days, maade really decent money.....but I never went back.

    I'm just finished, and I have been refusing to accept that fact. It's scary to give up the freedom and the money, but I've hated dancing for quite some time. All I'm doing by refusing to acknowledge this is just being lazy and not bringing in any money. Most weekends I get ready for work but don't leave the house. Some days I actually leave and drive past, but don't go in. twice now I have actually parked my car and gone in, only to walk back out.

    There is just not any aspect of dancing appealing enough to make me want to be there.
    I don't want to give dances, I don't want to show my body, I don't want to sit and have fake interest in people, I just want to be real, and do what I want to be doing.
    Now that I'm pregnant, the not wanting to give lapdances and show off my body is even worse. I don't want random men looking at me as a sex object, the thought grosses me out. And I don't want them trying to grab my tits. I'm really scared they are gonna try to touch my boobs, and they are very sore.

    My boyfriend thinks I'm just a lazy shit because I never work. It's not that I'm lazy, really. It's just that I don't want to strip, but I can't let it go to get a different job. He pushes me a lot to strip to, and I don't want to give it up because it's what he wants me to be doing, although right now he'd be happy if I did anythign to generate income.

    All of this is irrelevant now, cause my strippign time is very limited, but it would be very good of me to dance and work hard in the next few months, save the money so I can just take it easy after my time is up, but I just cannot make myself go in.

    But at the same time, I'm scared of a real job. I'm starting school in a month. How can I hold down a real job with an 8 hour day, plus be in school, plus be pregnant? Wouldn't it be easier to just dance hard now and not worry later? Then why can't I make myself do it? Nothing in the world can get me back in that club. I even got my hair done, I feel sexy and pretty again, btu still, that isn't enough. Nothign is a strong enough motivator to make me want to be there. I'm just finsihed. I've tried to hold on to long.

    So I think this is it. I got to stop wasting my tiem holding on to this, and focus my energy on finding a job before I can't get hired anywhere. It's certainly not fair of my boyfriend to support me this much, with no contribution from me. It's not fair of me to get mad when he bitches. He has a right to bitch, it's got to be frustraing to him to go to work every night when I just sit home and do nothing. I haven't even modeled since May, since my hair got cut. I was abtou to start scheduling shoots again, but now I can only schedule for the next month or 2.
    So I guess tomorrow or Monday I'll start callign bars and see if any openings for bartender, calling strip clubs and see if they need waitresses....I've applied at all the casinos but I've burned my bridges with the best ones already. I was gonna apply for nursing jobs but honestly, a nursing job combined with school just won't work. It'll be to much.

    So I think this is my Retired post. Scary.

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    Aww sweety. If it depresses you, don't do it.

    Now that your pregnant you need to keep your life fairly stress free. So I think leaving dancing and finding a real job would be your best bet. Your first three months are your most delicate, if you get worked up and upset being in the club then you need to avoid it.

    Im glad your doing whats best for you. I wish you the best of luck in your job search! Take care of the little one and remember we will always love you and be here for you!! *hugs*

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    I agree with Cally, if you're done, you're done! Right now, especially after everything you've been through and what you are about to go through, you need to stay posotive and healthy. Stress and depression, no, not so much!

    Are there any golf courses in your area? I good friend of mine left dancing to start a family, and she is driving the beer cart at a nice golf course. She loves it! And those girls make really good money, not stripper money but damn close!

    Plus, we're used to people not looking over our shoulder all day/night long, that;s the hardest part for me anyway of having a "regular" job. Driving the beer cart still leaves us strippers a feeling of independance. And we can use our fabulous flirting skills to make good $$$

    Just a thought. Good luck Kaylinn, keep us posted




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    I do agree that if you are done, then be done.....but if you really need to continue to work for financial reasons, try a dayshift. You will be one of the hottsest girls so it wont be hard, the hustle is lighter and customers in general are less handsy and jerkish. It won't be the same money you are used to but it will be contributing something to your household. Its a hard position beacause its tough to go out and look for a new job in a totally new arena when you are in the early stages of pregnancy. Your hormones are all over the place and your dealing with a lot of change already. Personally, I did a couple dayshifts here and there in months 3 and 4 and looking back I wished I would have worked a little more and saved more money. No matter how financially comfortable you are the closer the baby gets to being born the more worried about providing for another person for a lifetime you get. At least in my opinion. But all that said, I don't think I was quite as over dancing as you are now, so that made it a bit easier for me. I'm sure you will do whats best for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    I agree with Cally, if you're done, you're done! Right now, especially after everything you've been through and what you are about to go through, you need to stay posotive and healthy. Stress and depression, no, not so much!

    Are there any golf courses in your area? I good friend of mine left dancing to start a family, and she is driving the beer cart at a nice golf course. She loves it! And those girls make really good money, not stripper money but damn close!

    Plus, we're used to people not looking over our shoulder all day/night long, that;s the hardest part for me anyway of having a "regular" job. Driving the beer cart still leaves us strippers a feeling of independance. And we can use our fabulous flirting skills to make good $$$

    Just a thought. Good luck Kaylinn, keep us posted
    That's a hell of an idea. I'll check into it.

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    ^^ at a resort hotel here in NEW MEXICO, I know for a fact the girls would make over $200 per shift, 3 a lot.....damn son! Of course looking into it, there were no job openings at the time, and the main girls had been there for years...who wouldn't be? Then I moved and no longer work for that hotel, but yea....Vegas probably has many many more options! Good luck!

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    Lots of people find ways to hold down traditional jobs and balance school. The catch is to think outside the box, like Cally. Find something with flex hours. Night shifts.

    Bartending can be good. But getting a good gig can be hard to get without "paying dues" as a bar back. My bf got some bartending gigs going through catering services, but they always wanted him to cater more than tend bar. But when he did get a good gig, he'd come home with some serious tips.

    One of the girls here is looking into event planning. Parties and weddings and stuff. That might be fun.
    Last edited by Danielle_4370; 07-14-2007 at 01:22 PM. Reason: I type like crap.

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    ^My ex and I had an event planning co. It was lots of fun, the people you come into contact with are always happy and excited. That's a fun atmosphere.




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    Hi Kayin
    Sorry if this is a bit bitchy and I am only new here... but your bf needs a serious attitude adjustment! He shouldn't be pushing you to do something that is uncomfprtable for you, it kinda sounds like he has very high expectations of you without paying any attention to how it makes you feel about yourself.

    I was doing webcam stuff when I got preggers and just the thought of being a sex symbol whilst pregnant made me ill so I just stopped. We have been pretty broke since then but you know what, who the fuck cares? I would rather have a stress free pregnancy then have money. That said I am now trying phone sex work to rack up a bit of cash b4 the birth because I am scared of being broke and stuck at home not able to make money AT ALL b/c of the baby being about.

    OMG if someone had grabbed my tits in the first few months of pregnancy I would have bashed the over the head, that would vfreak me out too... it HURTS!!!!!!! in fact I recall up until a month or so ago it freaked me out even having people look at my tits. All those hormones make you feel strange and different to how you normally do. You are not lazy! you are doing a fulltime job making a baby. Its a shame we aren;'t all rich enough to loll about whilst growing the babies, but you should be easy on yourself and stick to what's in your limits. And dont beat yourself up for having limits.

    Sorry I am a rambler today excuse the long reply....

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    My boyfriend wants me to dance because it's what suites me best, and it is. I love the freedom, the schedule, the money...but I don't love the club, or what I have to do for money. He is also very understandably frustrated because I haven't worked at all in the past month, and when I did it was for 2 weekends, and before that I had worked maybe once a month. He gets frustrated he works 4 days a week, and I don't work any.
    He also don't have much faith in me gettign a rela job cause every time I do, I always end up quitting a few months later cause i miss dancing. ut of course..this time is different. I won't have a choice.
    So I understand where he's comming from completly.He just wants a contribution to the household, and that isn't asking for much. He don't want half the bills or anything, he just wants some kind of contribution. That's understandable.

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    Ops sorry I didn't mean to bash the boyfriend! But if it ISN'T suiting you..... ? And I reiterate YOU ARE WORKING you are making a baby! I know that sounds like a load of crap but OMG it turns your brain and your body inside out... for some women they dont even notice but if it is wierding you out then be nice to yourself.

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    um, most colleges (even many community colleges) have student-only or student-preferred jobs advertised that are part time. the pay for on-campus stuff is often not all that, but in many areas, employers will often hire students at ok part-time hourly for a few hours a week.

    also, grant money and gov't programs. you're a single mother, it will rain from the trees for you. there are programs and agencies lined up around the block to pay a single mom's way through school.

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    You know, alot of people don't understand the emotional baggage that comes along with this job. For the first couple of years, it's all good and fun and you make money and spend and live good. Then when you finally realize that hey this is a real job and you got to treat it that way, it becomes more and more of a bore. Acting is a serious talent in this occupation, and when you are mentally exhausted of pretending, it gets old, really fast. ESPECIALLY WORKING HERE IN VEGAS!!! After I got married almost two years ago, I felt kinda weird working in the club. I don't want guys grabbing on me and having to lie to them, saying oh no I don't have time for a boyfriend and etc. It's like damn I'm starting to have morals about being here. Wow, what do you know???? I do have morals!!!! Anyways, the thing is working here in vegas is alot more to deal with, than working in smaller traffic areas and towns. The hustle here is outrageous and it's almost like your saying whatever you have to, to get their money. Guys like the naughty girls, and if your not one of them, you gotta hope you'll find someone who is truly interested in your talent as an entertainer and compensate you for it without expecting to get jerked off. I've had to learn to be very patient with people in this industry because of the rediculous amount of dancers here. Guys are tired of being hustled all the time and you really have to put all your energy into this job to get something out of it. I feel like you do alot of times, but I have a family to support and I can't find anything else I would like to do that will pay me as well, so I deal with it. I'm not making shit for money that much anymore, because I am also tired of feeling like a piece of meat. But I know I really do like my job, I just don't like doing it here. I would rather work anywhere else, than in Vegas. And I've been here for damn near 8 years. For now, I'm gonna try to work in some smaller towns, with stricter rules, and more stage time. I have so much more fun and make alot of money, when I take my big city stripping skills to small towns. I am a wonderful dancer, and like being appreciated for my performances. I feel like I am more appreciated in cities and towns that don't have 20,000 strippers and an endless supply of hookers, whom I might ad are all beautiful in one way or another and all hustle hard. When we can truly enjoy the environment and have fun dancing, the good money will follow. I learned this as well. Out here, it is not fun anymore. It's like we're in a rat race, going from club to club chasing the cheese. You know what I mean. Take a break for awhile, take care of yourself and your baby, and when your ready, you will be back. It is in all of our blood to be an entertainer, and once we get a taste of that money, its ssssoooo hard to give that up. I've done it. I danced for five months pregnant, took off for eight months and I couldn't wait to get back. And when I did, I made alot of money. Well, whatever you feel you need to do. Do it. It isn't worth getting depressed over, and being miserable. Maybe it's time for you, to just figure out who YOU are. There's probably alot of other talents you may have that you could use towards another career. Use this time off to get to know yourself again and figure out what it is you want out of your life. Once you've figured that out, you can move on and be happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    um, most colleges (even many community colleges) have student-only or student-preferred jobs advertised that are part time. the pay for on-campus stuff is often not all that, but in many areas, employers will often hire students at ok part-time hourly for a few hours a week.

    also, grant money and gov't programs. you're a single mother, it will rain from the trees for you. there are programs and agencies lined up around the block to pay a single mom's way through school.
    I don't knwo where to begin to find programs like this. I am having a hard time finding health insurance. vegas is differnet...they don't have programs for regular people. It's all for illegal aliens or homelss. Not normal poor people. And if they count my boyfriennd income, we aren't poor, or even close to it....
    I've been searchign, but I can't find any programs. Even health insurance for pregnant women is income based. A lot of states just give free insurance to any pregnant woman, but not here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    I agree with Cally, if you're done, you're done! Right now, especially after everything you've been through and what you are about to go through, you need to stay posotive and healthy. Stress and depression, no, not so much!

    Are there any golf courses in your area? I good friend of mine left dancing to start a family, and she is driving the beer cart at a nice golf course. She loves it! And those girls make really good money, not stripper money but damn close!

    Plus, we're used to people not looking over our shoulder all day/night long, that;s the hardest part for me anyway of having a "regular" job. Driving the beer cart still leaves us strippers a feeling of independance. And we can use our fabulous flirting skills to make good $$$

    Just a thought. Good luck Kaylinn, keep us posted

    Thats an awesome idea!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I don't knwo where to begin to find programs like this. I am having a hard time finding health insurance. vegas is differnet...they don't have programs for regular people. It's all for illegal aliens or homelss. Not normal poor people. And if they count my boyfriennd income, we aren't poor, or even close to it....
    I've been searchign, but I can't find any programs. Even health insurance for pregnant women is income based. A lot of states just give free insurance to any pregnant woman, but not here.

    you can start by going to colleges and universities and telling them you are a single mother and hey, what programs am i eligible for? people want to help you get the free money. even in texas, with its huge illegal immigrant situation, it was possible to get grants (not loans) to cover expenses during college (not even for single mothers solely, though a huge number of programs were specifically for them).

    they won't count the boyfriend's income-- he isn't your husband.

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    ^^^ thank you... i was thinking the same thing!!!
    did you guys file taxes together? if not, then he doesn't count. for YOU- walk straight into student services/health services and just ASk. Go to some local community org's (like Planned Parenthood!) and find some info. and search the web!! kaylinn... you're a smart girl... but you need to be resourceful as well..

    as to extra $$$... is modeling out of the question too?? because pregnant women can be in demand when you start to show; in photo/fine art/figure drawing...

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    I can totally understand u not wanting to dance for men while pregnant. I guess it's a natural instinct for a woman to want to protect the growing feotus and not have strange men trying to grope etc. I think that is very natural.

    I understand this from both yours and your bf's point of view.
    He needs u to contribute to the income esp with a baby on the way.
    You sound like u just want to stay at home and focus on school and being pregnant.

    TBH I would not want to work at all while pregnant. I know it's not really the done thing in this day and age but I am not a hard worker at the best of times so I imagine if I was pregnant that would get even worse.

    Does the gov't over there have any student payments? Here in Aust if your wage is below a certain amount and you are a full time student, the gov't pays u to study. It's a small amount like $200 or $300 a fortnight I think.

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