Though I agree with much of the above, women can do the same thing. An Ex GF broke up with me for such a thing, and it was her idea! She said "I just cant view you the same way I did before" and I said "but it was your idea!" Didnt matter to her, some how it was my fault...![]()
A cunning linguist...
see I have heard all that stuff before and yeah I get that it works for you and that's cool. But to me or I guess I should say for me, it doesn't make sense. I think it's because I'm not just not the type to ever view sex as purely physical and recreational. If it's not going to be special or intimate I'm not interested. But like I said that's why I choose a monogamous lifestyle while others choose something else.
I think the case with someone like Callyish's ex is that they think that it won't be a problem to live a non monogamous lifestyle but deep down it is a problem. When they finally or figure that out they get mad, hurt or both.
wtf? Why is a man who knows or figures out that they prefer a monogamous lifestyle not a "real" man?
What in your book makes a person who prefers multiple sex partners so much better of a human being than those who prefer to limit sex life to one partner?
Why can't you just do what is right for you without having to resort to saying people who are differnt than you are less worthy humanbeings![]()
No problem...it definately isnt for everyone! Just like monogomy isnt for everyone. I cant imagine only having sex with one person for the rest of my life! That just is such an odd concept for me. But it's cool that you can accept a lifestyle you dont want for yourself and not judge someone for it. Thankfully everyone is free to live the life that works for them! Goddess bless America!LOL!
ok, I'll bite. What I am I supposed to be projecting here ???
You said someone like my husband for example who doesn't view a relationship with a woman who wants multi sex partners as a dream come true, isn't a real man. I just want to know why a man who doesn't see it that way is some how not a "real man" and if he is not a real man then what is he?
I mean just because Callyish or Cameron doesn't want a monogamous lifestyle and I do want that- does tha mean in your book I am not a "real woman"? Or does your standard just hold true for men? And if so why?
He means that almost every straight guy in this world has at least had the fantasy of a threesome or watching their gf/wife with another girl...
Also read everything else this guy said/did to me...hes not much of a real man at all... in fact his friends and I are wondering if hes gay... he cries every time he cums![]()





He cries every time he cums?![]()
Eeew weird!
Yea.. he like howls as hes about to cum then he starts crying![]()
I said nothing of the sort, thus you are projecting your situation onto my comments.
And where did I mention anything about “real” men? Now you are adding words I didn’t write? Interesting. I shall clarify for you. A man, “real” or otherwise, does not call women a “whore” because his own insecurities are exposed after she is with another women. A man does not insult the other women, stalk her, and generally make other people feel guilty because he was unable to deal with a situation he was (1) told might exist due to her being bisexual and (2) telling her he was OK with it.
A man, “real” or otherwise on realizing such things were not for him, would recognize the problem was all his, and tell her nicely that it was not for him and want on his merry way like a mature adult man. A man does not tell a women he is ok with her bisexual interests to impress her, then freak out when the woman does exactly what she expressed to him was her physical needs/interests. That’s not a man, that’s a punk, and a stupid one at that, as most men I know would be thrilled with such a gal, but never mind that.
What on earth are you talking about and what’s the weather like on your planet? Really, read my comments and hers again. I could give a rats ass about who has monogamous relationship (I have been in one going on 6 years now) and who does not. The jerk ball kid acted like a real loser, sounds like a loser, and did not act like a “real” man in my opinion to the situation as she outlined it, and as mentioned, I actually had a similar experience.
The expression “be careful what you wish for as it may come true” should realy be “be careful what you wish for as you will have only yourself to blame if it does come true and don’t make my life miserable by being an asshole if it does come true and you cant deal with it” or something like that!![]()
A cunning linguist...
Wow, this thread took a turn I didn't see coming....er, cumming. er...yah.
My whole opinion of this was born out of a hard coded belief that people deserve to be happy. You have to be happy with the decisions you make for yourself. Basing your relationships upon the definition of a label can bring that kind of happiness. However there are many happy couples that easily fit within the confines of many labels.
Too much do people depend on those labels, not fully understanding how imprisoning they can be. We've become too focused on finding someone that wont challenge our insecurities without realizing how much light we're robbing from the most beautiful flowers, when we should be seeking to become happier as individuals.I'm not saying labels shouldn't be used. I'm saying that when you adhere to the expected action, something is LOST.
All I know is, if anyone I was with, felt they could not explore a potentially better option than me because they are "with" me, whether it be labeled or not, the pain I would incur from that would be far greater than any pain as a result of "cheating" or seeing someone else. I would NEVER ask a woman to believe there isn't anyone better than me.
People are not ruled by their memories.
BTW stop picking on Blacksheep3 everyone! He just said what he himself would be comfortable with, no big. yeeeesh
Being ok with you liking girls and threesomes is one thing. But just because you dont care that someone is into both sexs doesnt mean you want your gf sleeping with other people. I am ok with the fact that my girl is into both, I have always been but that doesnt make it ok for her to fuck everyone. What ever happened to being with one person? You want to have kids and have them know daddy and your girlfriend, when is it time to grow up and have a real relationship something with meaning? Maybe this guys only issue is he wanted more than a party girl. If you are the way you are that your choice but its the most self centred thing I have ever heard. You like girls so you should be allowed to do whatever with them, forget that it hurts someone you care about. If you truely love someone their feelings come first.




I think Yek's definition of cheating is spot on.
But being bisexual and into girls doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to sleep with women as well. Plenty of bisexual people settle down with just one gender, though I know there's still the residual phobic idea of the slutty bisexual who can't stop fucking both genders.
Like, there's a difference between "I'm into girls" and "I'm dating you but I'm into girls and I'm going to be acting on these feelings"
Many guys are all for seeing their girlfriends with other women. But that doesn't mean all guys are into it. And of course it depends on the situation, but I find something a little strange about those situations where sleeping with a man is cheating but girls "don't count" Like, why doesn't sleeping with another person "count"? It seems to imply sex between women is less legitimate.





Open Marriage - How Can I Convince My Husband?
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Tileguy, I think you need to pull your head outta yer butt. With a quickness.
No one here said anything about hurting other people, and certainly none of us in open style relationships feel like out marraige or our love for our spouse is meaningless. And I personally take offense to you even implying that's the case.
What you are describing is NOT AT ALL the situation that happened in this topic. I suggest you take a deap breath, step away from the comp, come back later on start over from the beginning.
And lastly...what the hell are you talking about introducing kids to girlfriends? WTF? Take that mentality and run far away with it, please and thank you.
Okay first off, I told him im Bi, and that I like to continue to fool around with girls while im with a guy and I like to bring girls home for both of us to play with. He said he was okay with that.
Next off, I am far from a party girl. The only parties I attend are Industry parties that will benefit my career. I go, rub shoulders with all the right people, then go home. I do NOT drink, I do not party any other time. I hate partying. So you need to stop assuming shit.
Also next off, just because I like to fool around with other people does not mean I do not have feelings for the guy im with. Many couples are madly deeply in love but continue to have an open relationship.
When im with my guy and only my guy sex is more intimate and deep and meaningful... when its with other girls and what not its for fun and pleasure... no emotion and deep meaning.
So pull your head out of your ass and lose the 19th century mentality. This is not the 1800's... this is 2007 and people are much more open sexually. Doesn't mean you have to be, but you have no right to say that people who like to keep relationships open do not love each other.
Well, frankly I believe the point of dating is to find the one. Not the group. You are more then able to choose your own life, as am I. However if someone is truely in love, they dont look for sex or play time outside of the relationship. Of course lots of guys are ok with an open relationship, you give him the right to cheat without worry. You set here and say cheating is different in all relationships and its ok cause its a girl you two are sharing. News flash doesnt matter if its a guy or a girl, cheating is cheating, meaningless sex is a waste of time. Grow some morals, have some respect for yourself and choose to share yourself with someone who matters not just a play toy. But everyone should have their own views these are mine.





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