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    saturday my boyfriend and i went to a strip club (one i don't work at, obviously). i got a dance from a really cute girl with awesome mocha colored skin and a great body. well, at least i thought it was a great body. that was untill we sat down for the dance and she immediately started telling me about her C section and how she has a bad scar. then she leaned back a bit so the light would show on it and pointed it out to me. strike number one.

    *sigh* it was pretty gnarly, but i might not have noticed (or at least not that closely) if she hadn't -showed- me. then she proceeded to tell me how it makes her feel unattractive. strike number two. don't let your low self esteem show, -that- makes you seem unattractive.

    then she started to tell me about how she has a 2 year old she's trying to support. strike number three. i know damned well (because i am one) that we dancers work for money. everyone has a job for a reason, and your reason should never be a selling point for dancers. if a car salesman told me his wife and kids were starving and he needed to "make this sale" i would leave the lot. it's unprofessional and tacky.

    i'm not trying to sound like a cold hearted bitch, but i know that pitch all to well. i hear girls use it all the time. "i have kids to feed/i don't have gas money/i'm poor/waahhhh" S.T.F.U and do your job. all of us "need" the money or we wouldn't be there.

    anyway, i got one dance from her and (because the club was closing) that was it. although, it would have been it anyway. i wouldn't have gotten repeat dances from someone who does that.

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    Oy. I wouldn't have gotten any dances from her!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    everyone has a job for a reason, and your reason should never be a selling point for dancers. if a car salesman told me his wife and kids were starving and he needed to "make this sale" i would leave the lot. it's unprofessional and tacky.
    Excellent point, I agree. That's a sure-fire way to make someone uncomfortable.
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    sounds to me like she pulled the whole pity party/Mommy card scam on you. I agree that it's unprofessional and tacky but I see it work all too often though

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    Yea, the beauty mark was just to lead up to it. Heh.
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    yep agreed with the OP.
    we are there to entertain not guilt trip people into spending.
    we are supposed to be a fantasy not point out our inperfections

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    it was a shame too, because she (otherwise) seemed very sweet and fun. minus the kid talk and the fishing for compliments, she could be a great money maker, c-section scar included.

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    Holy shit! She showed you her scar ON PURPOSE! WTF! I used to be so paranoid about someone accidentally seeing mine (which I camoflaged w/makeup or temp tattos).
    As for the "poor pitiful me" routine, I used to see it all the time and I can only say PATHETIC! Girls with a fun flirty attitude always make more money that the ones who try to guilt customers into dances. Once I actually saw a guy pay a girl who was whining like that 5 bucks to go away.

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    Oh I remember when I first started dancing. I was much like her, giving the sob story. She must be young and inexperienced. Let's give her a break.
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    ^ the way she did pole tricks tells me she's either a SUPER quick learner, or she's been doing this for at least a couple years. she didn't seem new to me.

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    As someone who has pulled the occasional sob story, I agree that it can be a quick downer. The only times I've really alluded to any hardships in my life was when I was sitting with a "knight in shining armor" guy. You know...the one who wants to save you from your poor, seedy, pathetic stripper life? Take you away from all of this? (Some) men love reformed harlots, and sometimes it's just easier to give them the stereotype they are looking for.

    But never use the "poor me" hustle on a girl. Especially a hot girl. That's just wack.

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    ^Yeah I've seen the sob stories equal big bucks with knight in shining armour custys. Its never a tactic I would use but it does work on some men. Why on earth she'd think it would work on a woman is beyond me. Maybe she only has one hustle, or worse, no hustle at all.

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    Penny, I had the exact same thing happen to me except the dancer was telling me her husband had just died.

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    I know, like there's not enough ladies in the back to commiserate with...she probably does it all night. You were a customer, does she go and do all that scar shit with the men? Probably not. Sucks to hear about all the women who go to get ld's and are treated just...unfairly.

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    It always irritates me when i'm getting a dance and the girl insists on talking about her imperfections or children. And yes, they try this shit on men too, cause my partner has gotten dance before where the girl kept talking about her scars or her problems supporting her children. It's especially annoying cause it reinforces a stereotype and then customers act like they are surprised when i say i don't have children. A few have actually said they thought all the strippers were there cause they were single moms that needed to support their children.

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    making cuckoo clock sounds now...

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    Oh...strippers complaining about other strippers...rock on...

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    Oh...strippers complaining about other strippers...rock on...
    ? um................................................ ..................

    so it's ok for customers to complain about certain things or for strippers to complain about girls doing extras or etc. etc. etc? but when -i- make a post about my exp. as a customer, there's a problem?

    i'm just saying, why pick this thread to make such a comment. i'm sure there's a thousand or so more you could find.

    also, it's not like i turned the girl away, treated her badly, or said she's a horrible person. i said her behavior was unprofessional, and it was. chill out.

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    Well, she could have just as easily meant me or some other ppl Yea I think yr thread was professionally worded and not talking shit.

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    Sometimes the girls just havn't turned their hustle off. That's likely her shtick, and she was in a mode. But yeah, I hate that story. I would have still gotten the dance, but then excused her.

    Susan, wasn't there a girl at the Rose who did something similar?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    Penny, I had the exact same thing happen to me except the dancer was telling me her husband had just died.
    A girl who used to work at my club would tell all the guys about her baby that just died. Seriously, that's a fucking downer if I've ever heard one.
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    Wow. "My husband just died... I'm very depressed... it's awful... I'm so lonely and don't know how I'm going to get through the rest of my life.... wanna dance?"

    I shouldn't talk though - once when my long term partner left me after a huge blow up I had to go to work and someone... duh duh duh! ... asked if I had a boyfriend.
    "Well I did, up until today when he called me and told me that I was a whore and that he was ashamed that any of his family and friends knew me. So. You know. That's over. Thanks for bringing it up."
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    It's pretty annoying. Maybe the girl was looking for someone to "understand" her. Trying to fish for something that you both might have in common. So she could sound like an average girl. Like she wanted to be on the same "level" as you. Or, she might just be pulling the sob story. Dunno...

    Andygirl: I think I know who you're talking about. The one that says she could have a medical degree. Since she's been in the hospital soo much. She's just irritating! I was sitting at a table next to her once. She started going on about how she needed to make a lot of cash. Because her kid was in the hospital and she had to buy meds and pay a ton of bills. Blah blah blah... It was obvious the guy didn't want to take her in the back or listen to her shit. She just kept pushing. So, the guy gave in and bought a dance or so. Prob. to get her away!
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    Penny-WORD.
    SO unprofessional--not attractive at all. There is a girl I used to work with who did this. Customers complained about it to me all the time. First she'd ask someone how they were doing, and they'd answer and ask her how she was doing...and that's when she started in: "Well it's a really slow shift today and I'm broke and it would really help me out if you got a dance..." Customers would buy a dance just to shut her up and make her go away! It may be a good one-time dance hustle, but it does not make repeat customers, nor does it improve your reputation as a fun, sexy woman who is good at making conversation!

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