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    I'm still smoking. Very bad. very very bad. I feel like a shit for even admitting it.
    It's time to quit. Tomorrow. I'm smoking my last one now, and I don't have any more, and won't buy more. But..my boyfriend smokes, ad he will buy some. He won't smoke around me, and he won't let me smoke, so that will help.

    But how do I quit? I've never tried, and honestly, the thought scares the crap out of me.But the thought of the harm I'm doing scares me worse. SO I'm done. But the question remains..how??

    I've never used sheer willpower before in my life. Not a strong characteristic of mine.

    I'm doing everything else right except for this. I won't even go in the hottub anymore. But I smoke. That's so shitty of me. Guilt is good. I can guilt myself into not smoking.


    Help! Advice, support, anything.
    I don't even miss not drinking, but I'll miss not smoking.
    How terrible and pathetic is that

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    This is an aussie site but quitting is quitting so here ya go hope it's helpful:

    http://www.quit.org.au/browse.asp?ContainerID=1587

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    I don't know if this will help you or not, but I just quit a month ago. I realized that it is probably not as physiological as psychological because there were certain things that unknowingly cued me to light up. start the car, light up, get up in the morning and go out to the patio, light up, take the boat out, light up, feel stressed...etc.

    So I went to the Bahamas and did not take any cigs with me. Yes they have them there, but with so many of the things in my daily routine that subconsciously remind me to smoke gone, all I had to really deal with was the occasional physiological craving which never lasted very long.

    The weird thing is that I really did not think too much about having a cig while over there, but when I got back there were 3-4 times where I really wanted to break down. Each was a same old habit type of thing, and I just told myself I had come to far to quit on my quiting.

    I guess what I am trying to say is that if you can distance yourself from the habit stuff, even for a short period of time, the battle is 90% won IMHO. good luck, you will totally feel healthier once you quit.

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    It is hard to quit, but I managed and so did several of my friends, and none of us have any willpower.

    The best way if you have tried before and failed is to make sure you don't have easy access to them for a couple of days. I waited till my college roommate was going home for the weekend, made sure she took all her cigs with her and threw mine in the dumpster outside (not the trash in the house where I could conceivably get them out if I got desperate enough). Before she left I took my car and drove around until I ran out almost all my gas, so I was afraid to try to drive anywhere, told all my friends no matter how much I beg don't give me any. I would also make sure you don't have cash on hand if you try this. After the first 2 days (which were pure hell) nothing on the planet could have made me smoke again, because I never wanted to have to go through that again.

    If you do everything you can to make it REALLY hard to get your hands on them you are almost guaranteed success. Try your own ways of making them hard to get. This allows you to ride out the worst of the cravings, which never last that long.

    Best of Luck!

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    Isnt there a new drug out called Chantix (or something like that) its prescription. I dont know much about it, but remember seeing it somewhere...

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    Quote Originally Posted by jpkneal View Post
    Isnt there a new drug out called Chantix (or something like that) its prescription. I dont know much about it, but remember seeing it somewhere...
    I'd rather do it without drugs, but I looked up Chantix, and it isn't safe anyway.

    Chantix may not be suitable for certain physical or medical conditions. Consult your doctor if you plan to take Chantix under the following conditions:
    • Breastfeeding. You may need to devise an alternative model to feed the baby as Chantix may get to the baby through breast milk
    • Pregnant. There are chances of Chantix affecting the unborn baby
    Rather not take the chance....
    But thanks for the suggestion.

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    Google "smoking while pregnant" print out the info and post it in visible places all around your house. Its a constant reminder of what you would be doing to your baby if you were to light up.This is when your baby"s major organs are developing and he/she is most vunerable. You can do it!!Dont get too down on yourself, its really hard to get used to all the lifestyle changes...I joke that as soon as this baby comes out I'm gonna jump in a hot tub with a sushi roll in one hand, a martiini and a ciggarette in the other. Its tough but you've got to quit,its bigger than you right now,there's a little life depending on it.

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    it sure would be nice if your bf quit with you. any chance?

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    I smoked for 10 years and quit the day i got my positive pregnancy test. I'd be lying if i said i didnt still crave them everyday. But its getting easier, its been over a month and i've only broke down once and smoked a few drags and felt like shit. And i never want to start again. Im saving money, my clothes smell great, im not forcing my Fiancee to kiss an ashtray and i feel alot better and I know im doing the right thing for my little miracle in my belly. I NEVER thought i could just stop cold turkey so i never really tried. But i am proof that it is possible. I KNOW you can do this. Best of luck!



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    Kaylinn, I know that it is hard for you right now, but if I remember correctly you are not going back to dancing....This should make it a little easier. I have a M-F "career" that is 9 - 5 I have NEVER went out for a smoke break. (In fact when I am riding up in the elevator and someone just came in from smoking it really makes me gag.) I am so busy that I don't even think about it.

    However, on Sat. even on my way to the club I am smoking it up and will go thru almost a pack during an 8 hour shift. (I always feel like shit on Sun)

    My point is... that if you keep your self "busy" doing non smoking things and it seems your boyfriend is willing to quit around you, you will eventually associate those "mommy" things with non smokeing and won't even think twice about it. It may take a little time to get used to it, but at a certain point you will be able to push it out of your mind relatively easy.

    Good Luck and Congrats!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pure View Post
    Google "smoking while pregnant" print out the info and post it in visible places all around your house. Its a constant reminder of what you would be doing to your baby if you were to light up.This is when your baby"s major organs are developing and he/she is most vunerable. You can do it!!Dont get too down on yourself, its really hard to get used to all the lifestyle changes...I joke that as soon as this baby comes out I'm gonna jump in a hot tub with a sushi roll in one hand, a martiini and a ciggarette in the other. Its tough but you've got to quit,its bigger than you right now,there's a little life depending on it.

    Thanks. Good suggestion. I googled stuff, and printed it out, but now I'm scared.

    Did I already cause damage?

    I feel so guilty now.

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    Most likely you are fine. But it would definitely help if the boy quit with you, especially if he's going to remain an active father. Children of smokers wind up with all kinds of health problems, including asthma (which believe me, you DON'T want your kid to have). Quitting smoking might be a good way of preparing yourselves for the stress of parenthood, LOL!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    Thanks. Good suggestion. I googled stuff, and printed it out, but now I'm scared.

    Did I already cause damage?

    I feel so guilty now.
    It's quite possible but you're probably fine. It hasn't even been a month yet, right?

    You didn't respond about your bf quitting with you. That type of support would help you a lot.
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    He won't quit with me.

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    I didn't read through this whole thread so my bad if I repeat something...
    I quit smoking not long ago. Someone gave me a tip that was actually pretty helpful. When you want a cigerette, inhale like you are smoking one. Pretend there is a cig in your fingers, and pretend you are smoking. It helped me, and I still do it every now and then when I crave a cig.

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    When I was pregnant, my doc asked me about my smoking. I told him I had cut back to maybe two or three a day (which was much better than the half pack I was at) He sat me down and said "Everything you put into your body goes through your childs body. Everything. It passes into your uterus and straight into your baby. I want you to think about that, whenever you pick up a smoke. And imagine your little baby inside you swallowing each and every drag you take"

    Yah, that stopped me cold.

    Unfortunately, I picked up the habit again later down the road.




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    I smoked for the first 3 weeks of my pregnancy, but I didn't know I was pregnant. Once I found out, I quit immediately. My child was born healthy. And to this day I still don't smoke. In fact, I hate it now.

    Kaylinn, you gotta stop. Just stop and stay away from them. My ex still smoked (outside the house) when I was pregnant, and I just had to tell myself not to smoke. I kept myself motivated by saying smoking while pregnant is fucked up and if I'm gonna be a mom I'm gonna do it right. I didn't want to hurt my unborn child, so I just stopped. I am so glad I did. If I continued to smoke while pregnant I don't think I could look at my kid in the face. QUITTING SMOKING IS TOTALLY WORTH IT! YOU WILL BE GLAD, AFTER THE BABY IS BORN, THAT HE/SHE IS HEALTHY AND YOU WILL BE GLAD THAT YOU RESPECTED YOUR CHILD. Because believe me, when the baby is born, you will be concerned about its health and well-being. What if your baby is born with health problems due to your smoking? If your kid is born with smoking-related problems, then it's all on you. Sorry to sound harsh, but it is the truth. The only way to stop is to just stop. Cold turkey. I know you can do it, it'll be the best thing you've ever done for your kid. And yourself.
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    I did hypnosis. I quit 3 other times, bu always had cravings. THe hypnosis worked and I have not smoked since October 11, 2005.

    Here ar the details http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...oking+hypnosis


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    i know quitting is the best option! but...... just to ease your mind a little bit, all three of my employees smoked while they work pregnant and their babies are completely fine and healthy. but yes, quitting is the best option! i just wanted to share my experience with u just because u have already smoked while u were pregnant and worrying about it. the first 3 months are crucial in developement and yes all 3 of them cut back in those 3 months or all together quit during that time. im not a medical professional here but i thought i had some helpful input.

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    Just spend some time with some one dying from emphaseema... Sounds cruel, but its just such an awful disease to see debilitate a person. You pretty much end up dying because you cant exhale the spent air from your lungs no matter how hard you try. Imagine constantly feeling like you are suffocating. Ugh.

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    ^^^ Almost died of an asthma attack 18 months ago. I know this feeling, and it's horrible. Nothing like drowning and suffocating in your own lungs... it's the most terrible experience I can imagine. You DON'T want it.

    Kaylinn, maybe you should take the opportunity to quit anyway. That can be the good thing that comes of all this.

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    I been smoking liek a chimney. I started to quit, I was having 2 ciggs a day, way bette rthan my 2pack a day habit..but when shit went down, I started smoking liek there was no tomorrow.

    I did concider quitting anyway...so I'll be ready for next time. Plus, smoking just sucks anymore. I don't even like it, but I am heavily addicted. I wake up, get a pepsi, and light a cig, within 2 minutes of waking. Smoking only 2 a day was very hard, and a great acomplishment. So I could quit, if I try hard enough. Last time I tried to quit, I did very good, till I went to work. Then it was just game over. but if I'm not dancing, and I just lock myself nin the house to suffer it out......
    I might just do it.

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    A lady that I work with said that seeing Tammy Faye's recent interviews have made her decide to quit.

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    Smoking destroys your skin, and probably takes a few years off your prime dancing years... That and the cost of cigs is just too high. Set up an account, and save the cash from cigs and set up an etrade account. By some nice safe stocks like coke (KO) and in 5-10 years you are sitting on top of 50-60K in cash and your lungs are healthier, and you have better skin.

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    ^^ It's true. I'm in better shape at 33 than I was at 23.

    Kaylinn, you have to think of it this way...if your kid was drowning, or stuck in a house fire, or in any sort of danger, wouldn't you do whatever you could to rescue him or her?

    You're learning your first lesson about motherhood...it is no longer just about you. It's about your kid.

    I know it's hard. I smoked a pack a day for 12 years and when I found out I was pregnant I quit. You just have to pull the strength out from somewhere and do it cold turkey. Do you want your child to have health problems on your account? If you keep smoking you'll be setting yourself and you kid up for problems on down the road.

    Plus, you will be so glad and feel so good about quitting. The rewards are enormous. You don't like it anymore, so why keep doing it? You will feel so much better not just physically but you'll have more peace of mind too.

    That's great that you can cut down to 2 a day. Keep going. Then cut it out entirely. If you mess up and have one, don't let it all go to shit. Just put it out and don't have another one for the rest of the day. You can do it, you just have to believe in yourself.
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