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    Lola Rose
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    Default how did you know it was time to move on?

    I'm having a really hard time lately with dancing. I'm going to go try a club that's about an hour away, but topless and pasties rather then full nude.

    I'm hoping it'll help, b/c I've been really feeling rather down a lot, and work is the cause/issue.

    I'm also going to try getting a cocktail waitress or bartending job. So I'll only dance 1-2 nights a week, and only when I feel like it. So I won't NEED it, and I'll have the option not to go. Rather then now, feeling preasured to work no matter how poorly I feel about it.

    And I think I'll feel a lot better about myself if I don't need to count on my looks to make money so much. I think it won't be like "I feel so unattractive b/c I made no money"

    Hpefully this helps, b/c I've felt so depressed lately about taking my panties off and still making bad money.

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    This is only my experience, but here goes. I think it's time to stop when you can make it financially without dancing. When I stopped 2 years ago, it was because financially, I could cut it. Before that I worked one night a week because I still couldn't quite make ends meet without dancing. I honestly feel that dancing is no fun when you feel totally dependent on the whims of the customers. I wanted to go in feeling fresh and happy to be there. So that's how I worked it. I just stayed at a club where I had built up regulars and emailed them when I was coming in. Before that (when I worked several days a week), I worked at making regular customers. But even without the regs, you can just dance on the best days/nights or work long shifts Fridays and Satudays. Everything you said signals to me it's time to start switching over and have dancing supplement your income, but who knows, you might have a good night and feel jazzed about dancing again. But start creating an action plan for when you really do want to leave.

    By the way, you're very pretty! Try as hard as you can not to equate money with how you feel about yourself. I hope you feel better!!

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    Default Re: how did you know it was time to move on?

    You don't want to look at this personally. You're in Florida, it's summer, and the business is in a slump, in some places more than others.

    Seeing a naked woman does nothing for guys anymore. The clubs aren't doing enough to be fun places for guys to go. They have gotten too serious. You're not going to make as much waitressing as dancing. Many times this business warrants a change of clubs. A club that was ok 6 months ago could be slower now, and another club has gained popularity. This is a fickle business.

    Taking the tops and bottoms off comes with being a dancer. Again, don't take it personally. I have worked at clubs where things got so bad $125 after tip outs was luck, and where under $30 several nights in a row was getting to be commonplace. That is when I leave and never come back.

    There are a lot of clubs in your state. I say get hired in as many as you can that have no schedules and test the waters. Being able to clear $200-$300 a shift nowadays in many places is good. That's just the way it is.

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    Lola-- you are absolutely beautiful... blame the bad money on Florida being in a slump for tourism, summers generally sucking, and the low economy-- but NOT on your looks- no way. Maybe try the dollhouse? I'm sure theres more business-men clientele up there anyways because that's where a lot of our custies commute to work at the big corporate offices up there- there's probably more $$ up there too. I totally understand feeling like you do though, I'm feeling like that right now too a bit, but I'm not ready to give up dancing- I love performing and the flexibility too much. Maybe it is time to get a "regular" job like bartending or waitressing.. and just use dancing on the best $$ nights to supplement your income. Having to rely on it causes way too much stress.. especially when the money is inconsistent. Good luck!!!

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    I feel you, Lola. I don't know how to answer when it's time to move on, but I do know that you must need something different for a while. There's no reason to be loyal to any club. Do what you need to do. I think being a waitress at our club for a while would be great to change things up. I know the money isn't as good (sometimes it's better), but you're not having the mental stress of having to hustle a dead crowd. It also might help your hustle when you do decide to dance again, as you'll see the customers from a totally different point of view after cocktailing. Consider it "research."

    For me, July has been the hardest month so far. I've worked eleven days this month and only broken $300 once. In fact, I just looked in my calendar and I can tell you that since June 2nd the only night's I've broken the 300 mark is when I was lucky enough to get a VIP room, and that includes the ONE 300+ night I've had this month. That's bad. It's NOT YOU.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vivacious
    I honestly feel that dancing is no fun when you feel totally dependent on the whims of the customers.
    I LOVE dancing when I'm not in urgent need of the money. When I am desperate for money, I hate being there and I hate the club, the customers, and everything around me. The business is so fickle; you never know when you're going to be everyone's favorite flavor and when you're going to wind up with a roomful of guys who are "just here to watch."

    Whatever the media says, our economy is in the toilet right now. People are going broke, people are deep in debt and having to tighten their belts. That doesn't leave a lot of room for frivolous expenditures like lapdances. And summers suck almost everywhere.

    A working vacation to a busier area might be a good idea. I'm really enjoying Montana, although I hit a slow spell. The club is great and very clean, and in the daytime I've got fresh air and relaxation. It really helps.

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    Well, i'm quitting college, and have enrolled in a early childhood ed. program at a tech school....

    I'm going to be there from (yikes!) 7:30-1:20 M-F... and I'm going to find a job in a nursery from 2-6 each afternoon.

    I'm going to try to do more creative things, like contracting out my services to write thank you cards, do scrapbooks, sew, and sell my jewelry...

    I think I'll also try to set up an ebay site for stripper clothes that I sew.... but who knows, I may just make more selling them at actual clubs.

    I'll be dancing, at a different club, 2-3 nights a week....

    hopefull I can ....ween myself from stripping.

    I'm super excited for everything that's going on for me right now though!!!!

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    you're going to work in a nursery!!!!! I'm jealous.... that was my favorite job before I started dancing.... I LOVED it. I worked 2-6 as well, after school...in the infant room. It's a very rewarding job--- I can so picture you doing that- you'll love it!!

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    Default Re: how did you know it was time to move on?

    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    I LOVE dancing when I'm not in urgent need of the money. When I am desperate for money, I hate being there and I hate the club, the customers, and everything around me. The business is so fickle; you never know when you're going to be everyone's favorite flavor and when you're going to wind up with a roomful of guys who are "just here to watch.".
    Yep. I decided to quit when it wasn't fun anymore. I danced in Detroit, and Detroit's economy has gone from bad to worse. I used to love dancing when I was a bit younger, and more carefree... but with age comes those pesky responsibility things

    It is hard to rely on such a fluxuating unstable income. You make a bunch of money one night, and think you're safe to spend some, and then the next week you're broke, and bills are due. Not fun.
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    Default Re: how did you know it was time to move on?

    ^^Me too. I've seen the business decline before my very eyes and I am so over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LatinaRose View Post
    ^^Me too. I've seen the business decline before my very eyes and I am so over it.
    I'm def reaching the point of being "over it"!!!!

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