However unfortunate it may be that we look at it as a problem with ourselves that we settle on our wants to keep ourselves from being alone, and then question ourselves when the relationship doesn't work, rather than the opposite whereas we realize the problem is in the moment we settled.
The solution, however, is to not forget that life is all about what YOU want. You deserve, at least that much, ya know? And learn to make your decisions without regrets. So ya slept with a guy ya like on the first date. No big.
There is a MOMENT in EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE where, even if for a split second, you weigh the options. Make sure you take a deep concern for that moment. "I want to sleep with this guy, but I want to date him, and I think sleeping with him might fuck that up" If you sleep with him or not, develop the answer on your own, stand by your reasoning, and show no regrets.
When you go after what you want unequivocally, and make no excuses for what you want, then and only then, you can live without regret in every decision you make. The hardest part about this is realizing what you want unequivocally. The rest will fall into place.



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) but that's not a trait i would hang your hat on. there's "work" to be done there (quiet types) but frankly, that's what ALL relationships are about imo.




) but their one failing is that they can't keep the act up for a very long time.


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