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    Ok this is something i just dont understand.
    I work at a no touching club. We can touch safe areas on the custy but they cannot touch us at all. They are told this.

    So quite often after i finish a dance they say "wow that took all my self control to stop myself from touching you".
    WTF r u 2 years old?
    I understand that we are hot and they would like nothing more than to touch but u cannot tell me that a grown adult has to struggle with their own self control not to touch.
    it's just lame.

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    i've had customers tell me that, but only the younger guys that are like 21,22,23. it's funny cuz i'm 22 and have no problem with self control. maybe it's a gender thing.

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    I know if i am told i cant do something, i have no issue with it.

    It pisses me off how dare they think they can touch us.
    Ah i know this is ranty, but it's been really annoying me lately.

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    I kind of understand the sentiment. I get guys all the time who say that... and they are always the type who never touch but also really really seem to enjoy the dance. IMO, the guys who think they can touch are the guys who DO touch. The guys who say they could barely resist are mainly just trying to be complementary.

    I do find it frustrating to try to respond to this, because it requires stripper shit. But I do understand. I mean, I do my job with the intent to cause this response: having the guy enjoy himself so much that he's dying to touch me and be with me, but doesn't because he respects the rules and my own personal boundaries.

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    that's true u r right these are the ones who dont touch and i would prefer them to the ones who actually do try to touch.

    I hate the SS too, coz i really wanna say "yeh keep your fucking hands off" but have to say "u cant coz ill get into trouble"

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    Well you need to understand where the guys are coming from.

    They have a hot naked girl in front of them... natural instinct is to touch us... its the whole hormonal thing.

    I mean if they were actually grabbing you I could see it getting annoying but they're just saying they wish they could grab you, its actually a compliment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    that's true u r right these are the ones who dont touch and i would prefer them to the ones who actually do try to touch.

    I hate the SS too, coz i really wanna say "yeh keep your fucking hands off" but have to say "u cant coz ill get into trouble"
    J, I totally do understand you on the frustration w/ having to do the SS in this situation. I usually say, " Ohhh honey, too bad this state (Oregon FYI) doesn't allow touching. I wish you could but I'd get in trouble. You don't want that now do you?"

    All of this while I try to avoid his huge belly and stay away from his stinky breath. "Oh baby, isn't that just too bad. I get so frustrated with the no-touch rule."

    Its stressfull to me, and honestly the hardest part of the job.

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    Dateline To catch a predator shows how much self control people have...yah at least the ones that ask ,you can tell them no.Some you have to give the ninja treatment.

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    The ones who say it while you're dancing, like, "oh, I can barely keep from touching you." are the ones who want you to say, oh ok go ahead I don't mind. The ones who say afterward, "it was really hard not to touch you" are saying it was a really good dance, I didn't try to touch because I am a nice guy, not cause you're not hot. Usually I just say, "Oh good, you're being a good boy, and good boys get better dances anyway." Which is true. Any guy who is polite, smells ok, and doesn't try to touch gets a better dance than a guy in octopus mode.

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    Have you ever gotten a dance?! It takes all MY self control to not grab the beautiful woman on my lap gyrating and pin her to the couch and make out with her!! The only thing that stops me is the lingering reminder of the fact I'm paying her for that. :o~~~

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    ^^
    hey im infatuated with a dancer who i got one dance off a yr ago. she is the most sexy, beautiful woman and i seriously have to go back soon to see her.

    i dunno im a sit with my hands right by my side custie.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Callyish View Post
    Well you need to understand where the guys are coming from.

    They have a hot naked girl in front of them... natural instinct is to touch us... its the whole hormonal thing.

    I mean if they were actually grabbing you I could see it getting annoying but they're just saying they wish they could grab you, its actually a compliment.

    Exactly. Working in this industry, you can't get mad at a guy for being a guy. For them to NOT touch us while we are giving them a boner and putting our tits in his face is a pretty big feat.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Exactly. Working in this industry, you can't get mad at a guy for being a guy. For them to NOT touch us while we are giving them a boner and putting our tits in his face is a pretty big feat.
    well that's what champagne rooms are for. (at least everywhere i work...custies can touch in the CR but LDs are one way contact). Yeah I get mad when custies are whining and bitching about how it's sooooo unfair and hard that they can't touch me. There's a solution. You want to touch, stop being a cheap douche and actually pay me some real money for a CR, and you *can* touch. If you don't want it badly enough to fork over $300 for a CR, then you don't really want it that badly, so shut the fuck up. You get what you pay for. Don't expect much if all you're giving me is $20. It doesn't bother me that guys want to touch me....it bothers me that they try that shit for the price of a single LD, instead of paying a couple hundred for a room where they're allowed to touch. IMHO they're ripping me off when they try to cop feels for $20 instead of paying what I'm worth.

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    Hey,
    I agree with lilith, I am not a dancer yet, but when I get a dance from a beautiful woman it is all I can do not to grab. Then I think hey, when I start dancing I don't want them touching me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    well that's what champagne rooms are for. (at least everywhere i work...custies can touch in the CR but LDs are one way contact). Yeah I get mad when custies are whining and bitching about how it's sooooo unfair and hard that they can't touch me. There's a solution. You want to touch, stop being a cheap douche and actually pay me some real money for a CR, and you *can* touch. If you don't want it badly enough to fork over $300 for a CR, then you don't really want it that badly, so shut the fuck up. You get what you pay for. Don't expect much if all you're giving me is $20. It doesn't bother me that guys want to touch me....it bothers me that they try that shit for the price of a single LD, instead of paying a couple hundred for a room where they're allowed to touch. IMHO they're ripping me off when they try to cop feels for $20 instead of paying what I'm worth.
    woohoo i wish we had a CR at my club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    well that's what champagne rooms are for. (at least everywhere i work...custies can touch in the CR but LDs are one way contact). Yeah I get mad when custies are whining and bitching about how it's sooooo unfair and hard that they can't touch me. There's a solution. You want to touch, stop being a cheap douche and actually pay me some real money for a CR, and you *can* touch. If you don't want it badly enough to fork over $300 for a CR, then you don't really want it that badly, so shut the fuck up. You get what you pay for. Don't expect much if all you're giving me is $20. It doesn't bother me that guys want to touch me....it bothers me that they try that shit for the price of a single LD, instead of paying a couple hundred for a room where they're allowed to touch. IMHO they're ripping me off when they try to cop feels for $20 instead of paying what I'm worth.
    Yeah, that's different, I guess. No one touches me in any real way no matter how much money they give me, so I might not make as much, but at least I don't have to feel so ANGRY about my job.
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    I don't understand why men have to touch to enjoy the dance.. every time I get a lap dance I am happy enough to have a hot naked woman rubbing all over me, plus the fact that I respect her enough to not touch her w/out her consent. The only way I would prefer to touch is if we were actually getting down, not in a club, obviously.

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    I didn't read all the replies, but I appreciate this type of comment. It tells me that out of respect they made an effort not to upset me or disrespect my/ the club boundaries. Nothing wrong with this at all , and actually maybe a compliment.

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    AS un-PC as it is, I would make a retort about Tourette's Syndrome to them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotisch23 View Post
    I don't understand why men have to touch to enjoy the dance.. every time I get a lap dance I am happy enough to have a hot naked woman rubbing all over me, plus the fact that I respect her enough to not touch her w/out her consent. The only way I would prefer to touch is if we were actually getting down, not in a club, obviously.

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    Yeah, I'm shocked that men under the influence of alcohol who are paying money to have women they don't know wriggle around on or in front of them naked would have the urge to touch them. Also, WTF is up with gravity? Shit that goes up must come down? What the hell?

    Jai, you have to have a little understanding here; it will be good for your sanity and sales.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post

    Jai, you have to have a little understanding here; it will be good for your sanity and sales.
    ok i have read the replies and i tried to think of it a little diff this weekend and try to take it as more of a compliment.
    it is true i would rather them have the urge to touch than actually touch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Ok this is something i just dont understand.
    I work at a no touching club. We can touch safe areas on the custy but they cannot touch us at all. They are told this.

    So quite often after i finish a dance they say "wow that took all my self control to stop myself from touching you".
    WTF r u 2 years old?
    I understand that we are hot and they would like nothing more than to touch but u cannot tell me that a grown adult has to struggle with their own self control not to touch.
    it's just lame.
    First of all, you have no idea of what it is to be a man. Next , it's easy for you to say since men have all the constraints yet women have total free reign to do as they please.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Talisman View Post
    First of all, you have no idea of what it is to be a man. Next , it's easy for you to say since men have all the constraints yet women have total free reign to do as they please.
    blah blah
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    Quote Originally Posted by Talisman View Post
    First of all, you have no idea of what it is to be a man.
    Women can have some idea by studying biology/sexuality, etc. Women can work to understand, but can never actually step in their shoes.
    Quote Originally Posted by Talisman View Post
    Next , it's easy for you to say since men have all the constraints yet women have total free reign to do as they please.
    Why do you believe this to be true?

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