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    i went to go audition today and didnt have the nerve to go in. i just kept driving around trying to get up the nerve but i couldnt do it. ive danced before, only for a couple weeks but still. ivedone it before. i need 500 to be able to keep this car i just got and since im not working right now this is the only way i see to make really great money without taking up all my time. anyone have some words of advice. im a pretty girl, i guess im just nervous about the whole thing...

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    JUST DO IT!!!!!!

    One foot in front of the other. And no I'm not trying to be facetious, I'm giving you the best advice I ever got. Don't kick yourself in the ass later cause you let fear get the best of you.

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    In my experience, the nerves start to dissapear as soon as you start dancing. This may not be the healthiest advice, but if you can, maybe just have a drink beforehand to mellow out (not too much obviously, you don't want your first impression with these people to be a drunken one).

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    You sound like you're going about it grudgingly. Is dancing kind of a last resort wish-I-had-a-better-option thing or is it something you really want to do and are just nervous about period?

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    its kind of both..last resort, but i wanna do it. i want the money. im gonna be in school 7-4 m-f so i wont have time to work a 9-5. i want the money, thats why im doing it. i also love dancing, and want to leanr how to move like a stripper.

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    When I first started I had to have 2 beers before I could get on stage. And my Boss was great about it he knew it was just nerves. That lasted for 2 weeks when I came in and didn't need the beer my boss said "No beers today" I said "Don't need them anymore I'm over the stage fright." He just smiled big and said "Great glad to hear it now get your butt out there" He was the greatest boss I've had at a club actually any where. Believe me they know if you have dancing jitters and most of them want to help you get over it.Just talk to them they wont mind.You'll see.

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    Hey for me to get in there, I just stop thinking of it. And as soon as you do it once, I bet it'll be fine after that. At least, that's what I'm hoping!! I start this Saturday!! Let me know how you do.
    And, Stripping is freedom, I just got off the phone with my bf, the guy has just worked 100 hours this week alone. He was in tears because he hasn't seen his kids this week. When that happened, I went to the club as soon as he got home to ask for a job. Now he's going to have the freedom to work a shitty job whenever he feels like it and we won't have to worry about money anymore!!
    This isn't a way out, it's a great job.

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    2 beers? heck i needed a full bottle of wine on my audition night lol. It can be helpful to get that dutch courage to get in there the first night and it's easy from then on. And when i got in there, well i was the life and soul of that audition room (ok so there was just me and the manager but i was still pretty confident after my wine)

    Just make sure you don't have to rely on drink to work.

    People would never guess i was a stripper. I am achingly,painfully shy in "real life" but for a few nights a week i get to become that confident bubbly person i've always wanted to be. And if I, who was afraid to go out of the house not to long ago, can get out there and noob my way around the pole, then i'm sure you can!

    Just remember BIG SMILE you will do fantastic if you go in there with a big smile. Oh my big smile has saved me from so many slips, trips and arse plants hehe.

    Depending on where you work you could make that $500 in 2 or even 1 night! Just keep your goal in your head. You could even make a wee check list of every $10 saved towards the goal so you feel accomplished as you go along.
    All the best xxx

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    thank u guys. i really wanna go to fashion school in london and start pursuing my dreams. id have to be in school all day and i see dancing as the only way to really make money.

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    It sounds like you know what you want and you have a plan. Stick to it and you'll get everything you want out of life and more! Keep in touch and let us know how you're doing. Don't forget to Smile! lol

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    Not to advocate any illegal activity... But when I got stage fright I smoked some weed and it did more than just calm me down. It pumped me up and made feel like a pornstar. I was doing things I didn't even know how to do! I probably looked like it, too... but I didn't give a crap. I felt great and I had a really confident attitude.

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    this might be some of the silliest advice evr, but it worked for me. i was reading this sales book by Brian Tracy, "The PSychology of selling" and it talked about building self esteem by positive inner dialogue... don't laugh! i stopped dancing for a while and when i went to get back in, i did the same thing as you! i got all done up and packed up 4 days in a row and couldn't get myself to go in. Suddelnly it was SO scary! In the book it says to repeat stuff like "I like myself!" and "I'm the best!" and that saying positive things sends the messages to your subconscious lifting your self esteem and the brain releases endorphins or whatever to make you feel good and confident. i felt like an idiot, but i said it anyways, and it really did make me feel better! i kept repeating positive thoughts till i didn't even care what anybody thought of me and i walked right in in a great mood ready to go! After you go in the first time, its seems a lot easier.... did you end up going in?
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