Allright, can we discuss this openly? I have my opinions, of course, and it's obviously something that's been bothering me, otherwise I wouldn't have created this. But I also do not want to ever assume that my opinion is universal or even shared by the majority.
I'm aware that an argument could be made that this is more a matter for the Site Issues section, so I will defer to the mods IF it needs to be moved, but I really thought it would be best to discuss it in a place where we get the most traffic, and in the place where the issue is actually taking place.
My feelings: It has become far too common for men to be casually posting to whatever they feel like responding to in here. The guidelines clearly state: "While the dancers of this site do enjoy reading a lot of what the customer's have to say, they do feel better when they have this section to be able to rant with other dancers or share stories with other dancers. If you are a male (or female) customer...please refrain from posting too much in the Stripping General section. You are free to post in Customer Conversation, The Lounge, Body Business, etc. But, please respect that a lot of the dancers would feel better hearing from other dancers in this section."
I do NOT think it should be completely forbidden, as in Ladies Only, but I do think that it should be rare, and only when it's really relevant. Like, for example, a thread that is discussing a DJ issue, I think hearing from Djoser or Mr. Christopher is totally appropriate. Or other men who are actually involved in the industry.
Even a member who is customer, if it's called for in the subject matter, is okay with me if it's RARE and, again, relevant. There are quite a few longstanding, respected male members that I wouldn't mind seeing an occasional post from. But that's the irony: Longstanding members who respect this site and this space in particular generally do NOT post in here, specifically because they DO respect this space.
Okay, I've made my case, I'll stop blathering, as I honestly do want to hear what others have to say. If I'm being way too senstitive, you can tell me so. I'm just so tired of seeing threads where dancers are posting to vent or need support and commiserations from their PEERS, and they get customers (usually relatively new members) chiming in with their unsolicited $0.02. If I want customer/male feedback, which I often do, I post it in CC or the Lounge.
Should it go without saying that I want to hear from the DANCERS on this matter?








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