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    Fortunately, I haven't had to go to many funerals in my life. So, I got a question. Say your partners relative dies, and they have to go to the funeral, but you didn't know the relative. Your partner expects you to go to the funeral with him/her. Would that be disrespectful?
    I'm asking because my boyfriends aunt just died and the funeral is this weekend. His dad is expecting me to be there and I'm o.k with going, I just don't want to offend anyone. Is everyone gonna be thinking "Wtf is she doing here....."?

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    Funerals are for the survivors. If your boyfriend wants you there to support him, then go. It is never disrespectful to support your man as he grieves a loss.

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    What Yekhefah said. I'm sorry for his loss.

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    No, it is not disrespectful. If you are semi-serious, or members of his family have met you, it would be considered disrespectful for you not to go.

    As Yek said, you are there to support your boyfriend and his family.

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    Default Re: Question about funerals.

    No one is offended by anyone going to a funeral that at least knows someone there. You have nothing to worry about.

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    K cool...Thanks!

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    Default Re: Question about funerals.

    Kitten is correct, if you're in a serious relationship with your partner, not going would be seen as disrespectful (unless you had another obligation that you could not break).

    Attending a funeral is seen as a sign of respect for the person who died and for the surviving family members.

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    It's completely appropriate for you to be there.

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    A primary function of funerals is to just express, "I'm sorry." It's entirely appropriate for you.

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    Default Re: Question about funerals.

    It's fine for you to be there, and nobody will wonder why you are there. Everybody at the funeral will not know everybody else, anyway. I've gone to funerals for people I didn't ever know because one of my friends needed someone along so they would not be alone. Don't go for the aunt--go for the boyfriend who needs you.

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    I think it would be more inappropriate if you DIDN'T go!

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    You have nothing to worry about, LC. I'm sorry for his loss.



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    If people are expecting you to go, it would be inappropriate not to. You are there to show your support, so there's nothing wrong with that.

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    Default Re: Question about funerals.

    There were some people close to me that "couldn't" come to my brother's funeral....even though I understood, I will never forget that they weren't there for me in my time of need, if only to give me a hug and leave. Everyone handles death differently, but very few of my friends were able to make it and it really hurt me. I couldn't imagine being like "What the hell is this person doing here?"

    Wait the ONLY instance I recall thinking that was when my friend committed suicide and the main person/people that caused his depression in the first place showed up to his funeral. His mom made them leave though.






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