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    Ive been dancing for about 4 years at my club. I work days (which can be slow) for simple reasons. I know it has been slow everywhere due to the nice weather and it hurts my money. Im aware i look good and sometimes better then the girls i work with but they seem to get the dances when a guy has a choice b/w me or them. I know for a fact that some of these girls are dirty (ive seen it myself) and of course a custie will pick them over me. But when i talk to a guy and he says "no" and then another girl(not one of the dirty ones) talks to them the custie goes in back. Maybe i lack good convo skills, or dont smile enough but something has to give. One girl whom i am friends with is a cute 20 yr old blond(differences b/w us is i'm 5 yrs older, i have fake boobs and am a brunette w/blond highlights) who gets dances non-stop. Guys have told me that she doesnt back down and keeps bugging them til they give in. I really dont want to do that. So my questions are: besides the usual chat with a guy, what else can there be to talk about when they dont seem that interested in chatting? And how can i one up her when she gets them after i tried and failed? Also, how does one compare to a dirty dancer with no comparision in looks/body?

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    Default Re: one up on you

    I can't reallyhelp you...but I'd love to see the answers because theres a big problem at my club with competing...because its not easy to compete with extras...


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    I think us dancers need to keep to what makes us comfortable. Our work has the potential to become too destructive if we don't have our own limitations that we stick to.

    I've lost dances because I don't come on hard enough sometimes. I've had customers straight up tell me that they like a girl to do the whole boobs in face, dirty talk pick up line. I'm just not comfortable with it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this technique, in fact I could see it working rather well on me if I was a customer, I'm just personally not comfortable being that forward with a stranger.

    Anyway, as long as you are being friendly and using the hustle tips on here as far as establishing rapport and closing your sale, then you may just have to lose some sales to girls who have different approaches than you - the good thing is that they are also losing sales to men who like an approach like yours.
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    The biggest problem I see when reading your post is your worried to much about what everyone else is doing, or what they have that you don't.

    So my first piece of advice would be stop comparing to others. Stop trying to figure out how to "one up" other girls. Only focus on yourself, your looks, your hustle. Don't pay any attention to what other girls are doing, o what they look like, cause it don't matter.

    So my questions are: besides the usual chat with a guy, what else can there be to talk about when they dont seem that interested in chatting?
    Guys are either interested in chattin(which you should be getting paid for) or they are interested in dancing. If they don't want neither, then your just trying to get blood from a stone, so to speak. What I'm trying to say is, if they aren't interested in chatting, you shouldn't be thinking of ways to force a conversation. Just move on to the next guy.

    All conversations at work should be helping you move foward with a sale. If your not moving foward, then you need to move on to another guy.
    Keep in mind all guys like different things. A guy may turn you down becasue he likes natural breasts and you have fake. He may turn yu down because yoru a brunette and he ikes blondes. There's nothig you can do about this. But...for every guy who turns you down for a blonde, there will be a guy who wants you because your a brunette. You just have to find thoes guys, and they only way to do that is by talking to everyone, which means getting shot down in the process.

    So yeah...read through hustle hut, find some hustlign tips, good conversation tips o make a sale....
    And stop looking at the other girls. Just focus on yourself.

    Good luck

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    I think extras are gross especially if they include penetration, bj's, etc. That stuff is for brothels and any time some guys asks me if I will do any of that stuff... I tell him NO... I dont dig STD's and the girls that like doing it here... have herpes.

    Club owners know that extras go on but they turn the other cheek on the matter. Maybe because they know its slow too and they dont care as long as they are making a dollar. I had a guy bite me once and when I tried to kick him out, the club wouldnt cause he was buying beer.

    So if the club is that desperate then it might be better to shop around for other clubs.

    Otherwise, when you get on stage just put your "shine" on and sparkle. Have a ton of fun. Then again if theres no one in the club.... theres no point. You might as well go home, get the laundry done... and chill.

    Im now switching back to nights cause the days have been a nightmare. Which is so weird cause they used to be as good as nights.

    Last night I went to work and it was a pretty pointless shift... even the top earners showed up for an hour or two then bailed. SOme nights/days etc. you either have to roll with the punches or lean on your savings for a while until buisiness picks up.

    But back to the extras stuff... any guy that asks me where or who he can get it from... I tell him to go elsewhere. I let him know he's not welcome... and that hes definately not cute. Its not like he was gonna be my type of customer anyhow.

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    Focus less on what everyone else is doing and more on how you're making them feel. Make flirty eyes, run your fingernails up his thigh or along his arm, make him feel sexy and wanted.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    The biggest problem I see when reading your post is your worried to much about what everyone else is doing, or what they have that you don't.

    So my first piece of advice would be stop comparing to others. Stop trying to figure out how to "one up" other girls. Only focus on yourself, your looks, your hustle. Don't pay any attention to what other girls are doing, o what they look like, cause it don't matter.

    Amen to that!

    When I left my club over a year ago I was all up in everyones business, worried about who was doing what. I danced at a few other clubs for a year and came back totaaly refreshed (Ive always made my best $$ at this club). Now I don't give a fuck about what other girls do. Life is so much easier and happier. While other girls worry about the extra girls I'm out there smiling and making $$.

    In my experience the extra girls usually don't last that long.

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    ^^ Way I see it...

    Are you willing to compete with the extra's girls?
    No?
    Then why bother comparing with them? They are in a different league. Totally different hustle, different sales skill( although I believe extras girls have no sales skills, if they did, they wouldnt need to offer extras)

    And yeah..they probably won't last that long.....

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