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    I think i'm a little shy when walking up to customers

    I'm sure i'm not the only one with this problem, it's gotten better after a couple of years of dancing, when I first started dancing, I was so afraid of rejection that I would just sit there and wait on the customers to approach me. I have gotten better and out of that, but still if I get rejected then it still kinda gets to me and I don't need to let it bother me. The biggest thing, when i'm sitting with a customer, i'm not sure what to say, i'm sitting there kinda blank and they are like ok, just sitting there also kinda looking around and I just ask where are you from? What kind of work do you do? The simple questions, but I can't usually get much more out unless there is a real click there. So then I will just sit there and ask for a dance and get rejected a lot, I think they sense either I am nervous or too shy or something. When i'm drinking is when I make my money though, I just say everything and I get dances and vips and everything. Any advice or help or similar experiences anyone?

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    Default Re: I think i'm a little shy when walking up to customers

    If your running out for stuff to say your taking to long to close that sale! lol. I had the same problem for a while...but it was more that I just didnt know how to just ask for a dance. Usually I'll sit, be a little flirty (sit on his lap of run my nails on the back of his neck) go through a couple simple things (whats your name? this your 1st time here? are you from around here? stupid shit). Then I'll pull out the "wanna go out back and play?" or "lets go out back and have a little fun?" Don't wait too long so they don't get the chanch to see you be nervous or akward. I'm not saying be too pushy, but they'll notice the akward silence...so instead of letting it get to that point, just bring up dances.


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    Default Re: I think i'm a little shy when walking up to customers

    My problem is these guys want to "confess" or dump all their problems on me.

    So how do I go from, "My wife cheated on me. Our marriage is crap." to "Well thats crappy, but come on and let me get naked for you!"?

    I swear, I KNOW guys go to strip clubs to have fun right? I hate it when things get heavy.

    So I think thats the thing we got to keep in mind. Its not good to play psychologist unless you are getting paid like one. So I say, this is when it pays to play "dumb" to a certain degree. Keep things bubbly, light, and quick.

    When business is slow you may spend more time with a customer. But if its busy busy keep working the volumes of folks there.

    Sometimes it helps before getting within earshot of a customer... tell yourself over and over... "Only two minutes... only two minutes." Or whatever time limit you've set for yourself.

    Then sometimes, I do something silly like cross my fingers (I dont show the customer I did this)... This isnt for luck but its something that reminds me to be quick... cause I WONT uncross my fingers until I asked... so its always pressing on you to get down to buisness and not get too comfortable.... because keeping your hand like that isnt comfortable for too long either.

    I also use every compliment they give me as a means to take it to the next level.

    Example: "Youre so hot and fun!"

    Me: "Well if you like this, lets go to the backroom... and turn it up."

    Occasionally I get a customer who stalks me around the club... he wont leave me alone and he just sucks up my time without good tip. Ugh! I always try to excuse myself from those folks... "I need a break." or "I got to go."

    Remember, not all customers are worth your while... even if its a slow night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JusticeSpeaks View Post
    My problem is these guys want to "confess" or dump all their problems on me.

    So how do I go from, "My wife cheated on me. Our marriage is crap." to "Well thats crappy, but come on and let me get naked for you!"?

    I swear, I KNOW guys go to strip clubs to have fun right? I hate it when things get heavy.

    So I think thats the thing we got to keep in mind. Its not good to play psychologist unless you are getting paid like one. So I say, this is when it pays to play "dumb" to a certain degree. Keep things bubbly, light, and quick.

    When business is slow you may spend more time with a customer. But if its busy busy keep working the volumes of folks there.

    Sometimes it helps before getting within earshot of a customer... tell yourself over and over... "Only two minutes... only two minutes." Or whatever time limit you've set for yourself.

    Then sometimes, I do something silly like cross my fingers (I dont show the customer I did this)... This isnt for luck but its something that reminds me to be quick... cause I WONT uncross my fingers until I asked... so its always pressing on you to get down to buisness and not get too comfortable.... because keeping your hand like that isnt comfortable for too long either.

    I also use every compliment they give me as a means to take it to the next level.

    Example: "Youre so hot and fun!"

    Me: "Well if you like this, lets go to the backroom... and turn it up."

    Occasionally I get a customer who stalks me around the club... he wont leave me alone and he just sucks up my time without good tip. Ugh! I always try to excuse myself from those folks... "I need a break." or "I got to go."

    Remember, not all customers are worth your while... even if its a slow night.

    The guys with issues that need to talk are easy to sell.

    Say," Oh honey..I'm soo sorry for all your problems, and I would love to talk with you abotu them and help you, but it's so loud out here, I can't hear you very well, and it's just not private enough to talk abotu such matters, so why don't we go in the back where it's quieter, we can get a glass of wine and we'll talk about whatever you need to, ok?
    ( said while rubbing his back, or some other comforting gesture)

    This is how i get so many VIP's that are all talking, no dancing, which I very much prefer.

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    Default Re: I think i'm a little shy when walking up to customers

    Keep it light, quick and to the point. "whats your name, where you from, first time here? etc..." then not more than 2songs later, ,"so lets get away from all these people and have some fun in private." if he says no, then say, "well are you hanging out for a while?" and check back and ask again, cant stress that enough. if its slow, still apply the same approach. not more than 2 songs of talking and ask him if he wants a to go to vip, if he says no then ask him he wants a table dance. i say, " well how about a table dance right here, its only $10 and i can show you what im working with" and then after the table dance tell him, " so are you ready for a real dance cause ive got moves you've never seen " may sound cheesy but works for me, sometimes.

    just remember, keep it light, dont talk not more than 2songs, and check back with each guy you've talked to and always try to remember thier name.

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