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    So, what does it take or who does it take to get responses on here? Stripperweb use to not be quite this bad with the cliqueness. I understand other swers are having the same problem but just haven't said anything about it. If someone posts something that interests me or I notice they aren't getting any responses to a valid, decent post then I make an effort to respond. I notice certain ones only respond to certain other's threads. I thought we were all adults on here. I am here to discuss ideas, dilemnas, thoughts, feelings, stupid stuff, funny stuff or whatever happens to be on my mind. I like hearing what everyone has to say as long as it's not insulting or disturbing. I came here to open my world up and learn not only about the business but different ideas and viewpoints. I don't want an experience that's limited to ten people's input. I guess I am more interested in more people coming together and unity as opposed to small groups here and there that only certain ones are allowed into based upon one or two people's judgement.

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    I notice it but I can't really say anything because I'm barely on as it is. It is part of the reason I'm not on though. These forums only interest me nowadays, they rarely make me feel better or a part of something.
    I don't post anymore because I can come up with a legitimate problem once a year and get flamed somehow, but turn around and read certain ridiculous posts or posts from people who obviously just want attention and their's goes on for pages.
    I've nearly stopped giving a shi# about it.

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    Any time you have a group of women, cliques will form and some will get catty. It's what women do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    Any time you have a group of women, cliques will form and some will get catty. It's what women do.


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    I guess I just don't let it bother me. I'm male so I get my fair share of snarky replies, threads ignored, and general asshattedness. SW is really lighthearted fun for me. I post on other boards where all is serious talk. Just as much drama there. Folks foolishly believe that there is actual anonymity on the net, and carry on with some crazy drama.

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    I notice it, but meh, who cares. I'm sort of lazy and half-write responses to lots of threads, then get distracted (hey, a butterfly!) and don't end up posting them. I figure others do the same.

    Also, personally, I don't feel that a lot of threads pertain to me (like anything involving kids, tattoos, working in South Florida... to name a few), so I don't say much. Again, I'm sure its the same for others.

    I will agree that SW seems to be in a clique peak, but ... meh ...so? It is what it is.

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    My internet connection is slow dial-up, because where we live (very rural area) a high speed connection would be very expensive. The point being, I have to pick and choose what I read/respond to, because "surfing" the internet can become very time consuming. Plus, for some reason, with this connection, I am constantly having to log back into SW, which becomes sometimes becomes so frustrating that I don't bother to log in at all. Sometimes, I type a long, thoughtout response, only to submit and be told I have to log-in and then I lose the whole thing and give up.

    That's my reason for not responding to alot of threads.

    The cliques don't bother me.

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    Default Re: So, what does it take or who does it take

    I just don't have all the time I want to do it. So I read the headlines that interest me, and I choose to respond or not, depending on if someone already said what I wanted to say

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    I decided to change my post entirely . Because,I went back and re read the OP and began to sort of think on it.

    taking into consideration everything, I will say that there are times I get a bit peeved when I ask something directly in a thread and it goes unnoticed. Yet another poster can make the same comment or question and it gets addressed. But, I remind myself it is after all the god damn internet and how retarded of me to get my feelings hurt because I didn't get the attention I saw fit. Usually this issue creeps up when I have PMS or some other over riding issue at home and it just bubbles over onto here.

    As far as the clicks go. Personally,I don't see that on here. Do I see friendships? Yes. & when I have friends that post on certain threads or start them, then I of course read and respond ..typically. I think that's pretty par for the course.

    How can there be clicks via the internet msg board though? I don't really grasp that concept in the least.

    I know that I personally don't respond to threads,unless I'm in the mood. Sometimes I have to avoid threads all together because they wouldn't be healthy for me to read. Be it kids being killed or diet threads. then there are those that aren't lighthearted and that day that's kinda all I wanna read and be part of.

    to the OP , I happen to agree with Susan. When you post you actually start several threads rather than commenting on some that exist. And everyone here has been more than supportive through out all your life changes, relationship issues etc. Which is awesome, but you can't always get all the attention here. Or expect everyone to be at your beck and call. Then to get upset over it all.

    I just don't get it.

    This site is for in a nutshell, ramblings and tid bits of advice not intended for someones source of personal entertainment and therapy. I think if you are coming on here to get that you need to re examine some things.
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    Default Re: So, what does it take or who does it take

    I haven't noticed and I'm here all the time. I guess it just never bothers me in real life or in weblife.

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    Aw fer the love of Pete, the clique thread just barely died. We don't need another.

    Yes, it's clique-y. It will always be clique-y. It's one's own personal decision to take offense at that, or chalk it up to internetiness and let it go. Live and let live, preferably naked.

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    to the OP: people on here have been tremendously supportive of you and listened to you go round and round about your dislike of the job and your previous relationship and provided you with a sounding board -- was all of that nonresponsive and worthless to you? Or do you forget so quickly?

    I'm sorry if that is bitchy and cliquey. I don't know what people are looking for here and am confused by the degree to which they take imaginary slights so personally. I find it dismaying.

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    See, I know there are a lot of people who are closer than others, who make a point to respond to their friend's posts. But I think that's natural for a friend to respond to another friend rather than to a stranger.

    I'm not in a clique or really friends with anyone, but whenever I have posted a question, I received lots of supportive, helpful, well thought out advice. And when I responded to a question, my advice, I feel anyway, was always appreciated whether or not the posted used my advice.

    Or maybe I'm just out of the loop entirely

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    So... it's just me that assumes when nobody or very few people responds to one of my posts it's because it is not interesting and not because of some conspiracy?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    So... it's just me that assumes when nobody or very few people responds to one of my posts it's because it is not interesting and not because of some conspiracy?

    Yeah... see I had nothing to really offer the recent thread about young instructors... so I didn't. I didn't think that I was subconsciously ignoring people in some clique or somesuch...
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    Just look at that Blacksheep3 dude...his posts aren't taken seriously sometimes but hes really being serious about his posts...=P

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    What Susan said. If I've already responded to thirty threads about your last five shitty relationships and your poor self image in the last two years, I'm probably not even going to open the next one. I'm not being a bitch, I'm just not interested in the redundancy.

    And, like someone else said... yeah, I see friendships, but nothing I'd call a clique.



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    I'm trying to START a clique--anybody want to join me?

    Truthfully, I feel like the entire SW group is my clique--maybe, because I am a male and always am mindful that this site is, truly, for the women, I went into it not expecting much in the way of feedback. But I have found great support here, and great discussions, and much wisdom, and straight honesty (even when at the moment sometimes it was hard to hear). I hope I've given back, though I know sometimes I do a little less than I would like. But I always try to come back to the forum and contribute.

    Since we're talking about it, I just want to thank everyone for everything here and letting me be a part of it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    So... it's just me that assumes when nobody or very few people responds to one of my posts it's because it is not interesting and not because of some conspiracy?
    Agreed /nod

    I view myself as the most interesting and coolest person on this site. And I know folks here are just sitting around waiting for me to post so they can respond with "Oh..FBR...that was awesome. You said exactly what was on my mind...and so much better than I could have said it". Well, that's my fantasy. But in reality, with the thousands of posts here and the tendency for all of us to skim , it's up to the OP to tailor his or her posts in such a way as to capture attention. The window of opportunity is very small.

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    Default Re: So, what does it take or who does it take

    Personally...I'm sick of threads related/dedicated to drama on SW. I was just thinking about how drama free it has been lately, lol.

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    ^ your thoughts jinxed it

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Agreed /nod

    I view myself as the most interesting and coolest person on this site. And I know folks here are just sitting around waiting for me to post so they can respond with "Oh..FBR...that was awesome. You said exactly what was on my mind...and so much better than I could have said it". Well, that's my fantasy. But in reality, with the thousands of posts here and the tendency for all of us to skim , it's up to the OP to tailor his or her posts in such a way as to capture attention. The window of opportunity is very small.

    FBR

    Oh..FBR...that was awesome. You said exactly what was on my mind...and so much better than I could have said it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    What Susan said. If I've already responded to thirty threads about your last five shitty relationships and your poor self image in the last two years, I'm probably not even going to open the next one. I'm not being a bitch, I'm just not interested in the redundancy.

    And, like someone else said... yeah, I see friendships, but nothing I'd call a clique.
    There is quite a lot of talk about relationships and poor self image on this website. I would guess at least 50% if not more of ladies only and body business are threads regarding such.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    to the OP: people on here have been tremendously supportive of you and listened to you go round and round about your dislike of the job and your previous relationship and provided you with a sounding board -- was all of that nonresponsive and worthless to you? Or do you forget so quickly?

    I'm sorry if that is bitchy and cliquey. I don't know what people are looking for here and am confused by the degree to which they take imaginary slights so personally. I find it dismaying.

    I think this is a board in which a lot of people make posts regarding certain things they are not happy with their life, not just me. Whether it's "sounding board" or not, I am not completely sure. I just notice as of lately it's hard to get a response regarding anything and I have chatted with others who have had the same problem. I mean I guess in the end we sort out our own problems or situations but a nod or two in between can be a nice thing from time to time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    So... it's just me that assumes when nobody or very few people responds to one of my posts it's because it is not interesting and not because of some conspiracy?
    I don't think people are conspiring against me at all, I just think they have a preference towards certain others.

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