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    When I give a private dance I never initiate conversation because I don't want to kill the mood. If the customer starts talking I will certainly join in the conversation.

    Is this a good approach?

    I did a double dance with this dancer the other week and she kind of stunned me coz she starts getting naked and then says to one of the guys "So where are you from?" "So what kind of car do you drive?".
    I thought it was a mood killer but then it occurred to me that maybe people do want conversation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    When I give a private dance I never initiate conversation because I don't want to kill the mood. If the customer starts talking I will certainly join in the conversation.

    Is this a good approach?
    In a word: YES

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    Yeah mood killer for me; that sounds like a great approach!
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    I HATE when dancers talk to much during dances. I will not buy a second one.

    Less talking, more stripping please.

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    Default Re: conversation or silence during dances

    Yep and if I want to say something then I will.

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    I don't much care either way as long as she's not lazy and trying to substitute talking for dancing. Especially if it's my first time with the stripper. Regular dancers get a hall pass if they want to be a little bit lazy once in a great while.

    What I find really strange is when dancers insist that the customers talk! Unless I know the woman well (and thus have something to talk about) I'm content to just smile, kick back and enjoy the dance. I mean, appropriate physical responses but no chit chat. I've had a few dancers part way into the song (while not previously speaking themselves) comment along the lines of "Please say something. It's kinda weird that you're so quiet". What the hell did they want from me? CS? A weather report? Anyway, that is pretty much a deal breaker for me as if it's my job to entertain her.

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    i hate when a dancer talks during a dance. That dance will usually be the last.

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    Default Re: conversation or silence during dances

    I'm okay with it for a few seconds, but it can get awkward pretty quickly. I'd rather that any conversation happen while waiting for the end of a song and before the dancing part starts.
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    Default Re: conversation or silence during dances

    i usually only talk if i -just- met the guy and he got a dance.. like during a 2-4-1 or what-not. even then i only do it for the first 10 seconds or so. just enough to introduce myself and ask where he's from. it just feels akward dancing for someone before i've even said my name.

    the only other time i talk is with guys i know want me to. chatty regulars and such. i let them lead the convo though.

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    Use your voice like you do your body, to enhance the LD'ing experience. A seductive "you want some more?" in my ear towards the end of the song, or a "you like that?" when you've done something that has hit my trigger makes a dance that much more memorable.

    Aside from that...mute button please.
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    Aside from that...mute button please.
    Where is that mute button? I want one I've had some dancers that just won't stop talking during a dance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    When I give a private dance I never initiate conversation because I don't want to kill the mood. If the customer starts talking I will certainly join in the conversation.

    Is this a good approach?
    Yes. Thanks for asking.

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    Default Re: conversation or silence during dances

    I think that's a good approach. Some nights I feel like a little conversation. Other nights, I'm just interested in taking in a dance.

    I don't think you have to be afraid to initiate conversation. The way in which a custy replies to you usually indicates how receptive he/she is to conversation. An elaborate answer should reflect their willingness to engage in conversation. A short, conversation dragging answer likely means they want you to just dance.

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    When it comes to talking in the LD/VIP section, less is more.
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    Default Re: conversation or silence during dances

    Usually I prefer no conversation...but a little light banter back and forth is good...asking if I like a particular move, or compliments back and forth are fine

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    I don't talk during dances, the customer talks sometimes and I just listen (unless he says something I have to reply to) to them but I try not to start a conversation and hope for them to shut up if they are big talkers.

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    I generally don't like conversation during a dance, especially if its a good song and she is really in sync with the beat.
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    Erotic talk is fine with me. Save the other talk for the floor.

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    It all depends on the guy. If he talks..I will continue the conversation. If I say something and he doesnt respond, I'll shut up and let him just enjoy the dance.
    Sometimes conversation enhances the experience..sometimes it distracts. it all depends on the guy and what mood he is in. If you pay attention to the non-verbal clues he gives..you can pick up on what he wants.

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    Default Re: conversation or silence during dances

    If I'm pre-booked for a decent length of time such as 20 minutes I will around the 10 minute mark if conversation hasn't already been inititated by the customer ask a few questions and have a couple of minutes of conversation to pass the time.

    I do this because this is a great way for me to find out if the guy is in a chatty mood or a dancing mood or a bit of both. I've already given half of the 20 minutes as a pretty good/decent dance.. so some of them are quite happy to chat the rest of the time and will sometimes extend for more because they are enjoying the conversation (or want me to dance again after being distracted by the conversation).

    If the guy is more interested in the dance, I'm not dumb, I will pick this up and continue dancing with less conversation.

    After initiating the conversation, I let the guy lead after that... whether it be a quick conversation or a longer one..

    For 10 minute (or 3 song) dances, I don't generally have conversations and usually start asking around the last few minutes if they would like to continue and only if they continue I will (if they seem receptive) have a conversation with them.

    Not all guys are comfortable having a lap dance thus the conversation helps put them at ease from my experience.


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    WOW. I guess I'm in the minority. If a girl knows WHAT to say and says it in a sexy way, YES, please talk. One of my ATF's was filthy when she talked in the VIP - I LOVED IT. SOOOOOOOOOOOO hot, and it just made me want more. It also made the fantasy that much more real. Do I want to hear about your BF, apartment, roommate, etc? Nope. Maybe outside of the dance, at a table or whatever. Just my 2 cents.....

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    I wonder if my heavy breathing, moaning, panting during a dance counts as conversation?
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    I talk talk talk al through the dance!!!

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    I tend to keep the convo very short and the only things I'll say during a dance is "ooh, you smell really good or ooh, I'm really enjoying this, aren't you?" Things like that. I'll talk more only if the customer's talking a lot, then I'll take that as he prefers more convo during the dance, otherwise I keep it short & sweet during the dance and allow our VIP time for more convo or if the custie wants me to sit at his table and talk to him I will (as long as he's paying me to sit there and talk to him though).

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    A lot of times I've heard guys at the club complain about a lap dance that they've gotten because the girl talked too damned much throughout (e.g. where are you from, where'd you meet your wife...). I always figured that men would rather the girl not try and make conversation while dancing for them so I keep it to a minnie minimum. I prefer not to talk during a lap dance anyway, but every now and then I get a guy who tries to carry on a full conversation with me during and I find it awkward and distracting. I wonder if they do that because they feel awkward lol.

    One time I was horrified because I was lap dancing a guy in a chair back to back with another guy getting a lap dance, and the stripper working on that guy totally started talking and joking loudly with me while we were dancing! What guys wanna hear that?

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