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    Last night at work this guy said -- out of the blue -- "It looks like you're carrying some extra weight on your frame. That's OK, I am too."

    I weigh exactly 122 lbs and I'm 5'4. That puts me in the BMI category for normal weight. Sure, I'm not ripped, but I'm definitely not fat at all. What the hell? Does he hold strippers to higher standards, where they must be underweight to not receive rude comments? It sort of fucked with me for a brief second.

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    People, esp guys in strip clubs, can just be a-holes. By cutting down your self esteem(and commenting on a womans weight is an easy bet....even if you are stick thin, chances are you are self concious about your weight..most women are) he makes himself feel better.
    Dick. Dont worry...i get called think, big, fat, whatever. Sometimes it gets to me...most of the time I remember how much I make mostly based on my looks and I smile.

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    What a jackass. I used to hover around 130 at 5'2 and I was nowhere near fat then. Healthy, yes. Fat? No. Now I'm 110 and very self-conscious about my weight because people here seem to prefer girls that are bigger. I even had an asshat last week ask to look at my arms to see if he could find any "tracks" b/c he thought I was too thin. Oh yeah guy, I must go home and shoot up drugs because I'm 110 pounds...

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    People, esp guys in strip clubs, can just be a-holes. By cutting down your self esteem(and commenting on a womans weight is an easy bet....even if you are stick thin, chances are you are self concious about your weight..most women are) he makes himself feel better.
    I totally agree with this... some guys get a sick satisfaction from tearing down a woman who makes her living from her good looks (I know the job is about more than that, but you know what I mean.) Like, 'hehe, I just ripped down a hot dancer, I'm so awesome!'

    It's also possible that he was trying to compliment you and the most twisted version of what he was trying to say came out of his mouth??? When I started I was a bit heavier than I am now and guys would sometimes try to tell me that they appreciated my curves but it came out all wrong... lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    Last night at work this guy said -- out of the blue -- "It looks like you're carrying some extra weight on your frame. That's OK, I am too."

    I weigh exactly 122 lbs and I'm 5'4. That puts me in the BMI category for normal weight. Sure, I'm not ripped, but I'm definitely not fat at all. What the hell? Does he hold strippers to higher standards, where they must be underweight to not receive rude comments? It sort of fucked with me for a brief second.
    Some asshole customers like nothing better than to see you squirm. Seriously, I have an amazing flat stomach , it is one of my best features(was even better a few years ago when this happened) had an asshole customer tell me my stomach was fat and it needs to be flat and toned like hers (pointing to another dancer whos belly was yuuuuuck). They like to lower the confidence of dancers b/c they think we are all conceited and snobby. Do not take it to heart.

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    He is a jackass, do not let this get to you.

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    don't feel bad, once i was doing a room with this guy and he creeped me out sooo bad.. i was getting dressed at the end and he goes "i bet you wish you could lose some weight, dont you?" they're such jerks. ignore it!

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    cameron and buffie have it- insecure guys love to cut dancers down. Ignore it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    don't feel bad, once i was doing a room with this guy and he creeped me out sooo bad.. i was getting dressed at the end and he goes "i bet you wish you could lose some weight, dont you?" they're such jerks. ignore it!
    Yeah..I had a guy say that almost word for word one night...I looked at him and, totally serious, I said "Why is it that its ALWAYS the fattest, ugliest guys who say stuff like that?"
    Then I took his money and strutted my fat ass away while he picked all his chins up off the floor. What did I have to lose? I already had his money!!!(not that I wouldnt have said it anyway!)

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    Thanks for all the nice words. I could not believe someone said this to me. I have a bit of a stomach, but who cares? Most guys don't! 122 lbs is not fat!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    Thanks for all the nice words. I could not believe someone said this to me. I have a bit of a stomach, but who cares? Most guys don't! 122 lbs is not fat!
    exactly. im not a stick, and some guys won't want me because of that. but some WILL.

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    You're a complete fatass. Now get on the treadmill you lazy fat pig.

    See how silly that sounds?

    You're not fat.


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    I'm approx 130lbs and 5'9" and I regularly get told how much of a fatass I am by customers.

    I'm glad you've managed to find a way to not let it get to you, because it pretty much destroys me for at least a few days every time it happens

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    ^^I don't get that Darcy. Are Aussie men extra-cruel? Ottawa is a hyper-pc place these days, and I think that even the Hells Angels get used to being extraordinarily careful with what they say out loud. But I will get some backhanded, passive-aggressive comments sometimes. Anyone else see a cultural link with name calling/ customer manners?

    But I digress. Sunchild you're right, 122 pounds cannot possibly be fat. That man was a dickhead. Some people also delude themselves into thinking that other people also have weight problems or physical deficiencies to make them feel better about their own. Lies, all lies.

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    Your height/ratio sounds not the least bit fat to me. In fact, it sounds like you're on the slim side. This guy was either trying to insult thanks to his own insecurities or he has a serious thing for anorexic chicks and genuinely sees women who are at healthy weights as carrying a bit extra. Either way, the problem does not lie with your size.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon View Post
    ^^I don't get that Darcy. Are Aussie men extra-cruel? Ottawa is a hyper-pc place these days, and I think that even the Hells Angels get used to being extraordinarily careful with what they say out loud. But I will get some backhanded, passive-aggressive comments sometimes. Anyone else see a cultural link with name calling/ customer manners?

    But I digress. Sunchild you're right, 122 pounds cannot possibly be fat. That man was a dickhead. Some people also delude themselves into thinking that other people also have weight problems or physical deficiencies to make them feel better about their own. Lies, all lies.
    I've backed this up before, but I have found it to be a cultural thing. Althought Queenslanders tend to be the worst. Not a single Southern Australian said anything to me and they were actually very polite, but I did hear some people say things about Darcy to her face. They were nice to me, but I think it's a cultural 'we know you so we mock you' thing that really doesn't help a poor girl's self-esteem.


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    Someone suggested to me once that the reason I get called fat so regularly is because I apparently 'look like the kind of hot girl that would be a stuck up bitch', so guys are mean to me to try to cut me down. There's waaaay bigger girls than me at my club, and they've said they rarely, if ever, get negative comments about their weight.

    I think, perhaps, it may be a cultural thing though. Without wanting to throw in any racist comments, the ones that tend to be the nastiest to me are the Italian/Greek/Lebanese guys. That being said, a lot of blue collar white guys say it too. Ehh... pretty much everyone calls me fat, hah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by justifymylove View Post
    some guys get a sick satisfaction from tearing down a woman who makes her living from her good looks
    Perfectly said.
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    Sounds like he was just trying to upset you.

    I have a flat, toned stomach with visible abs. I weigh 101 lbs and my regular made a "joke" one day grabbing my tummy and saying "oooh haven't u been training?".

    When I got upset, he was upset and said it was only a joke and I told him that "it's only a joke when 2 people are laughing".
    Then I explained that I am recovering from an eating disorder and comments like that can send me over the edge (which is true).
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    You have nothing to worry about as far as your size is concerned. I think what we girls have to remember is that there are a lot of insecure assholes who come into our establishments and get a high off of putting others down. They do this to make themselves feel better about themselves. Little do these assholes realize, but they are highlighting their own insecurites by acting like such jackasses.

    Next time somebody does this to you, then take it as a compliment. You must really have it going on if someone is going out of their way to insult you as a way of making themselves feel superior.
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    Sweetie, it's happened to all of us. I am 5'7" 128 lbs. and once I asked a guy if he wanted to dance and he said "No thanks, I am looking for a skinny girl" so I had to reply "Ok, I think my double cheesebuger is ready anyways". The other girls and I got a kick out of this and he wasn't approached again that night.

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    Insulting you could be just his thing. There is a guy who comes into my club and gets many many dances with some of the most beautiful girls, and he'll tell them loudly and repeatedly that they are ugly, have bad hair, need to lose weight, have an ass pimple, a big nose- basically just insulting them. He pays a loooot though, so we all just ignore it and realize it's just his sick way of making himself feel better.- He literally does this with every girl.
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    i just lost 30 + pounds, and i am more than happy with the way i look now. i'm in the normal weight for my height as well.

    a guy at work the other day came up to me (i was sitting at the bar eating a SALAD) and said, "you shouldn't eat when you work, it shows when you're onstage." so i put my hand under my dish, and asked "are you talking about me??" i was so ready to throw the salad on his dumb ass... when he said no, and pointed to the girl on stage, who is pretty chunky, but not GROSS. then he walked away.

    some men are just assholes, and they go in there to verbally abuse us because they think it hurts us.

    fuck them. : ]

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    [QUOTE=virgoamm;1162244] Healthy, yes. Fat? No. Now I'm 110 and very self-conscious about my weight because people here seem to prefer girls that are bigger. IQUOTE]

    are you in houston still??

    here in beaumont, they really like us "thicker" girls. i guess it's like, what do they call it... cornfed?? haha. i really don't know, but i have the right idea.

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    At ANY height I wouldn't call 122lbs fat. You could be 5 foot and it would still be a normal, healthy BMI. Same goes for 130lbs. I've been 5'1" and 127lbs and looked hot, although I was very muscular back then from water polo and ballet.

    Some asshats just get a kick out of feeling that they have some sort of power to affect you.

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