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    The bouncer at my club is driving me crazy. He doesn't really do his job. When I'm giving a couch dance I WANT a bouncer to be at least within eyesight of me in case the guy pulls anything, especially since now the dances are in a completely different room because they're remodeling. Last night, I did not see the bouncer ONCE all night. He was busy standing by the front entrance (which I understand is a place they could possibly use a big strong body in case anything goes wrong, but I would prefer him to be watching the dance area, if they really need someone to watch the front and dance area, they should hire TWO). We're expected to give this guy minimum 10 dollars. On a slow Monday, when I didn't even see this guy all night, we still have to give it to him. I feel like handing him 10 and saying "thank you for existing". I realize that he's there just in case anything were to go wrong, but how is he supposed to do his job if he's not even watching? The manager was the one peeking in the couch dance area room, not the bouncer. The bouncer did absolutely nothing for me all night, and still expected his 10 dollars per girl to stand by the door. There were 15 girls, so thats' 150 dollars, just for standing by a door? I wouldn't feel so angry about tipping him if he were to do something like help me carry my bags out to the taxi, watch the private dance room, or actually engage in conversation about which customers are spending (there's no floormen so IMO he doubles as floorman/bouncer) ... but he doesn't. ugh.

    I even said to him when I gave him his tip "gee I haven't seen you ALL night".

    what to do....

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    Get used to tipping people who do nothing for you is about all I can say; it's one of the very annoying costs of doing business.

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    Hmm, I know who you are talking about! (This is Roxy, btw). Its always fun to have a customer who says "But the bouncer isnt even watching!" and have that be true. Then they expect that you want to get away with more. The thing is, they used to have two bouncers and now for whatever reason there is only one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    Get used to tipping people who do nothing for you is about all I can say; it's one of the very annoying costs of doing business.
    dido... I could not have said it better myself!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    Get used to tipping people who do nothing for you is about all I can say; it's one of the very annoying costs of doing business.

    Exactly, one hand rubs the other, so to speak.

    I normally try and pacify all involved in my 'business' by give them a good private viewing of my privates on a semi-regular basis FOC.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Erica the Aviator View Post
    Exactly, one hand rubs the other, so to speak.

    I normally try and pacify all involved in my 'business' by give them a good private viewing of my privates on a semi-regular basis FOC.

    Hell ye fo sho.

    my bounca at da club, man he protect me from every damn thing. and yo know why? cos I let him see my hamster fo free dats why.

    man he loves me now!

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    if the customer tried to assault you, would it be worth the 10 dollars for the bouncer to take care of it?

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    yes, but I'd tip him way more than usual ^.

    That said, if he was even THERE to see that he was assaulting me.

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    im sure if you started yelling he would come by? I know how you feel about fee's though. Everyone always seems like their hand is out even when they don't provide a decent service.

    As far as bouncers go however, it's always wise to tip them, and 10 bucks for piece of mind is nothin. Even if its half assed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    im sure if you started yelling he would come by? I know how you feel about fee's though. Everyone always seems like their hand is out even when they don't provide a decent service.
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    How the hell are you so sure?! Or was that sarcasm? Have you tried yelling over club music to speak to someone in front of you? Now try screaming to someone outside the room!!
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    Usually, tipping a bouncer is like having car insurance. You spend the money for them to do nothing, in the hopes that if tragedy strikes they will be there to take care of you. Then tragedy strikes, and they don't do anything at all, but you have to pay them some more anyway because what if there's an even bigger tragedy down the line. It's one of those ways we all waste most of the money we make.

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    how do you only have one bouncer in a club that has private rooms, there should be atleast 3? which would you rather have; him babysitting the VIP room, where something MIGHT happen, or the general area where something is bound to happen? if you don't feel safe with only one bouncer the management should be made away, especially if there is more than one of you gals feeling that way. college/highschool football players are always looking to make a few bucks, see beautiful women and get paid to fight. i know thats how i got into it and now im a driver/bouncer.


    Quote Originally Posted by Stevie06 View Post
    Hmm, I know who you are talking about! (This is Roxy, btw). Its always fun to have a customer who says "But the bouncer isnt even watching!" and have that be true. Then they expect that you want to get away with more. The thing is, they used to have two bouncers and now for whatever reason there is only one.
    thats when you tell him "thats the only bouncer you can see" and wink and smile.
    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Yeah, I only make the "bored" expression when I'm facing away from the guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    How the hell are you so sure?! Or was that sarcasm? Have you tried yelling over club music to speak to someone in front of you? Now try screaming to someone outside the room!!

    How the hell do i know? lol It was a question, not sarcasm or a statement. See the question mark?

    But tipping a bouncer is yes, like insurance as yekhefah put it. 10 dollars wont really break you. It is not your job to determine whether or not he deserves it considering it is a manditory tip. If he expected anything over the 10 for a poor job done, then it would be ok to tell him to go to hell.

    All you can do in this instance is complain to the manager or straight to the bouncers face. (although that should be more constructive critisism than anything if you ever want his help in the future)

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    Quote Originally Posted by head turner View Post
    im sure if you started yelling he would come by? I know how you feel about fee's though. Everyone always seems like their hand is out even when they don't provide a decent service.
    Don't want to be the second person to jump all over you for this, but there is no way a bouncer would be able to hear anyone yell over the distance in an extremely loud club, and this also made me think of how the club's delinquency could backfire here: This could become a dangerous situation if a dancer feels she has to yell for help. There are a lot of "heroes" out there, and with alcohol flowing, a lot of random uninvolved guys would love to jump in and defend a dancer's honor while in actuality they'd be starting a big fight that would endanger others in the club. Things can get out of hand really fast this way. Stupid on the management's part. Are they trying to save money or something?
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    ...I assume you probably don't want to deal with pervs, and the guys that just don't give a fuck about money are like unicorns...
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    Quote Originally Posted by paintgoddess View Post
    Don't want to be the second person to jump all over you for this, but there is no way a bouncer would be able to hear anyone yell over the distance in an extremely loud club, and this also made me think of how the club's delinquency could backfire here: This could become a dangerous situation if a dancer feels she has to yell for help. There are a lot of "heroes" out there, and with alcohol flowing, a lot of random uninvolved guys would love to jump in and defend a dancer's honor while in actuality they'd be starting a big fight that would endanger others in the club. Things can get out of hand really fast this way. Stupid on the management's part. Are they trying to save money or something?

    i am not saying the bouncer wasn't in the wrong. Im saying you are tipping for insurance. There are no definites that he will or wont respond if you are in trouble but paying him gives you better odds.

    IF he doesn't do his job, management should step in, but seeing that the 10 is probably manditory minimum you have to pay it. If he demanded more, then that is a problem.

    If you were dancing and someone thought your skills were not up to par and that you didn't pay attention to the customer, then that doesn't mean that you don't deserve your money but it does mean he may not continue and you probably wont recieve a tip.

    Him standing there means he is working, him not doing his job is a management issue.

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    Yes, I obviously see how paying the bouncer is like paying for insurance. I'm not one of those dumb strippers that complains about tipping DJ or bouncer, saying "what did he do for me anyway? He just stood there." It's the pay-it-forward mentality, which is how strip clubs work.

    Sad thing is, paying the minimum to the bouncer every night is what most do, myself included. Paying him/them a little extra every night will probably never be insurance for me that he will help me out and will add up over time to a giant waste of money on my part. OTOH, whenever there was a problem, like one time a drunk guy got up on stage during my set, the bouncer had to get him down, and I thanked him later that night and tipped him extra. He was just doing his job when he was helping me, but in strip clubs, a "thank you" without a corresponding tip might as well be a "fuck you." I've learned that. I tip minimum for you standing there breathing, and more to thank you when you've gone out of your way for my safety or to help me make money.

    This actually sounds like a management issue. It doesn't hurt to have two sets of eyes watching, and four strong arms pullin' for the home team, should a problem arise. All depends on the layout of the club, and how busy it gets.

    One thing about bouncers, is that they are part of the atmosphere. A deterrent. If there is a bouncer in eye-shot, chances of some guy acting like a douche are much less.
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    ...I assume you probably don't want to deal with pervs, and the guys that just don't give a fuck about money are like unicorns...
    Quote Originally Posted by Sinder View Post
    I know I have said it before, and I'll say it again.... THE VAGINA IS NOT A CLOWN CAR!


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