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    My best girlfriend is a waitress at the club i work at and has a beautiful son and they are about to loose their house because the club has been so bad lately. It is bad season and she is seriously making 1/4 of what she normally makes.

    She is an attractive lady but has some health issues and she absolutely can't dance. If she lost her house it would go to forclosure and she would not have credit for 7 years. She is in her mid thirty's and i can't let this happen to her.

    I have some money saved and i offered to help and i can afford to help but she wont take it. I told her that she could help me one day when i need it years down the road and i will help her until good season comes again. She wont take it. What can i do short of finding out who her mortgage is through and paying it myself?

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    if i find out who her mortgage is through can i pay it behind her back? anyone know?

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    You could appeal to her as a mother - remind her that her pride isn't just hurting her, but her son as well. She's not the only one looking at homelessness, and her baby didn't do anything to deserve that (not that she did, but you know what I mean). Ask her to take the money for her son's sake, and if it'll make her feel better, she can pay you back when she gets on her feet.

    You're a great friend. It's sweet of you to help her like this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    You could appeal to her as a mother - remind her that her pride isn't just hurting her, but her son as well. She's not the only one looking at homelessness, and her baby didn't do anything to deserve that (not that she did, but you know what I mean). Ask her to take the money for her son's sake, and if it'll make her feel better, she can pay you back when she gets on her feet.

    You're a great friend. It's sweet of you to help her like this.

    Thank you. My girlfriend would do the same for me in a heartbeat if she was in the position i am in. She has already done so much for me and gone out of her way this is really not much in repayment.

    She truely has a heart of gold.

    That is awesome advice but i know under any circumstance she would rather loose her house then feel like she is taking advantage of me. Me throwing her kid in her face would only make her break down more. I want to do this behind her back so she can't say no.

    I know her loan is through countrywide. Does anyone have any idea how i can do this and if it is possible?

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    You could contact Countrywide and ask, I have no idea.

    But I think it's really sad that this woman is willing to throw her kid out onto the street just to defend her own pride. That's not really exemplary motherhood. I understand, but it's sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    You could contact Countrywide and ask, I have no idea.

    But I think it's really sad that this woman is willing to throw her kid out onto the street just to defend her own pride. That's not really exemplary motherhood. I understand, but it's sad.
    That is a really good point. She would find an apartment and pay without a problem (you can find one cheap here)

    But i will call countrywide, and if that doesn't work i will mention her son and how expensive a new apartment and moving costs will be.

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