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    Hi everyone. I am not brand new to dancing, but I would still be considered kind of an inexperienced rookie I guess. I have worked at 2 clubs and had the same kind of bad experiences at both wich is why I ended up leaving both places. My problem is that there was another dancer at both clubs that I just didn't get along with. Both times the other dancer was someone who had been there for a long time and I was the new girl. I don't really think I really did anything wrong or said anything mean in either case. I think it was just a matter of me being the new girl and the other girls just wanted to be all catty and show me who was boss. I was really hoping to just go in and make friends and just have a fun place to work where I could make some money too. These girls had a different idea I guess. My question is, do you find that where you work the girls are mostly friends or is there alot of competitiveness and stuff going on? Are most of the girls friends where you work or are they all just trying to out do one another to make every buck they can? My friend worked at a place in Florida where she says most of the girls were friends. It wasn't like that as much in the two places where I worked, granted I only worked there for a few months each time. I'd like to give it another try somewhere else though and was just wondering if I was unlucky the first 2 times or what?

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    Honestly, its nice to have friends and all, but are you working to make money or make friends? When I started I kept to myself...and eventually people introduced themselves, I got a locker, got to know the girls in my locker room. I don't have any supergreat friends...but I also don't have to deal with anybodies drama.


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    Dont go to work to make friends. If you happen to do that...its a bonus. But if you are so worried about what the other girls think of you..you're just going to mess with your money.
    A lot of places will be a bit cold to the new girl until they find out if you are a psycho, bitch, hooker, druggie, etc..etc...

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    You are working with a room full of scantily clad, looking their best women who are there to make money. Of COURSE there's going to be major competition. You can't put that many woman in a room even WITHOUT money and not have any competition So keep your head down and make your money. This job is not about making friends. Many that you think are your friends are really just glorified acquaintances that will readily stab you in the back to get more money. Not saying all, but the majority.

    So just be polite, friendly, and mind your own business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorsicaFire View Post
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    So just be polite, friendly, and mind your own business.
    Thanks. I think this is probably very good advice that I will try to follow!

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    Lot's of strippers are bitches. (Sorry to anyone this offends, but lets be honest girls). Bottom line is a new girl may have a hard time because you can end up the target of whoever is the bad-attitude-bitch of the moment at your club. Just ignore it and be nice to everyone and it will go away eventually.

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    You left because the other dancers were being bitches?
    They got exactly what they wanted from you.

    Whether or not the girls at work are nice, just be polite and professional. Mind your own business. And if you experience any sort of negativity from them, then ignore them. If they see that their shit has no affect on you, then they will stop. They may even learn to respect you.

    If the other girls have a problem with you being there (provided that you are not causing drama), then it is their problem.

    But whatever you do, don't let them get to you. Just do your thing and mind your own business and be polite and all will be fine.
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    They'll be nicer to you as time goes on. I find every club has a clique of the girls who have been there the longest and their friends. Girls that have been there awhile are very un-trusting of new girls. We don't know if you're going to be a drug addict, extras girl, drunk girl, thief, etc. So go back, work hard, mind your own business, and be polite. Eventually, people will be nicer and more accepting of you.

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    When I started I didn't talk to anyone for months ive always kept to myself but im pretty much like that anyways.Youre not there to make friends youre there o make money. When you dont have friends though at a strip club that means youll be out in the floor more than thinking about stripclub drama .Just keep to yourself and be nice, anyone says anything rude ignore them, although sometimes you do need to defend yourself because at some clubs they like to push a newbie to see if they actually stand up for themselves.

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    In my personal experience, the Glamazon clubs are much less bitchy, more goal-oriented. I stick with these as a rule. Only in small clubs did I ever have competition issues like that. Now I just avoid those kinds of clubs because I don't do well in them. I can't dance and hustle very well if I'm stressed out by other girls.

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    [quote=Irelynx;1178797]Where I work, the girls all get along for the most part. We all help new dancers get the basics down & learn the rules; assuming they're either shy/quiet, or asked politely.


    Ha its just the oppisite where i work
    while itry to be nice most girls arnt going tohelp you unless you sincerly ask for it and even then they mightbe bitchy it comeswith the job
    and besides im sure most of us have been fucked over by the new girl intentionly or not i know i have
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