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Thread: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

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    Default Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Desperate for a change of scenery, I shoved my son in his car seat and drove to the mall. But when we arrived, I realized that it was my internal scenery that really needed changing. I walked to the rear of my car and stuck my head in the trunk, pretending to fumble for my diaper bag while I took a quick and furtive toke off my one-hitter. As I unbuckled my son, I felt the furrows already vanishing from my brow.

    We'll see how this works, I thought to myself, feeling a bit guilty about breaking my rule against toasted childcare. But it turned out I could not only manage taking care of my son while I was high; I could excel. As I had nothing in particular I needed to accomplish at the shopping center (except saving my sanity), I decided to let my son lead the way. Rather than taking his hand and dragging him along behind me as I usually do on shopping trips, I let my son decide where we would go, what we would look at and how much time we would spend in each aisle. He delighted in calling my attention to each shiny object, and I delighted in listening to his descriptions. "Look, Mommy! This frog has spots!" "Mommy! Come here! It's a spinny top!" And when he said look, I really, really looked. Earlier, I'd wanted to kill this kid, and now I was hanging on his every word and absorbing his every observation. A few minutes earlier, I saw him as an irritant. Now he was an inspiration.

    more: http://babble.com/content/articles/c...badparent/008/
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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    i think that she deserves to be steralized. "my kid is so awful, my kid irritates me, i dont want to listen to anything that my own child says because it's all so annoying." wow, that just made me really angry.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    all I know is it ain't for me. I'd be too scared something would happen, and I wouldn't be "on point", or even awake to notice.

    I can't even drive stoned (severe paranoia...cabs are cops etc.), so I damn sure wouldn't risk taking care of the rugrats in that state.
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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Wel lwe all say, if you have to be under the influence to do a job, then you shouldn't be doing that job...right? And that's just work! That's not being responsible for someone's elses life!

    If you can't tolerate your own child unless you are high, there is a problem. It's an excuse for needing to get high. So she'll be a bad monny until she get's to hit the bong? Then the lil kiddo gets to grow up with Sober Mean Mom and Fun High Mom?

    That pisses me off.

    It's no different than an alchie parent that can't handle taking care of their kids or being responsible for them unless they get "tipsy".




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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot View Post
    What do you think?
    LOWlights: I'm A Better Stoner Than A Mom

    I quit smoking weed in 1988 on April Fools Day, a good 6 years before my first son was born and 10 years before my second son came along. As a dedicated weed smoker for the 13 years before that, it would be hypocritical of me to judge Bad Parent solely because of her weed smoking.

    What trips me out is that Bad Parent could deal with her child "better" while stoned. IMO, the only job our kids have is to watch their parents and learn every nuance of our behaviors because their ability to manipulate us depends on it!

    Being around my boys stoned--particularly when they were younger--would have been like interacting with two hyperactive, inquisitive, mind-reading extraterrestrials... X

    Awww, hell no! I would have to bolt for cover and hide there until my buzz faded!

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    If nothing else....the fear that somehow, the child got hurt while the parent was high...thoes reprecussions shoudl be enough to scare the parent from being high while takign care of her baby. What if you droppe dhim, or he got hit by a car, or somethign....and the rest of yrou life, you wondered...did it happen because I was just a tad bit more careless because I was high?

    Not to mention the fact that I woudl be scared shitless the child( espicially a toddler) coudl find the weed and ingest it...I'm not a weed smoker, but if I were...I woudl never, ever keep drugs in the house where a baby could get to them.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    I don't see how one quick toke (which is what the op's quote describes) is much different than popping half a xanax.


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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    soo.. thats not ok either ^ you shouldnt have to be on anything to take care of your child. period.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    well... i beg to differ. i love my stepson with all my heart but children can be aggravating, tiresome, and a pain in the ass sometimes. sometimes kids just fry your nerves, no matter how much you love them. that doesn't make you a bad parent. and as far as the weed thing goes, i really have no idea. i never smoke the stuff. but occasionally my friends or my s.o. will smoke a joint. and it never seems to render them incompetent. it just relaxes them. anyway, i don't really know enough about this individual to make a judgement call about her parenting skills. but i can certainly relate to wanting to tear your hair out. children are not always little angels.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    ok, maybe i should rephrase that. look at all the bad things she said about her kid! it sounds like she treats him horribly usually. "usually i just drag him along behind me on shopping trips" and how now, magically, listening to him get excited about the toys is suddenly bearable. thats freaking awful. i know kids arent angels but really...

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Hmm.. I guess I am in the minority here but I really don't see it as that bad. I know a guy who regularly smokes weed when he has weekend custody of his kids (two daughters aged 9 and 11). He is probably one of the best dads I have ever known. He says it's easier to play with them and watch cartoons while a little toked up. I don't know if he smoked weed while they were real young though.

    And yes, children, especially small ones, can be very annoying. Even the best parents have been able to be candid to me about that. I don't think they should be made to feel guilty, it's only human.

    Now his ex-wife was on valium, adderal and scotch when they were still married and a horrible mother. She is better now that she is sober. And all of that is legal stuff.

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    Children can be annoying. Noone ever said parenting is a walk in the park. Deal with it! You choose to have kids, you choose to raise them. You should not need to be high on somethign in order to be able to parent your child.
    It's liek saying you can only work drunk. Bullshit. If you can't do the job sobe, you should do it. Same goes for parenting. ONly parenting carries a much, much higher responsibility. God forbid somethign happened to the child while you were stoned.

    I'm sorry, but there is never a reason to justify drug use. Saying I want to have fun and party once and while is one thign...justifyign it and saying how it makes you a better person..bullshit. If youthink your a betetr person when your high..you really need to reevaluate your life and figure out why your so much better when your altered.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    I doubt it's a matter of needing to "be on something to care for your child." Life can be stressful and oftentimes caring for young children exacerbates that stress. Who the hell knows what else is going on in that woman's life? Furthermore, I don't even know where she lives...she could live somewhere where marijuana is not illegal. So taking one toke off of a one hitter helped ease her stress and allowed her to get down on her child's level and really interact with him. Frankly I'd be more concerned if she needed an alcoholic drink to wind down. And honestly, does one toke really = high?

    At least she took the toke after she arrived at her destination.

    For the record, I don't smoke weed. I'm just expressing my opinion.


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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    She takes one toke and the child slips on the stairs at the mall, falls, hurts himself. Child goes to ER, mom is high....or worse yet, they are in the car and someone hits them and mom has weed in her system... mom runs the risk of losing her child or having CPS involved because of that one toke.

    Yes it's totally hypothetical and an exaggeration...but it's not far fetched at all.

    Kids are annoying, bothersome, tiring and a general pain in the ass. That's part of it. But I cannot abide anyone saying that they pay better attention their kid and can tolerate them when they are stoned. I think that's wrong. It's hard to be a parent, not easy work at all, and when it gets to you, you need to do something to relax and unwind, but I think chosing to do something that could potentially be bad for you and the welfare of your kid is an irresponsible choice.

    I'll admit it, I would love to get stoned some days that my lil guy runs me ragged. It would be heavenly! But the day I found out I was preggers I stopped smoking. Do I think weed is dangerous or a bad drug, not really...but I do think that chosing weed and running the risk of losing your kid or something happening to him/her is bad.




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    Stoners always think they do everything better stoned. I'm getting weary of listening to girls in the dressing room talk about how they drive better when they're stoned, they work better stoned, they sleep better, whatever. It's not true. You're not a better parent or driver or whatever when you're stoned - you're just as bad or worse, you just don't give a shit!

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    ^ yes! when i was doing coke, i used to always say it was so much better than drinking, because i could think straight, drive better, whatever else. but ask me what i just talked about for an hour straight (over whoever my partner in crime was. we talked at each other, not to each other.) and i couldn't tell you because i never remembered anything i did. but i was too messed up to realize that.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Stoners always think they do everything better stoned.
    Exactly.
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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    I think there needs to be more options for this poll. I chose "no big deal," but that's not entirely true either. Both choices are too severe for what I really think.
    Do I think it's totally fine, no big deal? No. Do I think her child needs to be immedietely taken away? Absolutely not.

    After reading the whole article, I feel that this was one imperfect mom on a bad day who was pushed to the limit. I do look down on her for doing this, but I can understand where she's coming from.
    Besides, I think that taking a hit from a pipe is way better than getting so upset she hits her child.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Quote Originally Posted by austinatalie View Post
    Besides, I think that taking a hit from a pipe is way better than getting so upset she hits her child.
    but it shouldnt be between those two!

    sorry, this just has me so worked up. reading the op made me so angry

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    From experiences like the above people said there is not much a person does better when they are stoned. They just think they are doing better. But they look fucked up to everyone else. That is entertaining sometimes.

    I took a sophmore econ exam totally stoned and drunk. I did a fabulous essay for all 4 essay questions and finished the test well ahead of the sober losers that crammed all night.

    I was shocked at my F- I blamed it on the instructor.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    She shouldnt be a parent then. UGH
    Pissed me off.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    You're not a better parent or driver or whatever when you're stoned - you're just as bad or worse, you just don't give a shit!
    Thank you.

    When my sister and I were little (both under 6) we had court ordered visitations with our dad. He had to be high to deal with us, and was quite open about it with his 'friends', my sister, and me. He was high one afternoon when my sister and I went with him to the grocery store. He left us there and didn't realize he had done it until somebody from the store called him at home. His actions that day ended mandatory visitations with him, because he admitted he was high when he left us behind.

    Maybe that experience in my childhood makes me biased, but in my opinion-needing to be high to deal with your kids=bad.

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    I thought it was funny. Some comments here are a little um, persecutorial, I mean I'm cool with disagreeing/saying bad stuff about her, but calling child services, stupid ppl shouldn't breed, you should basically always let yr kid lead the way at the mall...well shoot me but that's just harsh.

    If she was really breaking her rule against toasted childcare (lol) as she said, then taking a hit off a one-hitter once doesn't seem so crazy.

    I'm probably reading more from a fictional perspective anyway, it was written in a blog with a funny writing style, not something I need to take so literally and to heart...

    I think ppl have a much higher tendancy to be drunk around their kids...even if they walk in from a party and the kid's asleep...I mean you'd basically have to swear off drinking for life for that never to happen at least once. Oh and how bout wine with dinner? Seen some ppl act PRETTY STUPID after even one glass.

    Well, the main issues here are Bored Housewife Syndrome and Exposing Young Children To Malls...at the mall...with no purpose, that's an activity best done solo...take yr kid to a museum or the park at least...

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i think that she deserves to be steralized. "my kid is so awful, my kid irritates me, i dont want to listen to anything that my own child says because it's all so annoying." wow, that just made me really angry.

    you don't have children nor have spent alot of time (and i mean continuous time) around any child under the age of 5 years old have you? just an observation.

    I voted no big deal. Why? She was with her son all the way! She never lost sight of him or did anything that was really that irresponsible. She wasn't shouting at him or anything.

    So she needed a smoke .. one smoke.. if it had been a whole bong or the whole toke or all the f-ing time she needed to have just one hit.. then yes.. my opinion would change.

    oh btw.. it makes me wonder if this person 'bred' because she thought she had an obligation to do so due to the way society is set up... ?? and people wonder WHY I don't and won't have any human children ever... *sigh* anyway.. enough of that..

    in the end it is just a good example as to why not everyone should have children. we are not all equipped with the support structure/systems in order to do so in a healthy way.

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    Default Re: Highlights: I'm a Better Mom When I'm Stoned

    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney View Post
    I don't see how one quick toke (which is what the op's quote describes) is much different than popping half a xanax.
    That's what I was thinking.

    I don't have a baby, and would never smoke up while caring for someone else's child, I see where she was coming from.

    I just hope she didn't drive until the effects wore off.


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