As some of you may remember me, I have quite a history of being played by dancers OTC. (e.g. white knight con once, etc.) I’m sort of embaressed to have to ask the question, but I’ve fooled myself before. Am I a boyfriend, friend, or OTC customer?
No sex:
Spending part of nearly ever day (excluding 12-hour shift days) together with my new girl for near three weeks, there is lots of hand holding, kissing, and hugging with an overall feeling of being connected but no sex yet since we are taking it slow. Not having sex makes me insecure in relationships so I’m assuming that it is me paranoid about slowness not her playing me. I’m not always very smooth so she has given excuses to dates or arrangements part of a date with her staying over or us arranging specific “time together” alone that is not natural.
LOTS of time together:
This is a nice girl. She has another full-time job with significant responsibility. She isn't a druggie. I am surprised when we spend so much time together as she is very busy with two jobs and with a lot of friends/family wanting to do stuff so she is choosing me over sometimes 2-3 other potential plans. We often have to and do leave her phone at home so we are not bothered.
Financial:
I take her to nice places and we do fun things so that costs money as any dating would (like $100 a date). I worry that she likes the activities more than me? Girls do that right? I might volunteer or be asked to give her $20 occasionally to help her with something specific which she accepts a little too eagerly. She's never asked me to come to the club, but once I surprised her and showed up when she was sad so give her "a good start" to the evening (and $50 without hopefully screwing up the friendship). The first couple dates the subject of OTC dancing (not sex) was brought up by her, but I made it clear I wasn't going to pay her to see me or save up for her as if she was a prostitute or something. We did the first date anyway after I made it clear I was not going to pay her with anything but happiness.
Outsider or insider:
I’ve met her Mom accidentally, but often she does not refer to me by name when on the phone to others. Soon I will get to know her kids well as we are all spending the day together. I’ve already been introduced (and not accidentally) to her kids as a friend when they came to help carry groceries. I have not been truly introduced to her circle of friends through the neighborhood or her other job, but her two closest (that watch her kids too incidentally) know about me for sure and are nice and even respond to text messages from me if she is obviously sleeping or not there or something. I assume mainly to protect her kids she has not allowed me into her place, but has been at mine for short periods of time.
So am I a boyfriend, friend, or OTC customer?
Your fan,
Smith



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Thanks all for all the input from both the guys and the gals. Seems mostly input from guys so any more gals want to give their input? Thanks in advance.

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