So, what do you do when are approached by a homeless person? Do you give them change if you have any, ignore them, tell them no or lecture them?
So, what do you do when are approached by a homeless person? Do you give them change if you have any, ignore them, tell them no or lecture them?
I just ignore them. I wouldn't want them to pull out my wallet and mug me. Also a lot of them lie, some of them are not even homeless, they are just professional panhandlers. Panhandlers can make a LOT of money on a busy street. Also my dad is a Vietnam vet, there is this guy with a cane who has a sign asking for help since he is supposedly a disabled veteran. My dad had a talk with this guy and figured out there is no way that he served in Nam.
In my town there are soooo many homeless people. I don't like giving out money b/c they might use it for drugs or beer. I also heard a story about this guy that I use to work with at this airline. He would stand on the streets posing as a homeless guy and one of my co-workers recognized him! So what I do is when I go to the dollor store to by my baby wipes I pick up about $20 in food and pass it out when they walk up to my car at the stop light.
If they approach my car, I ignore them. If someone approaches me in a parking lot, I tell them "Do not come up to a woman alone in parking lot, I will tazer your butt"
I have been scammed by two "homeless" people, enough for me to be very skeptical. Which sucks, because I am sure there are some legitimately down on their luck people out there....





I'll donate money or things to local organizations designed to help the homeless, but I'm not just handing money to any random person that holds a sign and stands in the middle of an intersection (or approaches me in a parking lot or other random place...that freaks me out and pisses me off!).
They've actually banned that (standing at the intersections) in a couple places around here a while back.




When I see them I get depressed, if i'm alone I won't give them any money, i'm nice. When I worked at The Men's Club in Charlotte, across he street there was this guy in a wheel chair missing a leg and he was always there, I felt so bad for him. He must have died or something because he would be there everyday and when I went back and visited I didn't see him there. So either he died, "moved" or something.
If someone says that they are hungry, I have no problem buying them food, but a lot of times they aren't, they want alcohol or drugs. Me and my ex went to Wendy's one day and there was this young decent looking guy out there, he asked us if we could buy him a burger, of course we said yes, he was just starving, poor guy. This kind of stuff depresses me![]()
We had a break dancing homeless man in my area recently. People would pull up, give him some cash and crank their car stereo so he could dance to the music.
He's moved on to the Saturday Market and Farmer's market as a street performer.
Aside from something like that, I don't usually give away money. I donate to places designed to help the poor and homeless, like Habitat for Humanity.
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It depends on if I'm in a hurry, where I am, and what they're doing. There are ALOT of professional panhandlers around here, and I refuse to give money to any of them. There is a park that a lot of homeless sleep in and hang out in, so if I'm around there, I'll buy a sandwich, some burgers, whatever and give them food. I have given out money a couple of times, but not often.
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I'm so glad that when I was homeless, people didn't always assume I was a scam artist or a liar. Whew.
Now? I offer to buy them food or supplies if that's what they're seeking out. I try to never ignore them.
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I give money to the people standing at stoplights during the daytime. Not all of them, but when I'm carrying a shitload of cash that I made in six hours I feel guilty and giving someone five bucks makes me feel better about that.![]()
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Depends. Here..usually not. I"m not rolling my window down for a stranger on the street..too much of a chance of getting carjacked.
However..in Key West, I will from time to time. I've actually known a few and they are cool people. Some have addictions, some are mentally ill. If they use my money to buy alcohol or drugs...not really my problem. I mean..guys cold say the same thign about us.."I'm not tipping that stripper..she'll just use it to buy drugs". The ones who are addicted ...it isnt likely they are going to ever clean up. If thats what makes them happy in the little time they have left...have a damn drink.
The guys in KW though are entertaining..a few are street performers...many hold up signs "Dirty jokes told for $1" or my personal fav "I'm not going to lie..I just want a beer". I've bought that guy a beer before too.....
They arent hurting anyone(these guys at least)...and with all the money thats been handed to me in my life...I'm not going to begruge $1 here and there.
Yeah, I mean, I buy drugs and alcohol sometimes, but I wouldn't want people to stop giving me money because of that.
Also, I'm pretty sure I bought that guy a beer when I was in Key West, lol.
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It depends. On occasion I donate money. The problem is that there is simply is too many to give money to everyone without exhausting my own funds, and I'm not that good/giving of a person to put my interests entirely aside for hundreds and thousands of others in poverty. I do try not to judge them though. I don't believe the world or nature is a particularly kind place, and I don't know for any individual to what degree they ended up that way because of their choices vs luck of the draw. It's enough for me to know that 1.) I'm thankful I'm not poor, and 2.) If I was, I know I'd sure appreciate some occasional generosity.





I give them any food I happen to have on me. They can't use that to buy drugs or scam me very well, can they, really?
Once a man cried when I gave him a box of cookies.That's how you know they're really homeless.
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Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
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^ SAME here. If someone would have fucking lectured my ass...yep I would have fucked em' up.
There are scam artists, but most are people that either made a poor choice, or have mental issues that arent' being addressed because the shelters and clinics are full.
And for anyone that's been homeless can tell you, the shelters are almost worse than the streets sometimes. They are ran by jesus freaks and your shit gets stolen by other people, a lot of women end up raped and the list goes on.
Sure it happens on the streets but I promise you it's more relevant in the shelters. At least that's by my experience and I was homeless for years.
I have a few that are on my block that during winter I take care of if I see them out. Hot cocoa , blankets I no longer use ( or that were gifts at xmas ) tons of my clothes I no longer have a need for and toiltery items.
I never give money. I'll buy someone something without hesitation but I will not fork over funds ...unless ( and be a critic all you want. ) I see they are physically sick with something more than a cold. AKA dope sick. I can't handle seeing someone out there damn near death and dying of dope sick. I'll give up 5 bucks so maybe they can tolerate another day alive and possibly head to a methadone clinic.
May not make sense to many. But having been there youd get it.
Thats exactly the point!! Should guys stop tipping me because I bought a bottle of Jack Daniels with some of their money?? What business is it of theirs what it is used for?
And everyone buys that guy a beer!lol! He does pretty well!! How can you not?? At least he is being honest![]()



im some what of an alcoholic and i almost always have beer or wine laying around in my car,i dont have a problem giving some of it to the homeless.
come on theyre homeless and thats hard they deserve a beer every now and then
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The ones in my town are known for being at very least rude, if not violent. And I really hate being approached at stop lights or outside the Wawa-I just feel cornered and want to get away.
But if they are hanging out on the street, not verbally harassing me, I do tend to give them something-money or coffee or something. We've all been stuck at some point.





If I have some food on me, I'll sometimes give it to them. I never give money. On the trains, I'll give money for entertainement.
In NYC I see the same homeless people walking through the trains telling the same lame stories how their home JUST burned down, etc. Those REGULAR homeless people tend to get $$ from tourists. NYers already know the story and hear it every other week.
^ Yep fucking the train riders are the WORST and all are scam artists.





I am proud to say that I was never a train rider (in the homeless sense). Ever. Though I remember seeing more Asian Women Selling Light Up Toys than anything else last time I was on one....
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when i worked at hooters in downtown baltimore, i never gave the homeless men i saw money. instead, i gave them leftover food. one time these guys ordered 50 wings and ate maybe 20, didnt even touch the others. why throw that away? my managers used to get mad at me because they said they would keep coming back, but uh, they were there anyway, before i started working there and im sure long after.





Every time I meet my caseworker for my monthly check in, I take cheeseburgers with me. There are a ton of homeless people there either getting meds or collecting their SSI, and they are always hungry, so what's $20?
Sad story about a homeless guy:
I was doing my monthly check in and there was a guy that was going to be taken to the hospital for whatever reason. He didn't give a shit what they did to him or where they took him, but he would not leave until he found somebody to take care of his dog while he was in treatment. He cried and cried, and finally somebody that he knew on the streets told him he would take care of the dog while he was gone. The man that had to leave his dog had his dog back with him the next time I saw him. It was sad because he truly was homeless for multiple reasons and the only thing he cared about was making sure his dog ate and had somewhere to sleep. He said it was the only thing in the world that he could count on.
Yeah, I'm a total wuss about homeless people, but they have to actually be homeless for me to give them something.
eek! This made me feel like an ass. I should say, the guys that come up and knock on my car window, I don't roll down the window, it's just not safe!
And the guys that walk up to me when I am alone in the parking lot, loading groceries into my car...I don't think that's safe either!
Buuuuut.....there was a time when I was at a gas station, and a woman walked up to me, with a scratch on her face and barefoot. She told me her husband had just beaten her up, and kicked her out of thier car while taking her to work, her shoes and purse were in the car. Could I please give her some money so she could walk to Wal-Mart and buy some cheap shoes and get to work. She was crying etc... so yah, I gave her the $10 I had on me and off she went with lots of thanks and even a hug.
About a month later, the same woman came up to me at the store, same story....
I have bought a man lunch who was standing outside a Taco bell, they wouldn't let him in to get a drink of water because he had a little dog with him, and he didn't want the dog to run into the street, so he stood there...
I carry bottles of water with me in the car always and have handed them out to people on several occasions...
We give ALL of our clothes that we don't wear anymore along with blankets and shoes to organizations here...
I certainly don't want to seem cold and heartless, but I'm really not comfortable with people walking up to me asking me for money. Not anymore...it's too scary.
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