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    My friend of seven years just found out she is seven weeks along. We have danced together for about six years or so. I have a four year old son. She is not with the father and dabbles heavy in everything ( drugs, ect) She asked me what I think she should do but I told her to do what she think is best for her. She is 25 and I doesn't have anything to show for all those years of dancing. On top of all that she has made lots of money over the years but has no car, apartment, never even had a real job. Any advice.

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    Default Re: Should my home girl keep this baby?

    I wouldn't recommend it, honestly. If she does choose to have it I would highly recommend her putting it up for adoption. I mean what is the likelyhood that she is going to change her life around before that baby is born or before damage is done to him/her as a result of her lifestyle? Whatever choice she does make I would try very hard to convince her to go to planned parenthood and get on some form of long-term birth control after the fact on top of obviously using condoms.

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    Only she can decide what is the correct choice for her. Just be there and be a good friend and support whatever decision she makes.


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    Default Re: Should my home girl keep this baby?

    This is what abortion was meant for.

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    Does your friend have a brain? If so she should try using it.

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    Yes..this is HER choice and only her choice. But if shes done drugs while pregnant...what kind of life is she setting up for this child? She may be bringing another life into the world only to have a lifetime of disabilities and handicaps from being born addicted to drugs.

    So IMO...no she shouldnt have it. But it isnt my decision to make.

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    Default Re: Should my home girl keep this baby?

    Heres my biggest problem overall, with allot of people, not just your friend, if you do not think you could support the child, physically, emotionally, socio-economically, then I do not think it is fair to bring a child into that situation.

    Also, in general again, it seems like allot of these mothers in this siutation think that all they are going to do it "play house", and not realize that they have the responcilbility for another human being.

    sorry for the mini-rant, this is just one of my biggest pet-peeves.

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    Default Re: Should my home girl keep this baby?

    Why are you asking for advice again?

    She does drugs, isn't with the dad and has no car or apartment and you want to know if she should have a kid or not?

    Am I missing something here?



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    Well..if she cannot take care of herself...then no, she shouldent bring a baby into the situation. Just my op.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Leilani101 View Post
    On top of all that she has made lots of money over the years but has no car, apartment, never even had a real job. Any advice.

    honey, this is a real job.

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    What are you going to tell her? That all these people on stripperweb.com said she should get an abortion so she should do it?

    Personally, I'd get one...
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    God we have an invasion of trolls with baby issues.

    seriously.

    Extra girls...

    Now this one ..

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    ..wait she should call

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    ^ LOL!

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    It's not fair. Why do stupid people get knocked up, and they are the ones who go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancy's and perfectly healthy babies.

    It's not fair.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    It's not fair. Why do stupid people get knocked up, and they are the ones who go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancy's and perfectly healthy babies.

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    that doesn't always happen! have you seen these kids in grade school?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    honey, this is a real job.
    THAT'S what you got out of that post?! Hahahah


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    Normally I don't recommend this, but she really should have an abortion. If she is messing around with drugs the baby is going to be all messed up. She can't take care of herself or even a normal baby let alone a messed up one. And it will be harder to adopt a messed up baby. If she tries to keep the baby she is just going to mess it up more than it already is and have child protective services take the kid away.

    Also she needs to get on some serious birth control after her abortion. She doesn't sound responsible enough to take the birth control pill every day and since she has never had any kids she can't get her tubes tied. But she can get an IUD, Implanon, or Depo-provera. Also she should use condoms, there is too much crap going around that can kill. And all of that is cheaper than an abortion or especially raising the child.
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    I can't speak for others but my own experiance well yes. I met my husband 3 mo later was pregnant, lost my job, my apt, my car, had no one, was homeless, my now husbands family wanted me to give the baby up for adoption and I had no clue what to do. I one day sat and spoke to my self and to my belly and said "I can't give anything baby. I don't have an education, I don't have a home, a job absolutely nothing but I know you are my child, pleaseGod (and I don't even pray) give me a sign that I am going to do the right thing" and then I felt the baby move and said "that is it, I will bust my ass for you sweety" my son is now 5 years old, I married my husband, we have another son and my oldest is the baby of the family.


    I fought for my child, I worked like a dog and I put up with shit you won't believe but I don't regret it one bit. It can be done, it can, it's hard but it can be done but I can't speak for any other person. I wish your friend the best in what she chooses to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by High_Heel_Lover View Post
    I can't speak for others but my own experiance well yes. I met my husband 3 mo later was pregnant, lost my job, my apt, my car, had no one, was homeless, my now husbands family wanted me to give the baby up for adoption and I had no clue what to do. I one day sat and spoke to my self and to my belly and said "I can't give anything baby. I don't have an education, I don't have a home, a job absolutely nothing but I know you are my child, pleaseGod (and I don't even pray) give me a sign that I am going to do the right thing" and then I felt the baby move and said "that is it, I will bust my ass for you sweety" my son is now 5 years old, I married my husband, we have another son and my oldest is the baby of the family.


    I fought for my child, I worked like a dog and I put up with shit you won't believe but I don't regret it one bit. It can be done, it can, it's hard but it can be done but I can't speak for any other person. I wish your friend the best in what she chooses to do.
    But you were not on drugs. Having a kid in less than an ideal situation is one thing if you are sober and can think clearly. Having a chemical addiction is another, IMHO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alia_of_the_Knife View Post
    But you were not on drugs. Having a kid in less than an ideal situation is one thing if you are sober and can think clearly. Having a chemical addiction is another, IMHO.
    That is true, but I was just explaining that at times when things aren't ideal to have a child it can stil lbe done. She could get help, the help she needs. It is not impossible. Just hard.

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    I don't think it would be fair for her to have the baby. She would just be bringing the child into a bad situation. If she really didnt want to have an abortion there is adoption...but thats only an option if she plans on getting off drugs while she is pregnant.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    that doesn't always happen! have you seen these kids in grade school?
    The sad thing is these folks usually don't give the child the attention and affection they need. I agree that this is what abortion is for,
    obviously if she wanted to really keep the child she'd start to clean up her life.
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    Horrible. If it were me, I'd get an abortion. No fucking way would I do that to a child... its not fair.

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    She should abort and then go get surgically sterilized. Both at the same time, if possible.
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