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    Im still a new dancer so a lil awkward with appraoching the men. I smile and walk up to them if they smile back and then introduce myself. Will it make my chances of selling any better if I sit is his lap if he keeps talking to me? What is the best physical move since it seems like Im the one who has to make the first moves?? Lap sitting? Sit in empty chair next to him? Put my arm around him? Hold his arm hand? Lean on his shoulder? I feel like it looks so forced and then they dont want to get started! Help!

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    Me personally, I don't sit on laps. That's to close of contact for me to give for FREE! I have had guys try to ask me to sit in their laps..I just smile and tell them what I said above.

    I've noticed the men who want the most for his buck will prefer you sit on his lap.

    When I talk to a man, I sit facing him. Or angle my body so that I can rub his arm/hand and we can continue to make lots of eyecontact.







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    I will sit where ever he gestures, lap or next seat. Either way I'm going to ask for a dance on the next song, so he's not getting much for free. I kinda like a lap guy, he tends to be ready for action and to get some dances right away. The guy who gestures at the next seat is more likely to want to talk and "get to know eachother." Bleah. I work on the busy nights so I prefer wannadance wam-bam lap guys to lets chat guys.

    However, if I worked when it was less busy, or if my club had a VIP hustle, I'd be more inclined to attend to the next seat guys who could be a big payoff down the road.

    Either way, you do want to touch the customer. You want to be flirty and sexual, never standoffish or uptight. Touch his arm or thigh casually during conversation, and do it often!

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    i will either sit in a lap or on the side of his chair, so he has a clear view of le cleavage. we're not talking about an extended lap-sit, no no, we're talking about the, *plop down* "hi, im chrissy," and after a few minutes (like, 2 TOPS) i ask to go have fun. if he SEEMS like he will spend, i give him another 3. total, 5 minutes of my time. i'll then ask again. "we're getting along so well here, let's keep it going more intimately." if he turns me down, i leave. but, ill ask if he'd like me to come back. if he doesn't emphatically say YES i dont return. but usually, lap sitting= contact and contact= closing sales for me.

    lap sitting no -no's: never ever ever get off the stage and get dressed in his lap. or even worse (we've all seen this one) sit in his lap for without clothes on. THAT is giving it away for free. never sit in a lap for more than 5 minutes. that's also giving it away for free. and imo, most importantly, if he tries to grab your ass or is overtly touchy, you KNOW he is looking to get it for free, and peace out!

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    Default Re: Sitting In His Lap?

    IMHO, sitting in a guy's lap is not going to guarantee you success. Two more important things to do would be to establish eye contact and to get a little conversation going before jumping in with "WANNA DANCE???" Making the invitation without laying the proper groundwork is a no-no.

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    first off, we can't sit on laps at my club, it has to be a "leg". that said, some girls do it all the time, but i generally do not.

    the only time i do it is to upsell to an already paying customer. once i've built a rapport with the customer, made a bit of money, etc... i'll do it when i come back from stage or the bathroom.

    IMO that way is less obvious as a sales tactic -and- the guy isn't getting it "for free". it feels more "genuine" to do it after you've "gotten to know eachother".

    a lot of guys don't like that "plopping down in his lap" stuff. i've heard it from PLENTY of high spending customers..... usually after they've turned down a girl who did it.

    however, it works for some girls. i'm not saying it doesn't or that i think it's a poor dancer tactic. i'm just saying -i- don't prefer to do it for those reasons i stated.

    the exception is, if there's a large group and 3 girls are already over there sitting on legs, of course i'm gonna go take one of the "free guys" legs. i'm not gonna be the one girl in a crowd who isn't doing it, because -then- it can look "unfriendly".

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    i only sit on laps if it's a high spending regular.

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    we are not allowed to sit in laps thankfully because I agree with cinnamon kisses that is giving away shit for free that he should be paying for.
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    Default Re: Sitting In His Lap?

    I will not sit in a lap unless directly asked to, and if that's the case he has about 30 seconds to buy a dance or I leave!

    A good compromise is the arm of a chair: you're still sitting on his chair, but having only minimal contact. Of course this only works with big plush armchairs




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