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    Default Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    ...I have not worked since March. I worked in NYC then, and now need to go back to work. This time I'm in ABQ.

    The problem is, I feel like I will get rejected for being fat. (In the eyes of hiring mgrs.) Hahahaha! I know you are not supposed to solicit advice on here such as "Am I Too Fat Too Strip???" But god damn it, sometimes I really need to know the answer...just go in and face rejection? Or wait that xtra 2-3 months?

    I've been going back and forth on this forever, and have not been to the gym in the meantime.

    WHY? What is the reason? I'd like to know myself.

    Please share weight horror stories and how you got motivated to go back to the gym, and lmk if you really want to see pics.

    Previously I was toned and fit, gym 4-6 days a week for a year. I'm not saying I'm officially a "fat chick" but I'm 5'4" and last time I weighed myself I was 131. I'm refusing to look now. I'm an hourglass shape that tends to be really thick in the thighs, hips, and not have a flat stomach. (Love my body shape--just have too much fat and untonedness on it now to dance. Or do I?)
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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    I've danced @ that size before..I think having toned skin makes a big difference. Start taking supplements, like the ones in the cellulite thread.
    You'll get the look you want fast but, don't wait to get it before returning to work.

    Also, I buy work out gear to motivate myself. Every 7 days, I get a new something.
    Today, I did a double Bikram class and purchased 2 shirts to reward myself.
    I felt/feel on top of the world. Partly from the work out but, more for staying dedicated to myself & accomplishing my goal..Even after the teacher kept telling not to take another class, he gave me more props after I was done !
    I love proving people wrong..You can't let anyone nor anything, even yourself, keep you from your goals !

    Good luck you can go it !
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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    I wish women with perfectly healthy and normal and beautiful weight ranges didn't call themselves fat. It's contagious and makes those of higher weights feel bad, plus they are not fat to start with.

    I'm 5'1" and 56kg at my LOWEST (3 weeks of dieting for that!) and that's 120~ lbs. I was 64kg and still doing shows - and that's 135~lbs. I wasn't fat. I just went on a diet because I -THOUGHT- I was fat because of all the girls here thinking they're fat at such low weights.

    It's depressing. You're beautiful. Love yourself. Dance. Have fun. Fuck everyone else's opinions. Live.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    I wish women with perfectly healthy and normal and beautiful weight ranges didn't call themselves fat. It's contagious and makes those of higher weights feel bad, plus they are not fat to start with.


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    Yea I agree with that. All of the time, sorry if my post came out as "typical." I'm happy enough with myself @ the current weight, altho there IS a certain 'standard' for dancing. That is all. And I felt much better last year when I was fit, and really can't figure out what my problem is. But yea I agree with you and have seen way worse examples of girls complaining and whining about "FAT." I don't think I'm fat, just like...too....not fit to strip. I need to go to the gym. Honestly, what I really feel like hearing is kind of self-deprecating, like "WHAT IS YR PROBLEM, BITCH. GO TO THE GYM. NO ONE WANTS YOU."

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    I'm not saying about you or 'typical'. I understand that depressed 'I'm feeling fat' feeling... but... you're not. And it seems that people think twiggier and twiggier people are the 'standard'.

    If you're that annoyed, diet and work out.. but please don't think you're fat. Just think... you're above how you'd like to be. That's all.


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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    I am 2 inches taller than you, so bear that in mind. But I weigh almost 20 pounds more than you and I feel happy how I am. I also make MORE money now than I did at 120 pounds. Weight isn't the be all end all of stripping, especially if you're not overweight to begin with.

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    Fat's regional. What's fat in NYC is gonna be different from ABQ... so go check it out. The worst thing they'll do is call you fat, which you already know you're not.



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    And it seems like different clubs are more accepting of different body shapes. I love my weight, but I would be plagued by insecurities if I worked at a club full of stick-shaped women. There's just one club like that in my city, but for that reason, I wouldn't work there. If you want, start out at a more accepting club and then move on as you continue your weight loss. I understand what you mean, though, as a dancer your body is your product, and you want it to look its best.

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    Well, if you're in ABQ just walk into a club and start right now. There are all shapes and sizes there, seriously, you'll see.

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    You weigh less than me, and I'm shorter than you. I made pretty decent money at TD's in Albuquerque.

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    how much do you want to lose? im about your size and want to lose 10-15 pounds. think about how easy that would be! in a month you can lose almost 10 pounds if you try. look at the other girls who have lost more than you or i want to. look up paige's thread about her weight loss. other girls have made pic posts with weight loss, too. do a search. thats how i motivate myself, at least. if all these other people can do it, why the hell can't i? and ive worked out at LEAST a little bit every day. even if i dont have time for cardio or a long session, i do crunches and squats.

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    I wish women with perfectly healthy and normal and beautiful weight ranges didn't call themselves fat. It's contagious and makes those of higher weights feel bad, plus they are not fat to start with.

    I'm 5'1" and 56kg at my LOWEST (3 weeks of dieting for that!) and that's 120~ lbs. I was 64kg and still doing shows - and that's 135~lbs. I wasn't fat. I just went on a diet because I -THOUGHT- I was fat because of all the girls here thinking they're fat at such low weights.

    It's depressing. You're beautiful. Love yourself. Dance. Have fun. Fuck everyone else's opinions. Live.
    Yes, but you tend to look thinner than your BMI would suggest, perhaps you have a low body fat percentage due to lots of muscle and heavy bones. Personally, I was told I was too fat to dance at any weight in the 60s and even at one place at 54kg- and that's at 5'3. My tendency is not to build muscle easily, my frame is medium but my bone density is below average and subsequently a fairly decent chunk of my weight tends to be body fat. Hence, I just don't look as good as I could at a weight much above the very early fifties (say 51-52kg at most), and I probably look my best a little (but not drastically) below that.

    Whether or not you look good at a particular range of weights depends entirely on your body composition and frame, is what I'm saying. Just knowing the bare numbers doesn't tell you enough- you need to know how much of that weight is fat, which a photo can often help you gauge roughly.

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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    NY NJ metro is pretty tough about weight. And they can be mean. I've been there, done that.

    My best advice is to use a self tanner before your audition, this will disguise any trouble spots. Also check out the dancers first, if you notice they are insanely thin, or all have a certain look, this may not be a great place to audition.

    The pool of dancers is so large in this area that many managers can and do indulge their particular preferences when it comes to hiring. Melonie gave me some great insight on this when I was really devasated by a managers comments 4 or 5 years ago. Just keep in mind that you are beautiful during audtions, confidence always helps.

    Best of Luck!
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    Get Your Butt To The Gym!!!!
    You're A Lazy Lazy Stripper!!
    If You Don't Get Your Ass Up And Start Working Out- You Will End Up Fat!!
    Sooner Than Later You're Skin Will Be Jiggly In An Icky Way!!
    Get Out To That Gym! Get Outside And Go For A Run! Get To The Park And Play Ball! Get Moving! What Are You Doing On Sw Reading This?? I Don't Care That It's Your Own Thread- Get Up From Your Computer And Get Movin!!!!!!

    (lol^^^ maybe I should become a dom again You know I love you girl, but you LITERALLY asked for all that- if you didn't, I wouldn't ahve typed it! and call me! we haven't talked in a while!)
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    K! I'M GOING NOW! ^^^thanx!

    Thanks everyone. I been such a PL it's embarrasing. I'll say how it went.

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    Good luck getting back into the game!

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    Here is my story: I was once 229 had a heart attack and got made fun of by KIDS, MEN, WOMEN, SENIOR CITZENS you name it they were RUDE, MEAN, AND CRUEL! I would eat in my room with the door closed and NEVER EVER stepped into the gym. I lived on THE COMPUTER it was my one outlet where I was judged or called names because they didn't see me eat Jack In the Box, down that milkshake and eat that cupcake. I got to step out of my horriable life even if it was fake and got to be someone I ALWAYS wanted to be...

    Until, in my early 20 I had my first heart attack and that was all that I needed to motivate me to get up and start LOVING MYSELF. So I cleaned out all my cupboards and then I went and took my laptop and put it on the highest shelf in my closet and said it will stay there for 1 solid month to reconnect with myself. I joined an ALL WOMEN GYM first and then went to a 24 hour fitness gym. I went on Jenny Criag and did that for a few months and then I was soo into myself that I loved living life I went down to 128 and I have to say its been the best gift I could have ever gave myself. I don't have to live a life that I'm ashamed to be ME!Trust me its hard no doubt but EVERYTHING THAT'S WORTH HAVING IS HARD. Just think of it as this IF GETTING IN SHAPE WAS SOOO EASY EVERYBODY WOULD BE DOING IT RIGHT? You keep it up and know that the sooner you get up and start moving and eating right the closer you are to your goal of working on stage carefree!
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    Default Re: Never thought I'd get to the level of "needing motivation" for the gym...

    The bigger girls make all the money at my club. They also seem more confident than the skinny girls, which could also be why.

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    I can't believe anyone thinks 130 lbs. at 5'4 is fat or even "bigger"! That's the size I've been for most of my life and I've had zero problems getting hired at clubs. Right now I weigh about 122, but that's only because I have been stressed lately. Men have always loved my curvy body, and not one customer has ever called me fat.

    I think you need to give yourself a break. Once you start back dancing you will probably lose a few pounds just from that, and you will also tone up if that is what is needed. Please don't think you are fat for weighing 130 lbs. It really is depressing to me that you feel this way about yourself.
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    Well, I thought I clarified it pretty well that I'm not going "I'm fat!!waaaa!" maybe it would have been better not to use the word at all in the op...anywayz. well yea working out is a huge part of it obviously, in looking better. is there a difference between 'bigger' and 'thick'? i dunno. i'm definitely thick, but that's alright i don't want to be ne other way...just back to working out a lot, and losing some weight wouldn't hurt. i'm fine, tho of course there are standards in the club obviously. well not all...but you know what i mean.

    thanx for the support ladies!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    Fat's regional. What's fat in NYC is gonna be different from ABQ... so go check it out. The worst thing they'll do is call you fat, which you already know you're not.
    You're right, Lena. I work in the 'valley' in LA. I have been called skinny and have been asked where to get 'crystal', 'criz' and other assorted meth slang for the drug.

    However, I live in Santa Monica and when I'm shopping I feel normal or on the bigger side of normal. I'm 5'2" and wiegh around 110.

    It's all about where you are working.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gymgirlygal24 View Post
    Here is my story: I was once 229 had a heart attack and got made fun of by KIDS, MEN, WOMEN, SENIOR CITZENS you name it they were RUDE, MEAN, AND CRUEL! I would eat in my room with the door closed and NEVER EVER stepped into the gym. I lived on THE COMPUTER it was my one outlet where I was judged or called names because they didn't see me eat Jack In the Box, down that milkshake and eat that cupcake. I got to step out of my horriable life even if it was fake and got to be someone I ALWAYS wanted to be...

    Until, in my early 20 I had my first heart attack and that was all that I needed to motivate me to get up and start LOVING MYSELF. So I cleaned out all my cupboards and then I went and took my laptop and put it on the highest shelf in my closet and said it will stay there for 1 solid month to reconnect with myself. I joined an ALL WOMEN GYM first and then went to a 24 hour fitness gym. I went on Jenny Criag and did that for a few months and then I was soo into myself that I loved living life I went down to 128 and I have to say its been the best gift I could have ever gave myself. I don't have to live a life that I'm ashamed to be ME!Trust me its hard no doubt but EVERYTHING THAT'S WORTH HAVING IS HARD. Just think of it as this IF GETTING IN SHAPE WAS SOOO EASY EVERYBODY WOULD BE DOING IT RIGHT? You keep it up and know that the sooner you get up and start moving and eating right the closer you are to your goal of working on stage carefree!
    I am so happy to hear the end of your story. A heart attack in your early 20's??

    You should go on the circuit giving lectures for medical centers and gyms!
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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